I do not want to attend Freshers Week

19

Will this make me look totally unsociable?

I mean, I will be 25 years old. I am not going paintballing at 2am dressed as doctors and nurses! :mad:

I don't really like people that much, and I plan to stay in my room for most of my time at uni.

However, if this will lead to me being bullied then I might have to make some effort anyway. :worm:

Reply 1

Spacecam

15

Nah, you're a "mature" student. I'm sure you can be "sociable" in other ways like joining societies - which you could do at the fresher's fair or at the Student's Union during freshers week.

You'll have to make some sort of positive effort in the first few weeks to see people, but its not all about going out and getting drunk. If you join some societies you might meet some like-minded people, and make plenty of friends.

You won't be bullied, everyone is really friendly in the first few months especially, cos they know noone, so spend nearly all their time running around with the "please be my friend" approach to anyone and everyone. That's the time to make friends else you'll be left out.

You could always meet up with people who aren't 18/19/20?!

Reply 2

CJ

21

apart from the age you sound like a couple of friends of mine, that would much rather not talk to anyone and just get on...

... you could do this, but where's the harm in chatting to people?

you can decide your level of social life, how often you go out and such like, and don't worry what other people think... plenty of people would die to have their freshers week again, to give a better impression/start,.. but you only get one go (if all goes well) so make the most of it. :smile:

(i was ill for the start of mine and fely i missed out)

(in the kindest possible way) I don't want to be seeing you on the 'tough time at uni' thread later this year regretting what you did/didn't do...

all the best

Reply 3

=nuke=

11

I think that the social side of university is quite important... if you plan to stay in your room the whole time, why did you not choose to do an open university course?

Good luck with everything, anyway. You might find that you want to get involved when you get there.

Reply 4

JordanLUFC

7

Andy Pipkin

Will this make me look totally unsociable?

I mean, I will be 25 years old. I am not going paintballing at 2am dressed as doctors and nurses! :mad:

I don't really like people that much, and I plan to stay in my room for most of my time at uni.

However, if this will lead to me being bullied then I might have to make some effort anyway. :worm:

I doubt people will actually bully you for wanting to stay in your room...

Reply 5

Talya

16

LOL At Uni no one will bully you!

Join the mature students society and other societies at your fresher's fair (which will be during the day and no drink will be involved)

Reply 6

Iscariot

11

People really love to make mountains out of mole hills when it comes to university. Freshers week isn't exactly compulsory, you can sit in your room the entire time if you want. I can't even remember who was around during that week and who wasn't, no one really cares.

Reply 7

Pippak

10

I spent most of freshers' week in my room as I was too scared to knock on people's doors in case I woke them up (everyone slept at odd times). It was all a bit surreal. We had quite a lot of subject induction that week though, such as making module choices and the odd lecture. I know that some people had lots of subject stuff that week, such as maths tests (for engineers). Some of the medics had to be in at 9am during freshers' week for intro stuff (which we found shocking). It would probably be a good idea to be around so you can do the uni registration stuff, even if you don't wanna socialise with other first years.

Reply 8

tis_only_meee

7

Don't worry about it, when I go in for round 2 of the university experience I won't be doing Freshers' week and I'll probably be in my early 20s. It's nothing to do with being unsociable, I just hate all the clubbing and general madness. :smile:

Reply 9

Dark and Lovely

15

Am i the only who thinks paintballing at 2am in dress up sounds really fun?

Reply 10

Lolly-88

13

Dark and Lovely

Am i the only who thinks paintballing at 2am in dress up sounds really fun?

No, I do too! I want to do it! :biggrin:

Reply 11

elisabethbridge

1

Dark and Lovely

Am i the only who thinks paintballing at 2am in dress up sounds really fun?

My thoughts when I read the first post were wanting to do the paintball thing. :biggrin:

So, no you're not the only one.

Reply 12

Arminius

14

You want to spend all of uni in your room?

You'll get depressed. Surely.

Reply 13

Rian1988

14

Zebedee

You want to spend all of uni in your room?

You'll get depressed. Surely.

Paintballing 2am, in dress up! Why wouldn't you want too!

Reply 14

tis_only_meee

7

I wouldn't want to be paintballing at 2am dressed as a nurse for the following reasons:

a) That's way past my bedtime- I have the mental and physical stamina of a little old lady
b) I'm lazy
c) I don't see the point of the fancy dress, it's too much effort
d) I don't like mess- after being covered in paint you have to have a shower and it takes up valuable sleeping time
e) I would much rather watch telly, preferably with a nice cup of tea and a slice of cake

I never really felt I fitted in at uni. I went to a Women's Group and they seemed like the tea and cake kind, but I didn't like the whole "Women RULE THE WORLD!" thing.

Don't spend all of your time alone in your room though OP, for the following reasons:

a) It gets really lonely
b) If you're staying in halls then you'll become a recluse
c) It will drive you mad, especially when you hear people laughing and shouting through the thin walls and you're sitting there on your own
d) Those 4 walls...my god...those 4 walls...
e) Generally it's just unhealthy. But then I do think halls are unhealthy regardless, I would rather live in a shed.

I think that since you're 25 you won't be expected to do all these activities that 18 years love to do. Thing is, most Freshers will be up for it, so it will be madness for a few weeks before everything calms down a bit. You are going to be a mature student, so as Talya has said you can go to mature student meetings and other societies that may interest you if you want to meet people. I strongly believe that no-one should feel pushed into doing Freshers activities if they don't want to, but people tend not to pressurise anyway. So...just be yourself, don't feel pressurised and try not to care what other people think about how you live your life. It's up to you what you do and there is no right and wrong.

Reply 15

Realist101

13

1 point, im not sure but willing to guess this is true to form at most other unis, make the effort with people, or they won't make the effort with you.

Reply 16

goodmen

13

The-Lennon

the real answer is....... stop being a complete loser and join in. The whole point is to meet people, it doesn't matter what you're doing.

I was trying to think how I could put it in a nice way, but basically this fella is right. Join in, even if you dont enjoy it. You'll need friends at uni you dont have that much work to do than you can keep occupied in your room

Reply 17

Realist101

13

1 reason for students not dropping out of uni - friends. End of story.

Reply 18

Isambard Kingdom Brunel

OP

19

I have never had any friends in my life, and I don't know how to socialise. I would rather sit in my room on my own than have people laugh at me because of my lack of social skills. :pepsi:

Reply 19

bluenoxid

15

Do you have aspergers or autism?

Really I would encourage you to get out, you only have to wander around Freshers Fairs and chat with the odd person and disappear at 10 back home, but becoming a social reject will get you nothing.

Oh an do join societies. I would really push the debating society

I do not want to attend Freshers Week

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