Should I be annoyed?

Today went out with my bf of two weeks for valentines day - we went to pizza hut (his idea) and it only came to 12 quid because he insisted on the buffet (he said it was cheap and you get alot for your money) - he didn't pay but gave me a massive bar of chocolate and a card, the thing is inside the card all it says is 'To *name* love from *name* xxx'.... inside my one to him i wrote a sweet message and i was kind of dissapointed that he didn't write anything. Also i thought he might pay for the lunch but no... am i being stupid for being a bit upset about this??

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Reply 1

matt@internet

Yes. Well half yes. You should have split the bill. And remember, most guys don't get what a big deal Valentines day is to gals, me included.

Reply 2

PatchTheCatch

I mean even though it's only two weeks I still think it's important to show effort if not more than if it was say a relationshpi of one month seeing as you two are still kinda just working stuff out he should be going out of his way to woo and treat you seeing as it's been such a short time.

Reply 3

wackysparkle

he didn't pay? -- yeah, i think that was a cheapskate thing

but as for the message - maybe he's not ready to let out his feelings yet? it has only been 2 weeks, --- plus i think girls find expressing their emotions easier than guys

Reply 4

PatchTheCatch

Maybe girls find it easier to express their emotions but apparently us males are more emotional because we tend to bottle it up because we don't want to be seen crying yadayada so we end up like exploding when something finally hits us. I personally cry like a child at anything but interestingly enough not when something affects me. Like I cry at movies things that happen to my friends etc but if something goes wrong for me I just put it down to bad luck or something and don't shed a tear.

Reply 5

LordGrace

Well, after 2 weeks you can't expect him to be too into the whole Valentine's Day thing. But a guy expecting you to pay the bill 2 weeks in is just harsh. If he didn't want to pay all of it he could have halved it with you, that would have been the decent thing. So yeah, you can be a bit annoyed, maybe ask himw hat it was all about. Don't waste your time with somebody who's not really interested.

Reply 6

wackysparkle

ah - okay -- insight into a guy's mind there -- hmm
well i think that's society's influence then isn't it? annndd the whole reputation and stuff

Reply 7

PatchTheCatch

Aye I assume you are right that whole kinda nature vs. nurture etc
I don't see why people are scared to show emotions it's just hard to understand but each to his/her own I guess.

Reply 8

wackysparkle

yeah - i mean end of the day -- everyone cares about what other people think -- even the most hard core person --

Reply 9

PatchTheCatch

For some reason that just gives me the image of a full on punk with loads of scars a wooden leg and a patch on his eye sitting in a room full of tears :s and I have know idea why ^^

Reply 10

wackysparkle

llloollll

hey you never know :ninja:

Reply 11

Yellowmarshmellow

thanks for your replies ^ he just text me saying hi thanks for the card i feel bad for not writing much in yours, im glad we're 2getha :smile:

hehe xxx'
so that's sweet right?
he just confuses me so much!!!

Reply 12

PatchTheCatch

For some strange reason, now you can question me here, I feel we might have slightly gone off topic, now thats just a suggestion ^^

Reply 13

wackysparkle

we are discussing the possible history of the boyfriend and how that has influenced how he is now treating his girlfriend

the connection is blatantly obvious :rolleyes:

Reply 14

PatchTheCatch

WOW I don't know how I didn't see it ^^
I get to go to starbucks with my mum soon. Man I truely am a gangster. People say spend valentine's with the one you love doesn't say you have to be in love with them ^^

Reply 15

wackysparkle

i know! how didnt you see it?? sheesh!

ooh luv starbux!! caramel frapps all the way

i'm spendin today with friends --- gonna just eat icecream + talk about how much valentinez day sux!

Reply 16

PatchTheCatch

Ahh I dinnae like that approach whilst I feel it sucks for me atm I can appreciate the fact that other people are having fun and being romantic. I disagree with the day on a whole I really feel people should be more romantic all the time but naeone listens ^^
Coffee fraps are a personal fave of mine, although I am partial to a nice vanilla latte

Reply 17

wackysparkle

i whole heartedly agree [how ironic was that] -- you shouldn't have to have on day a year to tells someone who much you luve/appreciate them

Reply 18

L0RA

Yellowmarshmellow

thanks for your replies ^ he just text me saying hi thanks for the card i feel bad for not writing much in yours, im glad we're 2getha :smile:

hehe xxx'
so that's sweet right?
he just confuses me so much!!!

I have to say i would have been a bit put out by him not paying especially since its Valentines (even if he doesnt get what its all about he could have made an effort for you) I would have been annoyed at the buffet thing too cause i HATE them!

My guy cooked me a meal, bought me wine and made me a card :smile:

I just bought him a card and wine :p:

We were both happy!

Reply 19

Louise88

Hmmm I don't know. I can see why you are annoyed and I guess I would be a little too. He should have at least offered to pay half, that would have been the polite thing to do.

As for the card, some people aren't very good with words therefore they stick to simple things, not because they don't care but because they find it difficult to do. I'll admit, I wouldn't know what to write on a valentines card and I love my boyfriend very much, just because I don't know how to write it down on paper doesn't mean I love him less.