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lifes so hard right now

ok, my ex girlfriend (of 16 months) dumped me about 3 weeks ago... i loved her and of all the girls ive been with, she is the only woman who ever loved me. She is seeing a new guy now, a fair bit older... and im concerned theres only one thing on this guys mind, and to rub salt to the wound my ex keeps msg me and talking to me and telling me she loves me, but doesnt want me.

My mum is in surgery right now, and will be for about the next 3 hours, and i know she was scared of surgery and im worried about her. Its a private issue i didnt feel comfortable dealing with and talking about with her, and felt awkward at home and have really avoided been home for the last fortnight... what if my mum dies in surgery? i ignored her for the last fortnight when she probably needed her family the most and now i feel terrible. I hope she comes out of surgery allright, my little sister and i are going to visit her in hospital tomorrow.

I met a girl a couple weeks ago also - i was very upset about being dumped by my ex, and this new girl has totally rocked my world. Every time ive had the pleasure of seeing her she is so friendly to me and makes me happy. We have had dinner and cocktails together and hold hands etc and even kissed :smile:

She has made me so happy... but i dont know what she sees in me or where she wants it to lead... im so desperate to see her again, shes the only light ive had in my life for weeks now and although i still barely know her, all i want to do is see her and hug her.

Also my friendship circle is small and close, and one of my best friends is moving 400km away as he accepted a new job in a boarding house.

Im so worried that im just depressed and will be lonely for a long time - and i dont want to be lonely (especially with valentines day tomorrow)... and today at work has been so slow and drawn out, i wish i could just sleep and wake up at some undisclosed time in the future and be happy...

im not really looking for advice or feedback, i just felt like having a sook - is anyone in the same boat as me? :confused:

Reply 1

Otarru

"Where you are now you can't even imagine what the bottom will be like"
-Fight Club
Think about that!

Reply 2

ISH

Otarru

"Where you are now you can't even imagine what the bottom will be like"
-Fight Club
Think about that!

...and yet your sig seems to totally contradict this. I love it.

Reply 3

xxSAMMIxx

You have to remember that now is only a moment and things do get better, so try not to worry as much, i know that is easier said than done, as i have had some pretty depressing moment myself, just keep smiling and you will soon be out of it all.
hope that helps

thanks

Nah, I felt like that when I went to university cos I was awayy from my mates, but the best thing to do is build bridges with the people close to you before communications disintegrate.

Reply 6

Dutchmeister

Otarru

"Where you are now you can't even imagine what the bottom will be like"
-Fight Club
Think about that!

Hehehe, he's got a point there Art. :p:

How's about "**** happens"

Anyway, back to the OP, good luck!

Reply 7

matt@internet

Whenever someone says "life is hard", I'm always tempted to ask "compared to what?"
Sorry the thread title just reminded me of that quote.
Anyway I'm sorry to hear about your problems.

Reply 8

sidi

Hope your mum's op went ok. Glad you have someone new in your life. Sounds as if you might be turning the corner already? I hope so. Good luck.

Reply 9

BURRY

yeah mums operation was ok, shes in alot of pain and its valentines day, my sister and i are about to leave the house to visit her...

and im really happy, the new woman in my life is letting me take her to dinner tonight :smile:

valentines day and all...

maybe the corner is allready turned?

Yayyyy :]]]]

So glad to hear that about your mum. :smile:

Reply 12

invisible_gal

Hey, anytime you wana get some stuff out, go right ahead! Messageboards are good for that!
Im sure things will get better. How is your mum?

Tell your ex you don't want any contact? Tell her you love her but you dont need to hear from her constantly that she doesnt want you and she doesn't sound like a very nice person by her messages. If she still loves you, then she's fooling herself with this new guy, otherwise she's just trying to mess with your head - don't let her!
The new girl you met, sounds like she likes you, keep it going i guess!

Sounds like you're going through a lot though at the moment, but you can get through it all and you will not be depressed and lonely for the rest of your life. Everyone gets depressed sometimes, and you will get happier!

Reply 13

sidi

Good to hear Burry! I'm rooting for you.

Reply 14

Yoda

Basically, tell your ex to **** right off. She won't get back with you, and is only doing this for attention. I'd be pissed if someone tried dragging me along like that.

Good to hear your mother got through the operation ok. They wouldn't really operate on her if there was a chance of something bad tho.

The new girl, good going. Only one thing I'm concerned of - "and even kissed". What the ****? You normally go with girls for cocktails, dinner and end up without a kiss? And whats all that "holding hands" stuff. You sound proud to "hold hands". Be a man and take charge. Now I'm not saying go and rape her, but its pretty ****ing obvious when a girl will kiss you or not, don't let her do everything first or you'll look like a pussy.

And don't be "desperate" to see her. It'll show. See her when you see her, but don't constantly cling on around her. Even if you've got **** all on, pretend you do or something so you're not seeing her every second of every day. People who do that piss me off.

Reply 15

IzzyWizzy

The new girl, good going. Only one thing I'm concerned of - "and even kissed". What the ****? You normally go with girls for cocktails, dinner and end up without a kiss? And whats all that "holding hands" stuff. You sound proud to "hold hands". Be a man and take charge. Now I'm not saying go and rape her, but its pretty ****ing obvious when a girl will kiss you or not, don't let her do everything first or you'll look like a pussy.

I don't think it's weird. He's just been dumped by his ex, the last thing he needs to do is rush into a sexual relationship with another girl. I took it that at the moment he sees her as a friend with the potential to develop into more - I would take things slowly with her.

Reply 16

BURRY

thanks for pos. replies everyone :smile:

yeah life certainly has ups and downs, i suppose i had nothing to whinge about in the first place - it could certainly be alot worse (and in past has been alot worse) i guess i just want to be really happy and feel like im doing something worthy with my life.

and yes, ex and me had some nasty fights last week with some mean words said to eachother - i basically told her enough and i deleted all her numbers and contact info, so short of her calling me i probably wont see her again.