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I really want to run away, not worth it anymore

Well few days ago I posted on here that my mum could be cheating on my dad. Basically I saw a msn conv, on there my mum was saying how much she misses the person or the other way round.

Anyway to cut long story short, now I just found out that when my parents went shopping like a week ago, there were 2 phone calls on my mum's phone, and she rejected the calls. My dad thought it was suspicious, so afterwards he looked at the history of calls and those calls were deleted. And there were numerous texts to that person which my Dad know of but my mum also deleted.

Im sitting at the computer/study room atm, parents are next door arguing pretty loud, so even if I don't want to hear everything, I couldn't and I heard everything.

Right now I'm 70% sure that my mum is cheating on my Dad, maybe not to a full extent if you know what I mean but starting to cheat on my Dad.

And just then I did a very stupid thing. I went to outside of their room and said, if they split because mum is cheating then I wont talk to her again... not exact words but something like that. I know it's stupid, and just then dad came out the room saying its got nothing to do with me. And told me to shut up....

I don't know what to do now, before I always had trouble in school because I never worked hard and messed about, now I'm putting effort into my education, getting offers from good universities, and just when I thought everything is getting better... something like this turn up. My parents' relationship has always being good, ofcourse arguement here and there but its just the same as every family.

I really don't know what to do. I just want to pack my stuff and live at my nan's house for a days (since its half term). I'm really confused atm and kinda shocked too.

Any advice or anything is grateful. thank you
(If you want to flame me for w/e reason, this isn't a good time)
It's none of your business, stay out of it. You running off like a baby will only make things harder for your dad who's probably having a **** time anyway.
Its non of my business that my parents splits apart? i never said i wud interfere
comments like what? sorry if you thought it was mean. it's advice, yeah you're upset but maybe you need a shock to stop you doing something stupid. running off will hurt both of your parents more in the long run, what they both need is someone to be supportive and not judge (too much!) while they're having a rough time. running away makes the situation about you when they clearly need time to themselves to work through things.
Reply 4
I think you'll have to leave them to it, no matter how bad you feel about it... they are both responsible enough to make their own decisions. These aren't the comments you expected I don't think - but try not to let your work suffer. The good grades are your tickets out of there. Working hard and getting the grades is SO worth it when you get the results and you can think "YES!! I'm free". Also, it will keep you "up" if you know what I mean?!

Let them sort it. Don't interfere, but if you really want to escape why not stay at a friend's house?
Yeh, the above post makes a good point. If you try and focus on getting work done and doing as well as you can then that is your way out of life at home if it does get messy. Plus it will give you something to focus on.
Reply 6
It is a sad thing but just avoid them, you never know your dad may have had an affair and its your moms way of revenge cos he doesn't seem phased by it. I agree with you its you who will face the consequences if they split and have to live with one of them. Adults hate being advised by someone who is younger them as they feel they are superior.
all I can say is your sig entertained me for about 30 seconds
Reply 8
if you are uncomfortable there then go to your nan's house. They may be able to resolve things better if you are not there anyway. Plus you won't be tempted to say anything else that might make matters worse.

I hope it all gets resolved :smile:
Reply 9
Maybe talk to your nan about it and ask if you can go stay with her, then tell your parents that you have some work to do this half term so your goign to do it in the quiteness of your nan's house?

I remember when my parents argued over my dad cheating (my parents worked on their relationship and are still toether) I used to refuge at my grandparents and the first couple of argument I phoned my grandparents to ask them to come over as the arguing was upsetting myself and my brother.

Bearing in mind I was about 12 at the time and my brother was 10, we were considerablly much younger hen you.