Are you similar to your friends?

Do you think that it's possible to become good friends with someone who doesn't share the same interests/nor personality as yourself?

Reply 1

L0RA

Its hard to become friends with someone who you dont share a common interest with as it'd be difficult to meet them.

For example the majority of people i've met at uni are from totally different backgrounds, have different tastes and interests BUT we all either live in the same halls or go to the same Uni so we always have something to talk about.

I wouldnt say i'm particularly similar to any of my friends but i share an interest with all of them be it uni, the gym, music, films, tv, going out...

Reply 2

miki_da_magpie

Yes definately. I have two very good mates who are much more similar to eachother than to me, but I consider my self one of their best friends. We have completely different tastes in music, aims in life, degrees, girls, etc. The only thing that does relate us is football probably, and going out clubbing. But then again we support different teams and like different types of clubs...

Reply 3

singh1987

Yeah!!! i am friends with two people in my halls, who have different music and movie tastes as me. we get along pretty well. i just try to adapt to them, so when they go clubbing , i adapt to their music. however they dont do the same for me. but yeah you can make friends who are totally different to you. but i guess they are not happy with me having my indian music really loud till 3 in the morning!!!

Reply 4

Pink_Crayon_Eater

My best friend and I aren't much alike at all and never have been, but we've been near enough inseperable for 8 years now.

Go figure!

Reply 5

saasmi

Anonymous

Do you think that it's possible to become good friends with someone who doesn't share the same interests/nor personality as yourself?

;yes;

Reply 6

Mazraz

i think its more important that you can accept and appreciate your differences and have fun discussing them and being challenged. a while back i had a friend who i only ever agreed with and it was so boring as i was never challenged which resulted in me making completely incorrect and blanket statements about things which i would not have done if we had been more different people.
also another disadvantage is that when your firends are very similar to you, all your weakest sides are shown to you in them and you can start to dislike them because you see your weaknesses in them.
having said all that, i thnk there has to be something in common for people to ba able to connect initially, even if it is just that you both have strong opinions and want to talk about them!

Reply 7

Rooftopcowboy

id say its hard to quantify, you either 'click' with people or you dont.

personally me and my close friends are really alike, but many others have close friends that are totally different.

Reply 8

OnlyMe!

Some of my friends are completely different to me - as in, we don't share the same interests or have similar personalities.

Reply 9

tldevil

its easily possible.
like they say opposites attract. i have always discussed this with one of my closest friends. we are completely different and people who know us both always think its so unlikely we are friends.
we have completely different music tastes (i hate all his music, he hates all of mine), attitudes to life, completely different personalities (im very serious and like to plan things, hes very laid back and spontaneous), very different academically (im mathsy, hes essay-y) we have even compiled a list but we get on really well but i think its because of the two extremes we balance each other out very well. hes able to handle my paranoia and just finds it funny but a person similar to me would just clash.

Reply 10

shewantstobeme

My best mate is into chemical techno, film-making, drawing and mixing on his decks. I'm not into any of those (per se, because I enjoy doing them if I'm with him... but I'd never have even thought about trying to do them alone). We have totally different hobbies.
He's relaxed, whereas I can stress myself out sometimes. He's more creative, whereas I'm more academic.
We became best mates because we both go to the same gym.
Like tldevil said, people bring different qualities into a relationship to balance one another out, support one another and get on.

However, I am similar to my best mate too.
We have the same sense of humour which helps as we can laugh about so much. And we have similar ideas on how people should be treated (respect, etc.) but I think that only comes from discussing opinions, and again, you can learn from and get support from others.

Ahh this post made me happy as it made me think about how much I love my mates :smile:

Reply 11

C00kies

My first best friend failed the dyslexia test. My second hates 'learning' full stop. As an A* enthusiast I would have to say they are the most complete opposites to me altogether. Although one can spell and writes good stories.

Reply 12

Unique Brunette

well u dont have to be identical in everything, but i guess u will have at least something in common. for example out of the 100 or so people in my course, my close group of friends (the ones i always hang around with in classes etc) are probably more similiar to me than the rest of the class so we're similiar from a broader view, but if u consider each one individually we dohave different personalitlies but thats part of the fun!

however in school i had friends who were very different from myself, and it worked out great. i cannot be friends with someone who is very much like me, we'll clash! :rolleyes: