Parents just annoy me too much when I stay out a bit late

I'm 17 and when ever i do things where i'm going to be coming home a bit late say about half 12 - 1 from like a friends house my parents start giving me like an interview about how i'm getting home and telling me to do this that and the other and it annoys me so much every time i'm coming home late. I know i'm going to be fine but they just won't let it be that I know what i'm doing and i don't know what to say... I never come home like mega drunk either I just sometimes like to go out and do things with friends.

Reply 1

TheShrimp

5

Are you a girl or boy? This may help with the advice you receive.

They're only asking because they're concerned about you & don't want you to get hurt/in trouble.

Reply 2

hippieglitter

19

Do you have a curfew? It helps to stick to it at least a few times, it makes the chance of it being lifted later on more likely, thats what my mum told me when i was late, shes a big softie and persuaded my dad to lift it anyway, though he was all for not lifting it at all.

Reply 3

Cyclotron

thats parents for u bro

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm a guy.

Reply 5

matt@internet

12

I can't see why they'd be bothered, unless you expect to get picked up to be taken home. My brother does that and boy does it piss me mam off.

Reply 6

Enchanté

14

They're just concerned that's all my parents ask the same thing you're lucky they are really.

Reply 7

Anthonyjm71

9

Cyclotron

thats parents for u bro

If you have a bit a give a take on both sides then i dont get why there should be to much of a problem..

Reply 8

goodmen

13

at 17 you should explain to them that your old enough to stay out late, you could be living alone!

Reply 9

kad

i have 2 agree with enchante & say that unfortunately that it how most folks r. they worry. rightly or wrongly they worry.

all i can suggest is that u have an agreed arrangement with yr folks as 2 what the procedure is when ur out. i.e. u txt/call. let them knw who yr coming home with. do always let them knw if u r gonna b late. show them that u r reliable & trustworthy. hope that helps!

Reply 10

Meep!

9

Well, seeing as I had friends who weren't even allowed out till 11 (I was continually in trouble with their irate parents for leading their little darlings astray, as I didn't have a curfew), you should count yourself lucky. Your parents are only like that because they love you and worry about you, don't let yourself get annoyed with them for caring.

Reply 11

theredsox

15

Lucky...my parents always insist on giving me lifts home. But of course they want to sleep. So in the end, I end up coming back quite early :frown:

Reply 12

Luize

13

I'm 19 and I still make sure my mum knows who I'm with and how I'm planning on getting back. She doesn't always ask but I will let her know.
If you do get in any kind of trouble they would then be able to know where you were/who you were with etc.
I always find it more reassuring knowing that my mum knows where I am. I've had my drink spiked a couple times, it really helps if someone knows where you are! (it's not only girls that get their drinks spiked as well, remember that)

Reply 13

Toy Soldier

3

Ooooh, that sucks. At 16 I was staying out overnight with only a "I'm staying out overnight" phonecall. I didn't even have to say where. By 18 I didn't even have to call, in fact i was told that if it was after midnight by the time I knew I wouldn't be home then I shouldn't call because I'd just wake people up :tongue:

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That said, my mum was mostly drunk all the time when I was that age, and my dad knew I was more than capable of looking after myself. And they were both total hippies when they were teenagers, so they understood that I probably WAS up to no good, and having a damn good time while I was at it :biggrin:

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Reply 14

scribble_girl

14

Toy Soldier

Ooooh, that sucks. At 16 I was staying out overnight with only a "I'm staying out overnight" phonecall. I didn't even have to say where. By 18 I didn't even have to call, in fact i was told that if it was after midnight by the time I knew I wouldn't be home then I shouldn't call because I'd just wake people up :tongue:

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That said, my mum was mostly drunk all the time when I was that age, and my dad knew I was more than capable of looking after myself. And they were both total hippies when they were teenagers, so they understood that I probably WAS up to no good, and having a damn good time while I was at it :biggrin:

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So jealous :frown:

My curfew is the last train home, because I live a while away from where most of my friends are. And if she's not heard from me by about 10pm to let her know what train I'll be home on, she'll call or text two of my closest friends to tell them to tell me to get in contact, and then be cross if they don't make me call home right that second to tell her what train I'll be on.
Euuuugh.
Oh, and how did she get my friend's numbers? By going through my phone.

I don't even want lifts home, I'm perfectly happy to do the 20 minute LIT walk home...
Sucks majorly. :frown:

Reply 15

Louise88

Parents are like that i'm afraid. Is it only recently that you have started going out much later? If so, chances are they will just have to get used to the idea of you staying out later. They are just worried about you, they don't want anything to happen to you so they like to know where you are, when you are expected home and who you are with just incase. Your parents will eventually lay off a little and let you do your own thing but for the time being, try to understand that they care about you.

Reply 16

yellowdots

2

scribble_girl

Oh, and how did she get my friend's numbers? By going through my phone.

My mum did exactly the same thing! lol i thought it was just me..

But yeah, this exact same thing used to happen to me when i lived at home and it annoyed me so much. Which is one of the main reasons i chose to move away for uni, so i could have a bit of freedom.
Just stick it out until you move out, at least you know they care.

Reply 17

40550

2

When I have stumbled in at three, my parents are fast asleep. I wish they would make more a fuss. I think your parents will soften on thier attitude the older you get. All you can do is reason with them and have as much fun as you can without breaking thier rules. They have intentions of keeping you safe, so remember they are on your side even though it might not feel that way

Reply 18

Anthonyjm71

9

Louise88

Parents are like that i'm afraid. Is it only recently that you have started going out much later? If so, chances are they will just have to get used to the idea of you staying out later. They are just worried about you, they don't want anything to happen to you so they like to know where you are, when you are expected home and who you are with just incase. Your parents will eventually lay off a little and let you do your own thing but for the time being, try to understand that they care about you.

yeah they do appear to be like that for some reason why i dont ever get..

Reply 19

Leigh

15

If you tell them where you are going and roughly what time you expect to be back, that should ease their mind a bit? At least that way they aren't waiting up getting agitated, and they don't need to interview you if you've already told them.

Parents just annoy me too much when I stay out a bit late

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