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Finding A female partner whose identical to you.
Things like personality, character, interests and things.
Someone told me its impossible...Is it?
I'm mean, I've been yearning for so long for someone that has similar interests. But where I live n college, yes seems to be the answer.
I was hoping to be able to go in to university to do a computer course and as a bonus meet new people. But that's shattered, and I'm not really aware of places to meet.
The same occurs really with friends, I find my self sitting in total silence because they are not the kind of people that would enjoy a conversation from me. If I do, it results in a monologue and a nodding of their head with them dribbling. And vice versa.
Over here girls and computers is like oil and water and it feels like I'm the only one that can understand me.
Someone told me its impossible...Is it?
I'm mean, I've been yearning for so long for someone that has similar interests. But where I live n college, yes seems to be the answer.
I was hoping to be able to go in to university to do a computer course and as a bonus meet new people. But that's shattered, and I'm not really aware of places to meet.
The same occurs really with friends, I find my self sitting in total silence because they are not the kind of people that would enjoy a conversation from me. If I do, it results in a monologue and a nodding of their head with them dribbling. And vice versa.
Over here girls and computers is like oil and water and it feels like I'm the only one that can understand me.
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Reply 1
13
you don't want a girlfriend to have all the same interests as you as it will get boring very quickly.
Reply 2
Im a girl going to cambrige in September to do computer science so they are out there honestly.
But i think you should widen your horizons a bit, cast ur nets out a bit further so to speak, talk to people you wouldn't have thought were like you and they may surprise you. Sometimes opposites attract. Someone whos different can teach u an awful lot and its an eye opening experience. Me and my bf were like chalk and cheese wen we met. Now we have both changed as a result of being exposed to something different.
Dont limit ur options!
But i think you should widen your horizons a bit, cast ur nets out a bit further so to speak, talk to people you wouldn't have thought were like you and they may surprise you. Sometimes opposites attract. Someone whos different can teach u an awful lot and its an eye opening experience. Me and my bf were like chalk and cheese wen we met. Now we have both changed as a result of being exposed to something different.
Dont limit ur options!
Reply 3
Trexx
OP
Maybe, but I had always though that if two people are the same then they would fit like a puzzle. And since both act the same, they cant do anything to annoy each other.
Cast my net out...I got open mine first. I've got all kinds problems which makes that harder for me. I ain't particularly good with people. I'm shy. I don't say what I want to. I over think...Like the butterfly effect.
Even something like "Hello".
Cast my net out...I got open mine first. I've got all kinds problems which makes that harder for me. I ain't particularly good with people. I'm shy. I don't say what I want to. I over think...Like the butterfly effect.
Even something like "Hello".
Reply 4
well, first of all, dont want to make u sad, but there is NOONE who is exactly like u, coz u are uniqe and even if there will be some person who shares ur interest he/she will be different anyway!!!!
and U know, u dont need to have a girl that is exactly like u to be happy with her. It is the opposite actually. U will get bored with sumone who is like u after 1 month! It is ok not to have much in common with a person. It even can be interesting. U can learn a lot frm that person. And the most important thing in relationships isnt sharing the same interests, but understanding each other. It is very rare. and oftem misunderstandidn leads to breaking-up. So, u should try to fine some one patient, with a good heart, funny, and not selfish so that this person will always try to understand u, no matter what u do and take ur side. even if she is interesed in smth totaly different.
For example, I have a BF, and we are sooooooo different with him. In in the stupid things like he likes Burger king and I like Mc.Donalds. He is a pc maniac and I am crazy about reading books and learning languages. he is a total homey guy (sits home all the time) and I have like one million after achool activities. Totally different taste in movies, music EVERYTHING. Even cultures are differen - he is italian, I am russian. he told me one time "Thank God, ur different, if u were like me Id get bored so soon"
And guess what we are together for 3,5 years. And very HAPPY! sure sometimes we fight. But it is very normal. The most important is that we make up.
it is the best if u just try to und a person and find compromises.
anyway. If u still want to fins someone who has the same interests, u should try ICQ. There is a speacial option where u can put ur interest and look for ppl who share it. Good luck
and U know, u dont need to have a girl that is exactly like u to be happy with her. It is the opposite actually. U will get bored with sumone who is like u after 1 month! It is ok not to have much in common with a person. It even can be interesting. U can learn a lot frm that person. And the most important thing in relationships isnt sharing the same interests, but understanding each other. It is very rare. and oftem misunderstandidn leads to breaking-up. So, u should try to fine some one patient, with a good heart, funny, and not selfish so that this person will always try to understand u, no matter what u do and take ur side. even if she is interesed in smth totaly different.
For example, I have a BF, and we are sooooooo different with him. In in the stupid things like he likes Burger king and I like Mc.Donalds. He is a pc maniac and I am crazy about reading books and learning languages. he is a total homey guy (sits home all the time) and I have like one million after achool activities. Totally different taste in movies, music EVERYTHING. Even cultures are differen - he is italian, I am russian. he told me one time "Thank God, ur different, if u were like me Id get bored so soon"
And guess what we are together for 3,5 years. And very HAPPY! sure sometimes we fight. But it is very normal. The most important is that we make up.
it is the best if u just try to und a person and find compromises.
anyway. If u still want to fins someone who has the same interests, u should try ICQ. There is a speacial option where u can put ur interest and look for ppl who share it. Good luck
Reply 5
it would be very difficult to find someone exactly like you, if indeed there is one, and even then there's no guarantee that you'd fancy them or have any romantic attraction/chemistry. And if you did in fact find this girl, chances are you'd see in her aspects of her personality (and thus aspects of yours too) that you probably didn't like that much anyway. It would be very boring if you were the exact same.. it's great to share a few similar interests and personality traits but equally to share lots of different ones.
Reply 6
Firstly there are girls who like computers and stuff etc I swear! Although they are a rarity! But the other people are right, you needn't be exactly the same or even similar, if you're different you have lots of fun trying out different stuff and getting to know them.
Reply 7
Trexx
OP
I'm just confident when I hang around people like me.
Primary\Secondary school wasn't as comfortable as I'd hoped it'll be.
So I'm just not used to it.
Primary\Secondary school wasn't as comfortable as I'd hoped it'll be.
So I'm just not used to it.
Reply 8
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Trexx
Things like personality, character, interests and things.
Someone told me its impossible...Is it?
I'm mean, I've been yearning for so long for someone that has similar interests. But where I live n college, yes seems to be the answer.
I was hoping to be able to go in to university to do a computer course and as a bonus meet new people. But that's shattered, and I'm not really aware of places to meet.
The same occurs really with friends, I find my self sitting in total silence because they are not the kind of people that would enjoy a conversation from me. If I do, it results in a monologue and a nodding of their head with them dribbling. And vice versa.
Over here girls and computers is like oil and water and it feels like I'm the only one that can understand me.
Someone told me its impossible...Is it?
I'm mean, I've been yearning for so long for someone that has similar interests. But where I live n college, yes seems to be the answer.
I was hoping to be able to go in to university to do a computer course and as a bonus meet new people. But that's shattered, and I'm not really aware of places to meet.
The same occurs really with friends, I find my self sitting in total silence because they are not the kind of people that would enjoy a conversation from me. If I do, it results in a monologue and a nodding of their head with them dribbling. And vice versa.
Over here girls and computers is like oil and water and it feels like I'm the only one that can understand me.
You're probably just not hanging out with the right bunch of people. I'm quite instinctive about what people I click with and what people I don't, and I can deduce how nice the person is whether I get on with them or not, if you get me. There're just some people you meet and the conversation flows and it's like you've known them all your life when you've only just met
How about join some societies at uni? There'll be people with the same interests there. And on your course - get to know your course-mates as they'll likely have at least the same field of interest. Just meet new people - you'll come across one who clicks with you.
And as to your question - no it's not impossible. Sometimes it's not even about interests - it's just a matter of personality. Anyway, my bf and I are ridiculously similar sometimes, our sense of style and taste are fairly similar (we'd usually agree on what looks aesthetic and what doesn't - and that's rare cus we both prefer the simple), our humour is basically the same - we do the same crazy things and laugh at the same jokes. We both highly appreciate literature and music and art and while he respects History more than me, as he's a History student, I way prefer History to anything to do with the contemporary world. We both have great respect for languages and as we're from different countries, we also have a slightly broader horizon and have differences that are very interesting to talk about. We both enjoy movies. He prefers a girl who's not vain and doesn't wear make-up and he doesn't like going out - I don't like parties and hate make-up and heels lol.
We have different tastes in music, he likes other sorts of humour which I don't, we have different tastes in literature, he likes a different period of history to me, I admire Art more than he does (am an Art History student lol) and we both have an appreciation for science, but for him, it lies with Physics and Maths and for me, it lies with Biology and Chemistry and we're both good at our respective sciences.
So yeh, there's many similarities but enough differences to keep it interesting. I found someone so similar to me when I never thought that'd ever happen, as my sense of humour is really a bit strange and most people find it weird lol, and few people are as contradictory as me who loves all arts but have this little thing for science too. I thought it was neigh impossible to find someone with my sense of humour, let alone have everything else fit so nicely in place too. So yeh, you'll find someone when she comes along - for now, worry about meeting new people
You'll never find her, or any friends who click with you, if you don't go out and meet new people! I met my bf completely by chance at uni lol 
And there're certainly girls who enjoy computers - my mum enjoys it, though she's not very good at it. I'm not so much interested in computers, but I have a tendency for fiddling with machines and buttons etc to work out every control lol and I'm quite good at doing that, so I'm interested in the functions of machinery in general. One of my best friends is studying Theoretical Physics and Applied Maths and I imagine she would be quite interested in computers really. Ever thought of looking into the Maths, Physics, Engineering depts for girls? Those girls will tend to be more mathematically-minded and might usually enjoy stuff like computers more
Reply 9
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Trexx
Things like personality, character, interests and things.
Someone told me its impossible...Is it?
I'm mean, I've been yearning for so long for someone that has similar interests. But where I live n college, yes seems to be the answer.
I was hoping to be able to go in to university to do a computer course and as a bonus meet new people. But that's shattered, and I'm not really aware of places to meet.
The same occurs really with friends, I find my self sitting in total silence because they are not the kind of people that would enjoy a conversation from me. If I do, it results in a monologue and a nodding of their head with them dribbling. And vice versa.
Over here girls and computers is like oil and water and it feels like I'm the only one that can understand me.
Someone told me its impossible...Is it?
I'm mean, I've been yearning for so long for someone that has similar interests. But where I live n college, yes seems to be the answer.
I was hoping to be able to go in to university to do a computer course and as a bonus meet new people. But that's shattered, and I'm not really aware of places to meet.
The same occurs really with friends, I find my self sitting in total silence because they are not the kind of people that would enjoy a conversation from me. If I do, it results in a monologue and a nodding of their head with them dribbling. And vice versa.
Over here girls and computers is like oil and water and it feels like I'm the only one that can understand me.
I feel the same (I'm not in to computers though). Finding friends that are similar is hard (I only have a few friends who truly get me), but finding friends who are sympathetic to my problem and try their best to be friends with me is better, because it shows they are true friends!
Reply 10
Stop looking so hard and someone will come to you
'Watch pot never boils'
'Watch pot never boils'
Reply 11
It is possible to find someone who has similar interests and everything as you.
not the case, me and my bf have the same interests, and its definatly not boring!
and yeah - stop looking and somone will drop in your lap =)
Luize
you don't want a girlfriend to have all the same interests as you as it will get boring very quickly.
and yeah - stop looking and somone will drop in your lap =)
Reply 12
Yeah I was like this searching for that holy grail of "1337 Gamer Girlfriend" but I just had it in the back of my mind when I fell hopelessly head over heels with my girlfriend. There was just a connection.
She didnt often play geames etc before but now it's like
GF: "okay lets try and get past that boss on Secret of Mana and then I want you to take me. "
ME: "Gosh"
She didnt often play geames etc before but now it's like
GF: "okay lets try and get past that boss on Secret of Mana and then I want you to take me. "
ME: "Gosh"
Reply 13
Sephrenia
It is possible to find someone who has similar interests and everything as you.
not the case, me and my bf have the same interests, and its definatly not boring!
and yeah - stop looking and somone will drop in your lap =)
not the case, me and my bf have the same interests, and its definatly not boring!
and yeah - stop looking and somone will drop in your lap =)
I imagine it's exceptionally tedious for someone else watching.
Reply 14
BJ-Dubois
I imagine it's exceptionally tedious for someone else watching.
Assuming youre talking about my second point - its not their relationship - I don't care if they find my relationship tedious - I'm happy.
Reply 15
Sephrenia
Assuming youre talking about my second point - its not their relationship - I don't care if they find my relationship tedious - I'm happy.
I'm not. I go on an obscure student chatroom and make strange comments for my own amusement. Love me.
Reply 16
BJ-Dubois
I'm not. I go on an obscure student chatroom and make strange comments for my own amusement. Love me.
*is confused*
Reply 17
Trexx
OP
Ah, people say stop looking and love will find you but its beginning to bug me.
Reply 18
i didnt used to play many games and now im a wow addict and top 4 of my mtg club.
Reply 19
TempusReborn
She didnt often play geames etc before but now it's like
GF: "okay lets try and get past that boss on Secret of Mana and then I want you to take me. "
ME: "Gosh"
She didnt often play geames etc before but now it's like
GF: "okay lets try and get past that boss on Secret of Mana and then I want you to take me. "
ME: "Gosh"
Is that a direct quote?
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