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Cheating?

If you have a gut feeling that someone has cheated or considering cheating withouth proof, what do you do?? Do you just ask them outright... or is it just a case of paranoia?

*used to chat a lot of MSN becomes quiet.
*suddenly has been texting a girl (who I don't know) quite a lot (while I was away).
*wouldn't cancel a voluntary attendence dinner to see me at the weekend (having not seen me for a month), but then cancelled it when a moving house date was finalised for the monday after that weekend 'so they could come home and pick up their stuff'.
*Bought your birthday present a few weeks early and given it to you?

Any thoughts appreciated. I know TSR isn't the answer to everything in life...but hey! It's somewhere to empty your mind to an open audience! xx

Reply 1

PinkSoda

You should definately ask them what's going on. If you're in a relationship with someone you deserve honesty and to be treated better! Just maybe bring it up normally and ask them about it. Keep calm and try not to let it blow up into an arguement. Even if things do end in tears...it's better than carrying on with your relationship with your partner cheating on you.

Reply 2

Leigh

I don't think the MSN thing holds much water.
The dinner... maybe he genuinely did, tellh im he has to make up for it by taking you to dinner another time instead.
Maybe he gave you the birthday present early because he wasn't sure if he'd see you again before your birthday, it doesn't sound like you get to see each other too often?

The texting point... ask him about the girl, catch him off guard and see what he says.

The best way to go about it really would be to just confront him about it. Don't go all out and accuse him, just tell him you have a feeling and you just want to clear it up. It isn't fun, but either he tells you he is, and you don't have to put up with it any longer, or he says he isn't, and as long as you were tactful in the way you brought it up, talk it out and be done with it.