Having an argument with your boyfriend before Valentine's day!!

My boyfriend and I had a misunderstanding this evening. It was about something rather silly and now he's not talking to me. I kind of accused him for cheating, so it is my fault in a way, but I did apologise, yet he won't talk to me. :frown:

What should I do?

Reply 1

ravenous_soup_dragon

9

I just had one with mine too! Mine was over the fact that he spends practically his whole life at university doing stuff for charity, whinges when he gets behind with his work because of it and hardly spends any time talking/emailing/texting me like he used to.... :frown:

Never mind though - I'm sure your boyfriend will calm down. Give him an hour or so and then ring him. If you had reason to suspect that he was cheating, talk it through calmly and rationally - but if it was just a wild accusation that you said in the heat of the moment, swallow your pride and apologise!

Anyway - the fact that it's Valentine's day tomorrow is irrelevant - you could have a make up one next week if you're both still angry tomorrow and look on the brightside, it'll be far cheaper than tomorrow, when all the restaurants are ridiciously pricey and booked up :smile:

xx

Reply 2

L0RA

9

We had our valentines day yesterday as hes away from today and yep we had a big fight! Everything was great up until then though and we havent spoken since, we're both far too stubborn to text first.

I guess we'll bump into each other when he gets back (he lives at my halls) and everything will be okay again though :p:

Reply 3

stepheh

12

I guess Valentine's day is a stressful time.

My bf is in uni, so we're not actually celebrating V day until saturday. which is good, i guess, because going out will be much cheaper.
But i just wish he was more thoughtful.. you know?
Like coming home and suprising me.. or sending me a card in the post.. or flowers.

meh.

obviously watch too many rom com's.

Reply 4

hannah_dru

2

Awww I'm really sorry! My boyfriend and I had two yesterday but we got over it after about 15 minutes.
You've done all you can, so just leave him and he'll come around. I think that if your relationship is strong enough you'll get over it.

Reply 5

Anthonyjm71

9

L0RA

We had our valentines day yesterday as hes away from today and yep we had a big fight! Everything was great up until then though and we havent spoken since, we're both far too stubborn to text first.

I guess we'll bump into each other when he gets back (he lives at my halls) and everything will be okay again though :p:

think several couples go through something like this at around this time of year.. :p:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

ravenous_soup_dragon

I just had one with mine too! Mine was over the fact that he spends practically his whole life at university doing stuff for charity, whinges when he gets behind with his work because of it and hardly spends any time talking/emailing/texting me like he used to.... :frown:

Never mind though - I'm sure your boyfriend will calm down. Give him an hour or so and then ring him. If you had reason to suspect that he was cheating, talk it through calmly and rationally - but if it was just a wild accusation that you said in the heat of the moment, swallow your pride and apologise!

Anyway - the fact that it's Valentine's day tomorrow is irrelevant - you could have a make up one next week if you're both still angry tomorrow and look on the brightside, it'll be far cheaper than tomorrow, when all the restaurants are ridiciously pricey and booked up :smile:

xx

Someone told me that he might be seeing someone else and stupidly enough I asked him as if I suspected it something along the lines of "who is she?" He got angry with me. I apologised, but he's been ignoring me since then. I'm not going to bother calling or texting now because it's annoying me as well! :mad:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Anthonyjm71

think several couples go through something like this at around this time of year.. :p:

Oh but it's not fair. especially before valentine's day, if you know what I mean.

Reply 8

dh00001

16

join the club :frown:

were spending time apart or summut, great when everythings on about love this week :frown:

Reply 9

stepheh

12

dh00001

join the club :frown:

were spending time apart or summut, great when everythings on about love this week :frown:

oh

i'm sorry.. i feel really bad for you..
I hate valentines day - even though i'm in a relationship.. it's just.. the biggest waste of time ever..
I mean.. it's not even personal

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

join the club :frown:

were spending time apart or summut, great when everythings on about love this week :frown:

Oh no,what happened with our relationship?

Reply 11

L0RA

9

Yep i feel exactly the same about it. Me and my boyfriend arent in love so i find it all very stupid. But he cooked a meal and we had a nice evening in last night until we had a fight :p:

It doesnt bother me that we more than likely wont talk tomorrow, its just another day!!

Reply 12

dh00001

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Anonymous

Oh no,what happened with our relationship?

our relationship :s-smilie:

did i miss something :p:

oh you know just general falling apart :frown:

Reply 13

Anthonyjm71

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Anonymous

Oh but it's not fair. especially before valentine's day, if you know what I mean.

yeah but is true more often than not though.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

our relationship :s-smilie:

did i miss something :p:

oh you know just general falling apart :frown:

Yeah, sorry I meant your relationship. :redface:

Reply 15

Anonymous #2

meh. valentine's is just anouther day. i'm typically one of those girls that at the first signs of distress, breaks up with someone, but with my current boyfriend (due to the fact that i think he's the one, i love him immensely, he loves me, etc.) i've had to come up with ways to break the cycle of sarcasm/ anger what have you. generally, what i've found to be most effective is to say to him, "look, i LOVE you. and that means that this doesn't really matter okay? we are NOT falling apart, just angry."

works every time to calm his anxiety (which leads to more harsh words int he fight)