Girls "over analyzing" guys actions

I was browsing through another forum when I came upon a thread of girls talking about how they have been led on in the past and how they think it's because females "read into" and "over analyze" guys actions. That made me think. If girls place a lot of importance on every action a guy makes does that then mean that girls actions are much more meaningful than guys?

I asked a friend and she said that girls know and think about every body movement they make. But she is a big flirt so that wouldn't suprise me...

Is this true for the majority or minority?

Just curious... and it would also make interpriting girls much easier if I knew there was a reason behind each action. hahaha :smile:

Reply 1

Yellowmarshmellow

I for one over analyse everything my bf does (at the moment i'm convinced he's going to dump me because of the lack of x's in his texts) but yeah i guess the actions girls take are more meaningful because imo they think more before doing things, for example it took me half an hour to write a sentance in a valentines day card lol. I'm a bit pathetic though.

Reply 2

matt@internet

12

The Thinker

I was browsing through another forum when I came upon a thread of girls talking about how they have been led on in the past and how they think it's because females "read into" and "over analyze" guys actions.

In which case they have led themselves on, and the guy is not a jackass.

Reply 3

prettyblueeyes

13

I tend to over analyze everything without really thinking about doing it.. I notice body language/looks/tone of voice etc and am quite good at reading people, mostly those I know well, but not so much myself, unless I want to portray a certain thing or am feeling very uncomfortable/self-conscious.

yes totally

Yes, lots of girls do this. But then on the other hand, many don't!

Reply 6

cmh

8

Haha, every girl does this. End of.

We're paranoid about guys, with good reason I might add :rolleyes:

in many of our minds every other person out there is out to steal our man. Haha.

Reply 7

Rooftopcowboy

12

Yellowmarshmellow

I for one over analyse everything my bf does (at the moment i'm convinced he's going to dump me because of the lack of x's in his texts) but yeah i guess the actions girls take are more meaningful because imo they think more before doing things, for example it took me half an hour to write a sentance in a valentines day card lol. I'm a bit pathetic though.

WTF!!

as a guy i will never understand the concept of putting "xxxxxxx" at the end of text, what is the point? it doesnt mean anything. He could still be cheating and putting xxxx's at the end of his texts.

think thats a textbook example of the difference between girls and boys. As a male I wouldent be bothered about that in the slightest.

Reply 8

The Thinker

OP

Hmm... I think most guys don't think about their actions untill after they have done them... poor gals hahaha.

I also asked because I like one of my best friends, she knows I like her. But recently she has been acting very closely towards me, you know touching, talking to me more than others etc. I was wondering what the chances are that she is doing it unintentionally. Just gives me something to think about.

Reply 9

prettyblueeyes

13

My boyfriend notices if I don't put "xx" at the end of a text! He'll mention it jokingly maybe (sometimes i mean, he doesn't count and check like a hawk!) and usually wonders if he's done/said something wrong! And if I don't put a kiss, it usually means he has! So i guess some boys can be in tune with it, hehe.

Reply 10

Rooftopcowboy

12

prettyblueeyes

My boyfriend notices if I don't put "xx" at the end of a text! He'll mention it jokingly maybe (sometimes i mean, he doesn't count and check like a hawk!) and usually wonders if he's done/said something wrong! And if I don't put a kiss, it usually means he has! So i guess some boys can be in tune with it, hehe.

depends what kind of person you are I suppose, some people like to cover their rooms in photos of freinds and family, stick stickers on their computer monitor, have cusions all over their beds etc etc

whereas im totally not like that, i dont personalise anything! i have the plain windows XP background, no photos, no stickers etc etc

and i suppose its the same with texts, id rather just text what i wanted to say, without all the xxxx's and stuff. No need for emotion when its only a bit of data being sent over a phone network.

Reply 11

Sephiroth

18

It's not just girls who "over analyze" everything. :P
I can read guys and girls like books. Most of the time I'm right and it prevents a lot of nasty situations for myself.
But I've always believed my personality is more similar to female than male.

Reply 12

Sephiroth

18

As for the xxx thing. If your BF always uses them and then suddenly stops, surely you'd be paranoid that something had changed. It's worth mentioning at least.

Reply 13

supernova2

11

they should spend less time analysing and more time cleaning

hohoho

Reply 14

The Thinker

OP

Sephiroth

It's not just girls who "over analyze" everything. :P
I can read guys and girls like books. Most of the time I'm right and it prevents a lot of nasty situations for myself.
But I've always believed my personality is more similar to female than male.

Tell me the secret to your powers!

My life would be and would have been so much better if I could do that.

Reply 15

khil

15

The Thinker

I was browsing through another forum when I came upon a thread of girls talking about how they have been led on in the past and how they think it's because females "read into" and "over analyze" guys actions. That made me think. If girls place a lot of importance on every action a guy makes does that then mean that girls actions are much more meaningful than guys?

I asked a friend and she said that girls know and think about every body movement they make. But she is a big flirt so that wouldn't suprise me...

Is this true for the majority or minority?

Just curious... and it would also make interpriting girls much easier if I knew there was a reason behind each action. hahaha :smile:

Well, it would be stupid to read into every action. Just cus I happen to be fiddling with my hair does not mean I fancy you, for example, lol. Just cus I happen to genuinely find your jokes funny does not mean I'm trying to flirt with you. Everything has its context :smile:

Girls do read more into things. For example, if a guy forgets about Valentine's Day, or worse, their anniversary, a girl might conclude: You obviously don't care, because if you cared, you would remember. Of course there's some logic to that cus rarely would someone forget something if it's really that important to them - but a guy sees it as: Another normal day when I have to spend a lot of money... Lol. There's also logic in that. A girl sometimes doesn't quite realise that the guy didn't mean to forget, he does care, but he simply didn't understand why it's actually important :rolleyes:

I link remembering such things as a sign that the guy cares, the guy just thinks - I do care, of course I do, but what's that gotta do with a normal day? :confused:

Or things like, once this guy said to his then-gf "You're not that fat." - because the gf had said that she thought she was fat. Now, the guy had thought - that's a compliment, she's not fat. The girl takes note of the word "that" in the sentence, which is to imply that you're not *that* fat, which means you ARE fat, just not very fat. So, the girl gets offended and leaves the guy wondering helplessly what he's done wrong :rolleyes:

Lol.

I usually tell whether a guy fancies me by their tone of voice and body language - that's fairly accurate in my experience. And no, I don't think about every move I make lol.

Reply 16

khil

15

Sephiroth

As for the xxx thing. If your BF always uses them and then suddenly stops, surely you'd be paranoid that something had changed. It's worth mentioning at least.

Now that's a good point. But then again, I remember, my bf often says cute things to me and expresses his love verbally, so I got used to it. Then over the summer he completely stopped for some reason and I got so paranoid about it. Then I met him again when we got back to uni and he was so affectionate that I realised I was simply being paranoid. I talked to him about it and he was like - I had no idea :rolleyes:

He's started saying cute things again though :biggrin:

hehe. So the xxx thing is fairly ambiguious really - depends on the guy's habits. But best thing would be - talk to the guy :smile:

Reply 17

CharleeB

1

I don't think it is a gender specific behaviour, there are just certain personality types which are prone to it. I've never behaved this way, but a friend of mine (a guy) does so to an alarming degree. Analyzing every single word (and asking me to as well) of text messages he sends and recieves, wanting to know the different ways of interpreting them.