Distancing myself from friends - don't know why :(

I've noticed that over the last few weeks I've been distancing myself from my friends -
e.g Tonight all my friends are going out to a gig (and I normally never miss things like this), but I've decided not to go - REASON: I don't actually know. I simply feel like I can't be bothered...and I haven't seen some of them for about 2 weeks due to a geography field trip - but I have no desire/need to actually see them :confused:

I see them as very close friends so it's not like....hmmm..I don't know how to explain it.
I just think that it's gonna get worse and soon I'll just stop having any social connections outside college with them! AND THE THING IS - I WANT TO. But something is stopping me :confused:

AAAAAAAAAAAAARGH I don't know what to do!! Just general confuzelness!
Do I talk to them?? Tell them how I feel??? Doing that; I'm worried they'll get the vibe that I really don't wanna be with them!
I've got a feeling I made no sense what-so-ever here and have contridicted everything! Sorry :redface:

Reply 1

wackysparkle

well i feel like that sometimes - i just like to sit back whilst my friends go out to an event or something - dunno -- sometimes i just wanna relax and feel what its like to have nothing! coz of the workload that i go through most of the time -- maybe your body has been so overworked it just wants to relax - and sooo -well you are doing that now --- don't worry the feeling won't last! :smile:

Reply 2

Angrybanana

There' nothing wrong with wanting plenty of 'me' time- my friends are off clubbing this eve, but it's not my thing so i'm having the eve to myself. If you're worried about losing contact with them outside college, why not make the effort to organize a social event to see them like a party or something?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

first of alll, no dont tell them anything about it

sometimes i feel like i need a little "break" to be alone, relax and stop the continous routine of going out etc. i understand that theyre ur friends but i get those times/days when i need a break from everything
so i dont think u r strange
u're probably tired so relax a bit and soon u'll probably feel like going out with them again

:smile:

Reply 4

Tyrannosaurus Cal

I'm feeling the same at the mo, all my friends are off to a club tonight, but I just have no interest... I want to do something, but would prefer something a bit quieter!

I think it might be partly the time of year, and the weather!

Reply 5

scribble_girl

I get like that sometimes, it's hell in holidays, because to get over it I force myself to go out, and if I'm not having to go into college, it's very easy not to force myself to do stuff. It's strange, sometimes people can be my best friends but I need a couple of weeks of me-time where I 'hibernate'. It's not as bad as one of my other friends, who just goes off for about a week at a time, noone knows where she goes, she just goes AWOL for a week... it's very bizzare but it's her way of putting up with reality. I think being at Uni might help me get over this slightly, because I'll force myself to go out when I feel it, whereas, living 20 miles from all my friends, the 'oh, I have to get ready and catch a train and.. nah can't be bothered' comes into play..

Basically, I would say don't worry about it. But if for whatever reason you still feel like you ought to sort it out, just force yourself to go out, and you'll enjoy it once you're there :smile:

Don't be too concerned though, everyone needs me-time and your friends will appreciate that. If they're decent friends, they're not going to ditch you on account of your hibernating for a couple of weeks :]]

Reply 6

kylie88

my friend went through a stage of this. we didnt see her in about 3 months,she didnt text back,return fone calls. nothing.

then all of a sudden she got in contact and acted like everything was fine. but to us she could have been dead for all we knew! it took us a while to get back into the swing of things due to 3 months of not speaking.

i suggest u get in contact even if its just a text or something,just to keep in touch

Reply 7

Eevuul

maybe you're suffering from clinical depression?

Reply 8

Enchanté

I went like that a while back :s:

I just didn't want to spend time with my friends at lunch I just wanted a break from them really, I think it's because I was piled up in coursework and it was stressing me out.

Reply 9

wazza07

Hey Guys and Gals :smile:

Thank you for all your replies :hugs:

- it's nice to know that I'm not the only one who sometime wants 'me' time - I think it's just general college work/family stuff which is just getting me down :frown:

! Oh well life goes on :smile:

I might just switch off my phone for a while - Am on my half-term at the mo and there's quite a few things going on, but I'd rather have some 'me' time (just chill for a while) and not have my phone vibrating me :biggrin:

every god knows when lol!
aaaaaaaaaaaah I'm still worried that my friends are just gonna think I want nothing to do with them - we are a v.close and large bunch...and tend to do like a lot of things together! Oh well I'll just explain to them next Tuesday.