Jealousy

I dunno if Im posting in the right place-but for crying out loud! I dont think Im a jealous person in general, but theres this one girl-we used to kinda be friends but now we dont talk at all, and even when we were friends it was kinda in a rivalry/competitive way. I know for a fact shes still trying to compete with me and compare herself to me (cos we're applying for the same courses for uni) and shes one of those people that hates anyone else being successful, or as successful as her, even her firends who just bum her anyway. And even though I try and ignore her and her compettiveness nd manipulations I just cant seem to help being jealous of how shes got into the uni i wanna go to and stuff. I know for a fact shes far more jealous of me than I am of her but I just cant get away from her! grrr! she makes me so angry and stuff...but yeah. I just kinda needed to vent my feelings lol. Has anyone else had a similar situation?

Reply 1

wackysparkle

hmm - sort of - not as extreme as yours though

i think its just a girl thing as well to be honest !

its natualy to have that competitive edge and also feel really jealous if someone else got what you longed for

just remember that when one door closes another opens

and

something that i keep telling myself is that everything happens for a reason, who knows you may get into a better univeristy, you may get a better qualification etc -

Reply 2

Llamaaa

yeah I had that with a boy at my high school. He was constantly comparing himself to me- checking out my test scores to compare them, taking the position opposite mine in a mock parliament exercise and so forth. It does get kind of annoying. Even worse when he started to get depressed when I did better than him, especially when I got into Cambridge and he was rejected by Oxford. The thing is, in a school situation I don't think you can help but compare yourself with someone and get a bit of rivalry going on. Often it is healthy because it makes you work harder so you beat that person. From the way she sounds, she doesn't seem the nicest person to be around so she probably won't make friends at uni. There's a nice though to comfort you :smile:

Also she may not get the grades to actually go to that university and end up with a dodgy insurance university or go through clearing.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thanks. Thing is shes so maniupulative and clever that she WILL get the grades and WILL make friends. i just wish i could get people to realise just what kind of person she is. And Im worried that if we both end up going to the same uni, which is quite possible, I may never be rid of her. I perosnally hate this whole rivalry thing competiive or not its just that because SHE is like that it kinda makes me do the same. Its so starnge. And I hate the way she treats her friends-they all love her and really do bum her and she pretends they're all close and everythign but really I know for a fact shes secretly happy that shes more successful/cleverer/prettier than them, cos she used to try and do that to me. I really wouldnt wanna be evn in the same city as this girl, but what if we do?

Reply 4

Enchanté

Yeah i've had that experience, when in high school even my best friend and I used to compete to do better than each other in science tests I hated it when she done better :redface:

I felt really bad when I felt like that :redface:

Don't even know why :s:

but I got through it in the end. :p:

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

It's very easy to fall into that cycle and become jealous. Try to keep your business to yourself and remember that you will eventually grow out of it. If you do go to the same uni, it'll be easy to avoid her so don't worry about that. The worst thing, I think, you can do is play her game because it doesn't benefit either of you.