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hi guys,
Sorry in advance if i sound really stupid but i need to get this off my chest.
Today i just felt really depressed, im a 19yr old girl whose never had a boyfriend and i just feel like there is something wrong with me. Since ive started uni (im in my second yr now) ive felt even worse because every girl that i see is so pretty and dont look like little girls like i do. I just feel ugly and that why would anyone want to be with me. The only people who i seem to attract are older men!! Its not that i have a problem with being single or anything i just feel that when will my time come to have a boyfriend of my own (instread of watching everyone else walking off with their boyfriends). Im not asking for some guy to love me or anything just someone whose a friend and gives me a hug and a kiss, thats all! I just want the world to eat me up because everytime im at uni or whatever, i feel invisble as if no one cares. I am a shy and quiet girl but im just beginning to hate myself because i feel like nothing.
Uni is getting me down too with the amount of work they give us... its all i seem to be doing, going to uni, doing uni work, then going to my own job...there is nothing in my life other than that! I dont have friends who i can really call upon, the girl who is my best mate lives in miami, and for the record hasnt spoken to me in the last 2 months until now. The frineds ive made at uni all live really far from me, its like i have no one! All i have is my mum and dad, and im not complaingin about that, i love my parents to bits and all but its as if my life isnt my own.
I dont know how to fix these problems, like i said im shy and quiet and so joining soscieties etc...would take a moment of madness for me to join!
I would really appreciate anyones advice or opinions!
Thankyou
Sorry in advance if i sound really stupid but i need to get this off my chest.
Today i just felt really depressed, im a 19yr old girl whose never had a boyfriend and i just feel like there is something wrong with me. Since ive started uni (im in my second yr now) ive felt even worse because every girl that i see is so pretty and dont look like little girls like i do. I just feel ugly and that why would anyone want to be with me. The only people who i seem to attract are older men!! Its not that i have a problem with being single or anything i just feel that when will my time come to have a boyfriend of my own (instread of watching everyone else walking off with their boyfriends). Im not asking for some guy to love me or anything just someone whose a friend and gives me a hug and a kiss, thats all! I just want the world to eat me up because everytime im at uni or whatever, i feel invisble as if no one cares. I am a shy and quiet girl but im just beginning to hate myself because i feel like nothing.
Uni is getting me down too with the amount of work they give us... its all i seem to be doing, going to uni, doing uni work, then going to my own job...there is nothing in my life other than that! I dont have friends who i can really call upon, the girl who is my best mate lives in miami, and for the record hasnt spoken to me in the last 2 months until now. The frineds ive made at uni all live really far from me, its like i have no one! All i have is my mum and dad, and im not complaingin about that, i love my parents to bits and all but its as if my life isnt my own.
I dont know how to fix these problems, like i said im shy and quiet and so joining soscieties etc...would take a moment of madness for me to join!
I would really appreciate anyones advice or opinions!
Thankyou
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Reply 2
angelj
hi guys,
Sorry in advance if i sound really stupid but i need to get this off my chest.
Today i just felt really depressed, im a 19yr old girl whose never had a boyfriend and i just feel like there is something wrong with me. Since ive started uni (im in my second yr now) ive felt even worse because every girl that i see is so pretty and dont look like little girls like i do. I just feel ugly and that why would anyone want to be with me. The only people who i seem to attract are older men!! Its not that i have a problem with being single or anything i just feel that when will my time come to have a boyfriend of my own (instread of watching everyone else walking off with their boyfriends). Im not asking for some guy to love me or anything just someone whose a friend and gives me a hug and a kiss, thats all! I just want the world to eat me up because everytime im at uni or whatever, i feel invisble as if no one cares. I am a shy and quiet girl but im just beginning to hate myself because i feel like nothing.
Uni is getting me down too with the amount of work they give us... its all i seem to be doing, going to uni, doing uni work, then going to my own job...there is nothing in my life other than that! I dont have friends who i can really call upon, the girl who is my best mate lives in miami, and for the record hasnt spoken to me in the last 2 months until now. The frineds ive made at uni all live really far from me, its like i have no one! All i have is my mum and dad, and im not complaingin about that, i love my parents to bits and all but its as if my life isnt my own.
I dont know how to fix these problems, like i said im shy and quiet and so joining soscieties etc...would take a moment of madness for me to join!
I would really appreciate anyones advice or opinions!
Thankyou
Sorry in advance if i sound really stupid but i need to get this off my chest.
Today i just felt really depressed, im a 19yr old girl whose never had a boyfriend and i just feel like there is something wrong with me. Since ive started uni (im in my second yr now) ive felt even worse because every girl that i see is so pretty and dont look like little girls like i do. I just feel ugly and that why would anyone want to be with me. The only people who i seem to attract are older men!! Its not that i have a problem with being single or anything i just feel that when will my time come to have a boyfriend of my own (instread of watching everyone else walking off with their boyfriends). Im not asking for some guy to love me or anything just someone whose a friend and gives me a hug and a kiss, thats all! I just want the world to eat me up because everytime im at uni or whatever, i feel invisble as if no one cares. I am a shy and quiet girl but im just beginning to hate myself because i feel like nothing.
Uni is getting me down too with the amount of work they give us... its all i seem to be doing, going to uni, doing uni work, then going to my own job...there is nothing in my life other than that! I dont have friends who i can really call upon, the girl who is my best mate lives in miami, and for the record hasnt spoken to me in the last 2 months until now. The frineds ive made at uni all live really far from me, its like i have no one! All i have is my mum and dad, and im not complaingin about that, i love my parents to bits and all but its as if my life isnt my own.
I dont know how to fix these problems, like i said im shy and quiet and so joining soscieties etc...would take a moment of madness for me to join!
I would really appreciate anyones advice or opinions!
Thankyou
I know what you mean its like you talk to people at the places you go to but don't have any close friends, a lot of people are like this more than you would think, some people seem to just meet people and then thats it they are close friends but they are the people who put themselves out thats why it seems like every one is popular and has a boyfriend. All the quiet ones are hidden away maybe enjoying themselves maybe not, at least your in the middle (since you are at uni and want to make friends) and not hidden away and thats cool your normal.
Just talk to and get to know as many people as you can its the shy ones who are least likely to show themselves up not because they are quiet but because they tend to think before they speak. Find out what your friends at uni get up to, do they all live in halls?
Reply 3
To be honest..you cannot expect love to just come right up to you and make you all happy. It involves effort on your part too u know...Ok so your shy and stuff, but if you want something enough u gota be prepared to go and find it too, even if that goes against how u normaly are...Doin what u normaly do results in how u feel, therefore change the way u are to bring about a change u want
marc
marc
I felt a bit like that too when I started uni. It honestly makes a difference when you make an effort with your appearance, because that's all the other girls are doing. I used to just throw on jeans and a hoodie, but now I make a bit of an effort to wear something nice, sometimes some nice boots, long earrings and make-up and I feel loads better. Try joining societies and all that as well!
Reply 5
maybe you are nothing.
maybe youre just not a very interesting or pretty person.
maybe youre ugly, boring and stupid and thats why youre struggling so much.
just a thought
maybe youre just not a very interesting or pretty person.
maybe youre ugly, boring and stupid and thats why youre struggling so much.
just a thought
Reply 6
That was supportive. Bet you feel well good about yourself now
What you said, back at you
What you said, back at you
Reply 7
Anon has a good point.
Reply 8
matt@internet
Anon has a good point.
could you be more of an a$$hole? and from someone who seems to usually be quite supportive...
to the original poster i'd say experience that moment of madness and join some societies on things that interest you. the only way to make good friends is by opening up to people
is there any reason why your quiet/shy or have you just always been that way?
at uni as in life you will only develop relationships by interacting and joiniing in with the world. u then experience the ups and downs like everyone else. you can stay in ur shell where you feel safe but that way you will miss out on lifes rich tapestry
Reply 10
Fine then, perhaps Anon #1 has a good point.It is unfortunate, but that's just the way life's chosen to **** on us.
Butterfly
I think people who are really shy tend to miss out on life, which is so frustrating for them because they can't help being shy and it is difficult to overcome.
Reply 12
Ah I feel the same sometimes, a lot of people do probably.
Just go out, make friends and have confidence in your abilities to do so, i know it's hard but just believe you can do it and it's easier.
Seriously tho, people can tell when another person has confidence and they then gravitate towards them.
Just go out, make friends and have confidence in your abilities to do so, i know it's hard but just believe you can do it and it's easier.
Seriously tho, people can tell when another person has confidence and they then gravitate towards them.
Reply 13
Anonymous
maybe you are nothing.
maybe youre just not a very interesting or pretty person.
maybe youre ugly, boring and stupid and thats why youre struggling so much.
just a thought
maybe youre just not a very interesting or pretty person.
maybe youre ugly, boring and stupid and thats why youre struggling so much.
just a thought
pr**k!
OP: i can imagine that u feel way behind yr friends because u haven't had a bf, but trust me, yr not a freak! i'm 23 & have only 1 serious relationship - & that didn't happen til i was 22!! 4 some reason it's just the way things work out sometimes. i know that is of no consolation 2 u, but i'm just being honest with u. use yr time as a singleton 2 work on yourself, figure out the sort of guy you'd like, what u dislike, find new interests etc.
i'm not really sure wot to suggest in relation to yr feeling that u dont have many friends. i think every1 on here has felt that way @ some point. i think u need 2 have a good thinkn about wot u can do to gain a few more friends. u say yr a bit shy & i can identify with that, but then no1 can make friends 4 u. you've gotta do that yrself. have a think about it & i really do hope u feel better about things soon. u sound like a great person so i'm sure u would have no trouble making friends!
Reply 14
angelj
hi guys,
Sorry in advance if i sound really stupid but i need to get this off my chest.
Today i just felt really depressed, im a 19yr old girl whose never had a boyfriend and i just feel like there is something wrong with me. Since ive started uni (im in my second yr now) ive felt even worse because every girl that i see is so pretty and dont look like little girls like i do. I just feel ugly and that why would anyone want to be with me. The only people who i seem to attract are older men!! Its not that i have a problem with being single or anything i just feel that when will my time come to have a boyfriend of my own (instread of watching everyone else walking off with their boyfriends). Im not asking for some guy to love me or anything just someone whose a friend and gives me a hug and a kiss, thats all! I just want the world to eat me up because everytime im at uni or whatever, i feel invisble as if no one cares. I am a shy and quiet girl but im just beginning to hate myself because i feel like nothing.
Uni is getting me down too with the amount of work they give us... its all i seem to be doing, going to uni, doing uni work, then going to my own job...there is nothing in my life other than that! I dont have friends who i can really call upon, the girl who is my best mate lives in miami, and for the record hasnt spoken to me in the last 2 months until now. The frineds ive made at uni all live really far from me, its like i have no one! All i have is my mum and dad, and im not complaingin about that, i love my parents to bits and all but its as if my life isnt my own.
I dont know how to fix these problems, like i said im shy and quiet and so joining soscieties etc...would take a moment of madness for me to join!
I would really appreciate anyones advice or opinions!
Thankyou
Sorry in advance if i sound really stupid but i need to get this off my chest.
Today i just felt really depressed, im a 19yr old girl whose never had a boyfriend and i just feel like there is something wrong with me. Since ive started uni (im in my second yr now) ive felt even worse because every girl that i see is so pretty and dont look like little girls like i do. I just feel ugly and that why would anyone want to be with me. The only people who i seem to attract are older men!! Its not that i have a problem with being single or anything i just feel that when will my time come to have a boyfriend of my own (instread of watching everyone else walking off with their boyfriends). Im not asking for some guy to love me or anything just someone whose a friend and gives me a hug and a kiss, thats all! I just want the world to eat me up because everytime im at uni or whatever, i feel invisble as if no one cares. I am a shy and quiet girl but im just beginning to hate myself because i feel like nothing.
Uni is getting me down too with the amount of work they give us... its all i seem to be doing, going to uni, doing uni work, then going to my own job...there is nothing in my life other than that! I dont have friends who i can really call upon, the girl who is my best mate lives in miami, and for the record hasnt spoken to me in the last 2 months until now. The frineds ive made at uni all live really far from me, its like i have no one! All i have is my mum and dad, and im not complaingin about that, i love my parents to bits and all but its as if my life isnt my own.
I dont know how to fix these problems, like i said im shy and quiet and so joining soscieties etc...would take a moment of madness for me to join!
I would really appreciate anyones advice or opinions!
Thankyou
This world is a very small place. I am a 19 yr old guy and never had a girlfriend. I meet my mates at uni who are living at halls everyday, have a laugh with them and come back to the off campus house I am living in which is pretty far away from uni hall. I do not even have the psychological comforts of my parents as I am living really far away from where my home town is in England,and i never in my life felt comfortable talking about my personal life with them anyway>they are either always working or put high moral thoughts in front of me.
I am not that bad looking and do weight lifting and stuff just for my self-confidence,yet today my mate asked me jokingly yet indirectly whether I was gay with another chinese guy or something. I dont blame them as i myself today,the day before the valentines day, wonder why am I without a gf? I do not have problem with self-sonfidence as I am quite vociferous,yet have trouble connecting with girls. This girl I really like is the only reason why I turn up to extra classes at uni yet can never gather the strength to talk to her and just continue making jokes with ma mates whilst she is sitting behind me!
Funny enough today I was well pissed off as I saw her talking and laughing at another boys joke,which I thought was mediocre and rubbish. I just wanted to ******* punch him and put his words so far up his **** that his four eyes would fall off. But, I would never express that to the outside world as I like to think myself as a kind hearted guy and I continue living this life on my own,without even my mates' support. I probably will turn up to another lesson with her there and will not be able to say anything,again!
But, I have gathered this is life. There is always someone for you out there waiting just for you-this is what I would like to believe in. May be your perfect guy is just around the corner, waiting for you. Always believe that you are,on your own, everything that you want to be in life-the mates,parents,others are just bonuses. But, if you want to make more friends there is nothing better than societies-need not be sports but like comedy club or something. As the faces will become familiar you will gather strength to talk to them and make loads of mates.
If you are still feeling shy think about it this way-we lads have problems far bigger than you think you have sometimes. I watched many of the perfect couples you talked about in your thread walk past holding hands today and probably will see more tomorrow as it is the valentines day. But, think about it this way-there will be just as many lads/girls going out without a date tomorrow,next week.........,so don't feel like you are alone. Go upto them, make some excuses and talk to them. I know what I will try and finally try doing tomorrow ,whatever it takes........
Reply 15
anon3 and op should hook up, your both same age in similar situation and sound like well-grounded, modest and nice people.
Anon1 should die, wow i didn't know a person could go so low as to insult a really depressed person under anon on an internet forum, what a coward, real life must be getting you down.
Anon1 should die, wow i didn't know a person could go so low as to insult a really depressed person under anon on an internet forum, what a coward, real life must be getting you down.
thanks everyone for being supportive. Especially anon 3 - u nearly made me cry lol thats was some pretty deep things that you were saying which were all true. I wish i had the confidence too. SOmetimes i feel why is it that im second best in all that i do, its as if i cant depend on anything. I used to think i can depend on myself and that i can be strong, and i am a strong person until now. Im gonna try and keep my head up though and take things as they come i guess..and also try to make some postive changes.
Reply 17
Good luck. I'm sure everything will turn out well for you. Have you considered going out with a group for drinks now and again. Do you find alcohol helps you lose some of your inhibitions? Of course, I'm not suggesting booze is the answer to your problems (!) but you'd be surprised how many people use it simply to become more sociable. Anyway, like I said, I'm sure in a few weeks you'll have a completely different frame of mind - hell, it'll be spring! Bring on nature - birds, bees and what not. Smashing!
Also - Comedy - On TV etc - Laughing helps.
Also - Comedy - On TV etc - Laughing helps.
"Sometimes the easiest way to lose something is wanting it too much" (a cookie for spotting where that's from 
)
and the relative cliché, which no doubt will mean I'm gonna get a spankin' for:
"A watched pot never boils"
Stop caring, enjoy yourself. It isn't easy but once you learn how it's a whole lot better
There will be someone, one day. Why don't you do the asking for a change? You very rarely get something for nothing in this life.
)and the relative cliché, which no doubt will mean I'm gonna get a spankin' for:
"A watched pot never boils"
Stop caring, enjoy yourself. It isn't easy but once you learn how it's a whole lot better
There will be someone, one day. Why don't you do the asking for a change? You very rarely get something for nothing in this life.
Reply 19
Anonymous
This world is a very small place. I am a 19 yr old guy and never had a girlfriend. I meet my mates at uni who are living at halls everyday, have a laugh with them and come back to the off campus house I am living in which is pretty far away from uni hall. I do not even have the psychological comforts of my parents as I am living really far away from where my home town is in England,and i never in my life felt comfortable talking about my personal life with them anyway>they are either always working or put high moral thoughts in front of me.
I am not that bad looking and do weight lifting and stuff just for my self-confidence,yet today my mate asked me jokingly yet indirectly whether I was gay with another chinese guy or something. I dont blame them as i myself today,the day before the valentines day, wonder why am I without a gf? I do not have problem with self-sonfidence as I am quite vociferous,yet have trouble connecting with girls. This girl I really like is the only reason why I turn up to extra classes at uni yet can never gather the strength to talk to her and just continue making jokes with ma mates whilst she is sitting behind me!
Funny enough today I was well pissed off as I saw her talking and laughing at another boys joke,which I thought was mediocre and rubbish. I just wanted to ******* punch him and put his words so far up his **** that his four eyes would fall off. But, I would never express that to the outside world as I like to think myself as a kind hearted guy and I continue living this life on my own,without even my mates' support. I probably will turn up to another lesson with her there and will not be able to say anything,again!
But, I have gathered this is life. There is always someone for you out there waiting just for you-this is what I would like to believe in. May be your perfect guy is just around the corner, waiting for you. Always believe that you are,on your own, everything that you want to be in life-the mates,parents,others are just bonuses. But, if you want to make more friends there is nothing better than societies-need not be sports but like comedy club or something. As the faces will become familiar you will gather strength to talk to them and make loads of mates.
If you are still feeling shy think about it this way-we lads have problems far bigger than you think you have sometimes. I watched many of the perfect couples you talked about in your thread walk past holding hands today and probably will see more tomorrow as it is the valentines day. But, think about it this way-there will be just as many lads/girls going out without a date tomorrow,next week.........,so don't feel like you are alone. Go upto them, make some excuses and talk to them. I know what I will try and finally try doing tomorrow ,whatever it takes........
I am not that bad looking and do weight lifting and stuff just for my self-confidence,yet today my mate asked me jokingly yet indirectly whether I was gay with another chinese guy or something. I dont blame them as i myself today,the day before the valentines day, wonder why am I without a gf? I do not have problem with self-sonfidence as I am quite vociferous,yet have trouble connecting with girls. This girl I really like is the only reason why I turn up to extra classes at uni yet can never gather the strength to talk to her and just continue making jokes with ma mates whilst she is sitting behind me!
Funny enough today I was well pissed off as I saw her talking and laughing at another boys joke,which I thought was mediocre and rubbish. I just wanted to ******* punch him and put his words so far up his **** that his four eyes would fall off. But, I would never express that to the outside world as I like to think myself as a kind hearted guy and I continue living this life on my own,without even my mates' support. I probably will turn up to another lesson with her there and will not be able to say anything,again!
But, I have gathered this is life. There is always someone for you out there waiting just for you-this is what I would like to believe in. May be your perfect guy is just around the corner, waiting for you. Always believe that you are,on your own, everything that you want to be in life-the mates,parents,others are just bonuses. But, if you want to make more friends there is nothing better than societies-need not be sports but like comedy club or something. As the faces will become familiar you will gather strength to talk to them and make loads of mates.
If you are still feeling shy think about it this way-we lads have problems far bigger than you think you have sometimes. I watched many of the perfect couples you talked about in your thread walk past holding hands today and probably will see more tomorrow as it is the valentines day. But, think about it this way-there will be just as many lads/girls going out without a date tomorrow,next week.........,so don't feel like you are alone. Go upto them, make some excuses and talk to them. I know what I will try and finally try doing tomorrow ,whatever it takes........
gr8 post. u sound like a really nice guy. hope u find a lovely laydee friend soon!
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