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I think im better than I am

I always have as a kid I always beat people in sport and other things and really thought I was the best though I was shy and really quiet and didn't have v good social skills so I got picked on. Now though I realise how much of a loser I am, I really think that im good looking but am still a virgin and haven't had a proper relationship even at 20. People don't think im good looking at all as I always get rated the lowest in good looks (not just on the internet). Ive also realised how rubbish I am at sport when I join clubs. I was rejected for uni last year when I was 100% confident that Id get in and that my application was good. I can't even hold a job down because of panic attacks, fainting and anxiety but why am I like this?? Its strange because most people don't think they are good at things when they are and believe that they will get rejected when they don't. Im the opposite lol but now Im sure that im just useless (though I still think Im not ugly, just average) and everyone else gets all the luck. Its the same with clothes what I think looks good everyone else has a different taste.

Why can't I see reality im so confused, help:confused:
Reply 1
I think you just have to change the way you look at things. Being a virgin, dating, looks, clothes- all these things are insignificant. These are all superficial values that society imposes on you and sadly a great majority of the people think these things are important.
Learn to look at things not from society's point of view but from the point of view of an independent being and try to see what really is important. Only then will you realize that you do have a lot to feel proud of.
Reply 2
Anonymous
I always have as a kid I always beat people in sport and other things and really thought I was the best though I was shy and really quiet and didn't have v good social skills so I got picked on. Now though I realise how much of a loser I am, I really think that im good looking but am still a virgin and haven't had a proper relationship even at 20. People don't think im good looking at all as I always get rated the lowest in good looks (not just on the internet). Ive also realised how rubbish I am at sport when I join clubs. I was rejected for uni last year when I was 100% confident that Id get in and that my application was good. I can't even hold a job down because of panic attacks, fainting and anxiety but why am I like this?? Its strange because most people don't think they are good at things when they are and believe that they will get rejected when they don't. Im the opposite lol but now Im sure that im just useless (though I still think Im not ugly, just average) and everyone else gets all the luck. Its the same with clothes what I think looks good everyone else has a different taste.

Why can't I see reality im so confused, help:confused:


ha, thats just like me, I think I am so gorgeous and unique looking when i see myself in the mirror, just that no one else thinks so.
people always seem to ignore me and no one ever seemed to fancy me, i used to think it was cos i wasn't thin or pretty enough but then i noticed that even people who i considered mingers were getting more attention than me. now i think maybe people aren't really as shallow as i had thought and maybe if you stop just standing there thinking you look so great and waiting for people to come up to you.

on the otherhand, maybe we are just really minging with overrated opinions of ourselves
Reply 3
Otarru
I think you just have to change the way you look at things. Being a virgin, dating, looks, clothes- all these things are insignificant. These are all superficial values that society imposes on you and sadly a great majority of the people think these things are important.
Learn to look at things not from society's point of view but from the point of view of an independent being and try to see what really is important. Only then will you realize that you do have a lot to feel proud of.


Thanks, though reputation is important to me as I have none lol, although everyone says that looks and dating don't matter everyone seems to act as though they matter, eg by looking there best and worrying about never having bf's and gf's. No one seems to practice what they preach.
Reply 4
Rouge
ha, thats just like me, I think I am so gorgeous and unique looking when i see myself in the mirror, just that no one else thinks so.
people always seem to ignore me and no one ever seemed to fancy me, i used to think it was cos i wasn't thin or pretty enough but then i noticed that even people who i considered mingers were getting more attention than me. now i think maybe people aren't really as shallow as i had thought and maybe if you stop just standing there thinking you look so great and waiting for people to come up to you.

on the otherhand, maybe we are just really minging with overrated opinions of ourselves


wow someone else too, really most people think that they are ugly and they are not, or maybe they just don't want to sound arrogant? Anyway yea Ive noticed that people who are uglier get more attention, but maybe they are nicer:confused:
Reply 5
Anonymous
Thanks, though reputation is important to me as I have none lol, although everyone says that looks and dating don't matter everyone seems to act as though they matter, eg by looking there best and worrying about never having bf's and gf's. No one seems to practice what they preach.


Maybe that's your problem - who cares about reputation? I have none at all and probably says the stupidest things at times lol. I'm not "popular" - I have my good circle of friends but I'm not popular, if you get me. Just be content with what you have - reputation - who cares? Do you think your friends when you're in your 30's will care who looked up to you when you were 20? Do you really think your employer will care whether you're in a relationship or not? Focus on what matters.

Don't worry about how good you are. Just see what you're good at, then focus on those things and improve, harness your skills and talents.
Reply 6
Anonymous
wow someone else too, really most people think that they are ugly and they are not, or maybe they just don't want to sound arrogant? Anyway yea Ive noticed that people who are uglier get more attention, but maybe they are nicer:confused:

yeah, you sound so similar to me, and yep, it seems a lot of normal/good-looking people think they are ugly, and ugly people usually think they are even uglier,
also i think i have a really interesting personality, but after interacting with anyone for a short while they usually try to get away and never talk to me again, I wonder what makes me so repulsive:redface: