Confussed!

Me and my ex-gf are both at Uni in the same city, we were together for nearly 2 years and broke up last week. We broke up because we argued all the time and we just simply weren't getting on any more, also she's going away on her course for a year in another country for a year leaving this August! I love her sooo much and can't stop thinking about her, i keep saying to myself " i want her back" but i feel like if we get back all the argueing will start again and she's going away for a year which is likley to destroy our relationship. Im sooo confussed i don't know what to do, i don't know whether to get back with her because i love her sooo much or to hold out and come to terms with the idea that it's for the best because all we did was argue and she is going away for a year. Also this is having a major affect on my studies as i feel like quiting Uni and leaving this place. Just wondered what you think i should do or you would do, thanks.

Reply 1

Philosoraptor

Firstly do not quit uni over this! You'd regret it in the future!
Secondly, if the relationship has met its end, as you seem to portray it has - there's no point resurrecting it! Sometimes relationships have "Do not Resuscitate" orders too!

Reply 2

L0RA

Surely the arguing was bringing you down?

I hate arguing so if it happened alot in a relationship i was in i know i'd be alot happier alone/ with someone else than i would be with the person i was arguing with...

Reply 3

Buteo

You misspelt "confused" in the thread title. Please fix it, thank you.

Reply 4

Philosoraptor

Heh, I noticed that, but avoided commenting :p:

Reply 5

theredsox

Oh, I broke up with someone cause I just kept arguing with them. It's really hard to know when to pull the trigger, isn't it? Because you never know, it might start working..
Firstly, yeh, I wouldn't drop out of uni. Haven't you read High Fidelity? :P
But I think you're just going to have to try your best to try and ignore her until she leaves the country. It obviously didn't work the first time - it won't work again. Go out! Meet people! :biggrin:

As you said, all you did was argue

Reply 6

TheShrimp

Buteo

You misspelt "confused" in the thread title. Please fix it, thank you.

Haha, "I'm confussed about how to spell confussed?"

OP: This happened to two of my friends as well - went to the same uni together, although they were constantly arguing, then decided to break-up. They both seem to have gotten on with their lives & your girlfriend probably is as well.

Maybe try to study more to get your mind off her?