Should I dump him??

I'll try and keep this short...

Background information:

I've been with this guy for just over a week now. We've both liked each other for quite some time now so we were both really happy when we got together. Everything has been great and lovely and we've both been really happy in this relationship.

Last night he was round my house and we were both just hanging out watching wrestling. We were just having a laugh and mocking the wrestlers. I was up one end of my bed and he was up the other. Suddenly, he randomly got up and started pacing round my room. I asked him what was up and he said nothing... He then asked if he could go downstairs and get some fresh air for a while. I asked why, he said no reason so I shrugged and said yeah, sure.

Well, anyway, he stayed downstairs for around 20mins which I thought was quite bizarre and I was bored by watching this terribly manly sport that is wrestling. So I went downstairs to see what was going on. He was just sat at the bottom of the stairs so I asked what was wrong, and he said nothing. I asked him to talk to me about it and he said no and just sat there. I then asked if he wanted to go home and he said yes, so I got his stuff for him and he left...

It was all very very bizarre, because he has never normally acted in this way..

So then 10minutes later, I'm a bit worried, because he's walking home at like 1am in the dark, so text him and say "baby, im worried about you, whats wrong? You went all strange back then", and I got a reply saying " I read something on your phone and saw something I didn't want to and I had to leave".

So I check through my phone and see the text which he means...

SUBSTORY:

A few days ago, I was meant to be going to the cinema with him. I spent aoround two hours getting ready and made a real effort for him. Straightening my hair for ages and making me look all pretty :smile:

and so I was sat around waiting for him to tell me the times and whatever but I didn't hear anything from him. So I text him to find out what's going on. And he sends a reply saying "I'm in the movies talk to you later". I was SO angry with him. You know, why ask me to go to the cinema and then just go without me and not even tell me.

So when he decided to go to the cinema without me I text my best friend and said "man, I'm so p*ssed off. He went to the cinema without me and I just spent ages getting ready =( That d*ck!" And that was the text he read...

First of all, he knew I was annoyed about him going to the cinema, so I don't understand his reaction to the text...

Secondly, how DARE he look through my phone and read all my messages. They are private, and you know, I feel like it's almost as if he has been reading my diary in a way. But it wasn't just my messages, it was like the ones that I had sent other people. And this text was about 50th down the list. So he must have read all my messages. I mean, does he have no trust in me at all?? I am so furious that I want to finish with him right away.

Am I overreacting to this?? What would you guys do in this situation?

Sorry, it got a bit long! Thanks for reading... :smile:

Reply 1

L0RA

On one hand i want to say you shouldnt have anything to hide from him but on the other he has no right to go through your phone, its not like he owns you :rolleyes:

I really think HE over reacted, why didnt he just talk to you instead of acting like a child?

If he'd have said 'flicking through your messages and saw you were quite pissed off with my about the movies, i'm sorry' then you could have talked about it and explained to him how you were looking forward to it and he let you down :frown:

But instead he just went off...?

If i saw anything like that on my boyfriends phone i'd probably joke about it as soon as i saw it and expect him to apologise and explain that he was just annoyed....

Reply 2

Dirk666

He shouldnt have looked through ure phone, and he should aplosjise for it, However its hardly something you should break up about, after all u have only been going out for a week. You should talk to him about it and say how he shouldnt be looking through ure messages.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

You've been seeing this guy a week and already he is snooping around looking through your personal belongings? If I were you I'd not go near him again. Who wants an insecure jerk for a boyfriend?

Reply 4

Miss. B

If you have only been with him a week then him snooping in your phone is a bad sign! So far he has stood you up, looked through your phone and gone mad over a tx which meant nothing. Tell him how you feel because the truth is that guys don't have a clue about what goes on in us girls minds - if he understands and says sorry then as you like him so much stay with him!

Reply 5

Leigh

As the last two posts show, there are two ways to look at it;
1. You've only been going out a week so maybe give him a bit of a chance
2. You've only been going out a week and he's already invaded your privacy.

Both quite valid I suppose so it's up to you, but yes, he was in the wrong, and you probably aren't overreacting.

Talk to him about it perhaps, see what his attitude to it is; he might realise his mistake and whatnot and you can move on, or maybe he believes that's a reasonable way to act, and it's a trait you just hadn't noticed before that's going to be an issue for the duration of your relationship.

Reply 6

Nix!

He sounds like an immature kid.

Reply 7

jumping10

He sounds like a maniac!

You could understand the reaction if he read a txt saying you were in love with another guy or sexy txt to another guy-but reading that you were annoyed when he knew were then going mental??? what???

Usually, if there is any trouble in a relationship in the first couple of weeks, i always think its not worth it because it will only get worse. In this case I will emphasise that again IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE! This guy is expecting YOU to apologise for him being a prat. Secondly seriously worry about his mental health, for 1-being that jealous to have a VERY long snoop through something private, and for 2 his reaction.....a sane person wouldnt react like that.

Take him to the doctors, when your there tell the doctor what happened then tll your b/f 'you're with people who can look after you now....' then leave him be. and run.

Reply 8

rosetinted

Doesn't sound like he's worth the effort. He has stoof you up, read your texts and acted like a dick..and you've only been going out a week. Get rid of him.

Reply 9

Rui

Get rid. If he was at all mature, he would have (a) not looked at your phone, or, if he really had to, (b) talked to you about it properly. Going downstairs for some 'fresh air' for 20mins makes him seem like a bit of a needy bastard, if you ask me. Get rid of him.

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