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Is It Ever Ok To Lie In A Relationship

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Reply 1

Yellowmarshmellow

Depends what you're lying about. IMO if it's a white lie and doesn't hurt anyone then it's fine.

Reply 2

IndianDiva

There's just no need for lies.

Reply 3

bunthulhu

Unless it's something really, really innocent like 'of course I didn't spend too much on your birthday present', then no, lying is not okay.

Reply 4

Trexx

Nisherz187

There's just no need for lies.

Especially in a relationship.

Reply 5

Pendulum

Trexx

Especially in a relationship.

100000% NOT true, for example:

"Does my bum look big in this?"

I dare you not to lie, but really anything other than that kind of thing, lying = bad.

Reply 6

Trexx

lol,
Well you can try it out and see how she takes it then note the behaviour.
Or say it in a way that makes it look like your joking but your really not. Still telling the truth right?

"I like big butts and I can not lie"
Sorry, temptation got over me.

Reply 7

singh1987

It is never acceptable to lie in a relationship. im going to make this simple, if you are going to lie in a relationship, you might aswell end it!!!

Reply 8

saasmi

it is okhay to lie ..like the examples given above. ONLY when it won't hurt the other person
And the person lying knows well whether it will affect the other or not.

Saying that you should never lie is hypothetical. Everyone Lies.

Reply 9

Enchanté

I wouldn't say it's good in a relationship depends what you're lying about and if the person could get hurt by finding out.

Reply 10

xxsarahjwxx

Sometimes little lies have to be done...like "no i haven't booked a surprise for val day/ur bday/xmas etc" and "its not that im not in the mood, im just really tired..." but big things just no, never, not under any circumstance.

Reply 11

Meep!

There's a difference between white lies and proper lies. White lies are fine, such as pretending that there really isn't a surprise party planned for your other half. Real lies are not.

Reply 12

prettyblueeyes

Little white lies such as those mentioned above are fine, I'm sure they slip in in loads of situations in life and don't do any harm, they're more fibs than lies. Proper lies over something big, or when they're trying to hide something damaging have no place in an honest and loving relationship.

Reply 13

khil

Pendulum

100000% NOT true, for example:

"Does my bum look big in this?"

I dare you not to lie, but really anything other than that kind of thing, lying = bad.

My bf has never lied to me about my weight or whether I look good in certain things, whether I should lose weight etc. Doesn't bother me - I prefer the truth. What's the point in lying? Sure you can lie to a girl about her dress sense etc, but would you prefer her to look like a fool and have everyone laugh at her behind her back, or would you prefer to offend her for one moment, coming from someone who actually cares and avoid the embarrassment and humiliation she would feel of having the world laugh at her?

It's all about being realistic.

And no, lying is never right. Like, it would've been easier on my bf if I lied to him about this housing thing that's a bit of a problem atm, but I choose not to. I don't wanna pretend or hide anything - he can do what he wants but he's gonna get the truth of how I feel. What's the point of a relationship if you can't be honest with each other?

And as for an expensive present - the truth may not necessarily be unromantic. How about something on the lines of "I wanted to buy this for you" :biggrin:

or "Money doesn't matter. What matters is it makes you happy." or very simply, upon the girl saying - but it's so expensive - respond, "I wanted to."

Assuming the guy actually wanted to - see, no need to lie at all :biggrin:

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

YES! what, are you going to tell your spotty partner that they are ugly?

Reply 15

CharleeB

It isn't really ok but everyone does it. Especially at the begining of a relationship. Even if it isn't an explicit people do misrepresent themselves (girls wear make up and padded bras, guys pretend they didn't want to kill themselves when they were watching some ridiculous romcom). If you're in a serious relationship or are telling big lies then it's a bigger problem though - trust issues are the death of relationships.

Reply 16

bunthulhu

Anonymous

YES! what, are you going to tell your spotty partner that they are ugly?

Captain Obvious to the rescue, if you don't find them attractive you shouldn't be with them.

Reply 17

Sephrenia

bunthulhu

Captain Obvious to the rescue, if you don't find them attractive you shouldn't be with them.

I can't resist an 8 simple rules quote:
'What, you mean ugly people can't fall in love?'
'No, thats company.'

Reply 18

shewantstobeme

if you can't be honest to someone it's not going to last. you need honesty to build a relationship, otherwise the people in it don't know what the real situation is.