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Reply 620

Nat I am very happy that things worked out for you but I would like to point out you were incredibly lucky. Your partner was obviously sensible, mature, loving and committed and you got married. Great! But what about the guys who walk out the second they hear the news? You, and everyone on this forum, are essentially middle class, and educated. We have no idea what it is to live in abject poverty and are you seriously telling me that if you had found out you were pregnant, your guy had walked out on you and you were dubious as to how you were going to feed even yourself, you would still have been so adamant about keeping the baby? In addition I would like to point out that although you may have loved your first degree, it's not the same as wanting to be a vet/doctor/lawyer all your life. You can't dip in and out of the route necessary to achieve that kind of ambition. Again, you've been lucky that you were able to change your plans for the better and are now very happy but please see you are probably the exception, not the rule, for unplanned pregnancies.

Reply 621

The_Myth Leader
How dare you state that?! You know fine well that you quoted my comment when writing that response about me being anti-women. That really is foul play. It really is.



On the contrary I stated after making 20 pages of justifications that could not be bothered to offer any more justifications. All your points have been raised before and settled. Your very point was that I favour punishment of women over the baby's life was at question. It is a serious and wrong claim. Spluttered it may be, because I'm sick and tired of regurgitating points raised numerous times before. It was a direct answer and denial of your fatuous claim. I reckon the baby has a right to life, the arguments have been raised before, justified and settled as best it could. Stop trying to revive old arguments that ran out of breath many pages before.



Please listen. Probably more than half my previous comments are directly related to this. Briefly:


The issue is not only to do with the woman. The woman, generally, would say, yes I want to get rid of the baby. It's not that simple. There is a whole moral aspect surrounding it. Everyone has freewill, to an extent that the government and society limits. Freewill has moral boundaries: take murder for an example. There is potential life involved. One woman is not informed to make such a moral decision. Society is, and it's unbiased. Indeed there currently are regulations regarding abortion. It is right that we constantly judge this. What if in the future scientists suddenyl find it ou is like genocide (or something similar)? We need to bde an ever-improving moral society, and should look at these ethical issues. Individual cases should of couse be concidered and should be noted in government legislation.

Now that was brief. If you want a more detailed article then have a look through the pages for more similar arguments.

This is getting boring now. And once again you have unjustly attacked me with regards to your initial sentences.

Now leave me in peace.
:rolleyes: stop pretending your leaving the thread

Reply 622

The_Myth Leader
How dare you state that?! You know fine well that you quoted my comment when writing that response about me being anti-women. That really is foul play. It really is. Small, unjust jibes have no place and deserve no respect in a debate.


Do you wear a monacle?! :p:

Look, I already said in my very first post that I had come in late and that I just wanted to throw in my thoughts. The issue of why a zygote conceived through rape is different to one conceived through a loving committed relationship has most definitely not been answered or justified. I quoted your posts only because you were the closest thing I got to a response to my question. If you didn't want me to use your ideas as representative of the pro-lifers, you shouldn't have responded, it's as simple as that. Now calm down, I'm not trying to insult you personally, just trying to evoke a little discussion around my original point. It definitely has not been answered, either by you or anyone on this thread. The other issues may have been but I am discussing those with others apart from your fine self.

Reply 623

Trigger
:rolleyes: stop pretending your leaving the thread


:rolleyes: Actually I say that hopefully someone won't give an unfair account of me whilst I'm not there. I'm not responding to arguments anymore. They are getting repetitive and I have responded with reasonable justifications to most, if not all, of them before.

However now I really shall depart, hopefully with noone making yet another fatuous claim. :smile: Good luck, everybody! Sweet dreams! etc. etc. :p:


God bless. :biggrin: x

The_Myth Leader

Reply 624

the myth leader sleeps with men.......

Reply 625

Sorry I lied. Last one. I promise. :smile:

Jennybean
Do you wear a monacle?! :p:


No. But I do wear glasses. Is this yet another pathetic attempt to discredit me?! :p: Just because I wear glasses?!

Look, I already said in my very first post that I had come in late and that I just wanted to throw in my thoughts. The issue of why a zygote conceived through rape is different to one conceived through a loving committed relationship has most definitely not been answered or justified.


I believe they're justified, not necessarily a good justification in many opinions, but nevertheless I have tried to back up my opinions. There, I've hit a compromise.

I quoted your posts only because you were the closest thing I got to a response to my question. If you didn't want me to use your ideas as representative of the pro-lifers, you shouldn't have responded, it's as simple as that.


I do not represent the whole of the pro-life group. In fact I have moderate, conservative views on abortion in contrast to other's extremer views. Fell free, nevertheless to use my arguments.


Now calm down, I'm not trying to insult you personally, just trying to evoke a little discussion around my original point
.

I am calm. I just, understandably, am concerned by your allegations.

It definitely has not been answered, either by you or anyone on this thread. The other issues may have been but I am discussing those with others apart from your fine self.


I would beg to differ. But I'm too tired. You know what - whatever...

Believe what you want to believe, after all, everyone has different interpretations of facts for each ethical debate.

Now, no more input from me. Fingers crossed.

Reply 626

XenaGlamRocker
No, I wasn't ready.
I cried for days when I found out I was pregnant (first time round, not this time round - this time was different, it was planned).
I truthfully thought my life was over.
My entire plans for the future - finishing my french degree etc. were all up in smoke.
(you can't very well spend a year in france [part of the course] with a baby. it's totally impractical).

I wasn't about to abort it though, but my god I was so so gutted about getting pregnant.

But I was wrong - my life wasn't ruined. Yes I had to change my future plans, change my course, get married in a hurry (I never wanted to have kids before getting married, so we had a crazy time planning a marriage in only 3 months), and I had to become a mother far earlier than I would have ever expected.

But the moment I set eyes on my daughter I knew it was all worth it.

Plans change all the time. What would happen if you were to be hit by a bus tomorrow and lose the use of your legs? God willing that doesn't happen, but if it did, you would have to change your plans drastically.

Life throws things at you to alter the course that you wish to take - well who knows - maybe it's not the course that you're meant to take after all. Maybe, if you go with the flow, another better course will come around the corner.

Life is good for me. I'm actually glad I didn't continue with the french, I'm enjoying Classics even more! My grades are even better with this course than the were with the french one, and this is despite juggling a toddler and a hectic home life!

If you got pregnant, it would change your plans, I'm not denying that, but I seriously doubt it would ruin your life. You would simply make new plans.


What you did I respect you for. You gave up the life you had planned to start a new, different, nerving, unknown one. Fair enough you didn't want to have an abortion and you didn't, well done for sticking by your morals and belifes and good luck with your future! :smile:

I on the other hand felt that what I wanted was an abortion, I wanted to live my life as I've planned it. (4 year degree with a work placement and then going on to work in management, living a teenage life, I was a late maturer and I've only just started doing things my friends started at 16/17 (pubs, clubs, etc etc) I had also only been with my boyfriend for 9 months. Nothing was certain between us

I hope people could just respect the both of us for what we did although compleatly different. I'm not a maternal person at all (I'm guessing you where, I'm sure you are now :smile: ) I would resent anything that got in the way of what I wanted to do. At the time my boyfriend was unsure about his job, he wasn't enjoying it and the company was up for sale (although only he knew about this by digging some dirt) There's no-way we could have supported a child in the way I believe children should be brought up.

Well done to you again. I'm sure you do love you children and your life, I just couldn't see it being for me.

Reply 627

I'm going to bed now too guys, Trig and Nat remind me to rep you when I next can for providing me with the first stimulating conversation I've had in a while. I'm afraid the gay misogynist (?!) got first dibs tonight.

Reply 628

Trigger
the myth leader sleeps with men.......


I heard that! I do not have much of a problem with homosexuality. I do, although, have a lovely girlfriend whom I cherish with all my heart. :smile:

Reply 629

The_Myth Leader
I would beg to differ. But I'm too tired. You know what - whatever...


All you have to do is say which page it was dealt with on and I'll believe you but I've trawled right through and it definitely hasn't been dealt with!

Reply 630

love ya

Reply 631

Jennybean
I'm going to bed now too guys, Trig and Nat remind me to rep you when I next can for providing me with the first stimulating conversation I've had in a while. I'm afraid the gay misogynist (?!) got first dibs tonight.


I'm neither gay nor a mysogenist. You gave me neg rep because I disagreed with you :eek: ? Shameful...

Good night.

Right. That was my last comment. Good night guys.

Reply 632

The_Myth Leader
I heard that! I do not have much of a problem with homosexuality. I do, although, have a lovely girlfriend whom I cherish with all my heart. :smile:
shes really a man :cool: :biggrin:

Reply 633

The_Myth Leader
I'm neither gay nor a mysogenist. You gave me neg rep because I disagreed with you :eek: ? Shameful...

Good night.

Right. That was my last comment. Good night guys.


No, fool, I gave you positive rep for being a good debateringer. Dear lord! You really are a touchy little squirmer. Now find me the page. Supercat touched upon it but was quickly beaten to the ground by Lib North and his moral crusaders.
Edit: Have just had ANOTHER look through and nobody has come up with a satisfactory answer to "surely a foetus is a foetus, why are rape cases different?" If anyone can provide me with a sound, logical explanation for this, that would be great.

Reply 634

Yeah, my edit button doesn't work. :s-smilie: I only just realised afterwards. I take it back unreservedly. I can't be bothered to look through 32 pages of writing. Quite frankly, I don't really want to spur up the debate again, it's exhausting. Let's just say it hasn't been answered.

Good night everbody. Now that's my last comment. :redface:

Reply 635

Trigger
shes really a man :cool: :biggrin:


:hmmm:

Reply 636

go on, giggle, i dare you

Reply 637

Trigger
go on, giggle, i dare you


:laugh: What a way to end... :smile:

She's not a man though.

Reply 638

Jennybean
After all, it's not the foetus's fault its dad was a rapist, anymore than it would be the foetus's fault if its mother forgot to take her pill. I would at least have more respect for the pro-lifers if their arguments had a little integrity but the logic of this aspect just evades me completely.


EXACTILY! Why did it take you so long to join this thread :p: :smile:


XenaGlamRocker


Abortions, too, can cause side effects. They are not the norm either, but they can indeed happen:
-prolonged uterine bleeding
-abdominal pain
-nausea & vomiting
-diarrhea
-fever
-infection
-incomplete abortion
-injury to organs or the cervix
-even very rare death


Any yet despite these possible (and quite severe) side-effects, pro-lifers still believe many reckless women use abortion as contraception :rolleyes:


The_Myth Leader


That's it, last comment from me. I seriously can't be bothered anymore.


Thank god for that :biggrin:


Jennybean
I think this is the closest you have come to admitting the truth behind your stance, i.e. that you and many others have these moralistic views not on the basis of the baby's right to life but on the basis that the unfortunate women who accidentally get pregnant are under some obligation to be punished.


You = genius :smile: You've hit the nail well and truly on the head.


The_Myth Leader
Good to hear it.



Didn't you say you were leaving? :wink: Hurry up and close the door behind you. There's a draft.


The_Myth Leader
I believe the baby has a right to life, not that the woman should be punished. That is just too petty! Substantiate your claim, please.


You again? :rolleyes:

Your view: abortion is wrong unless rape has occured.

But its not the fault of the fetus that it was a product of rape. So if it was truly the right of the fetus that you cared for, you would be against abortion in *all* circumstances.


XenaGlamRocker

Children are such a blessing. Honestly, they do not ruin your life, they only make it better.



Again, that is only your experience.


XenaGlamRocker
I can't help but feel sad for what you're missing out on.


*barf* She isnt missing out at all. If/when she wants a baby, she shall have one. No problemo. AND she will ensure she is financially and emotionally stable enough to provide the best posibile environment. She will have her degree/career sorted *before* breeding.

Doesn't sound like she'll be missing out on much to me. Sounds pretty darn fine.


XenaGlamRocker
Yes I had to change my future plans, change my course, get married in a hurry (I never wanted to have kids before getting married, so we had a crazy time planning a marriage in only 3 months)


Shotgun wedding. Classy. :cool:

Reply 639

*deep breath*

Okay i've been out doing fun stuff so naturally its an absolute joy to come back to read all this before bed-time. :wink:

First off, JennyBean Trigger etc etc resorting to calling the_myth_leader 'gay', 'a mysogynist', and claiming his gf is actually a man is a) potentially insulting/hurtful and b) does little to enhance your argument.
Do you not find it odd that the people with the most cogent arguments, who support their views with logic are those who don't see abortion as completely a matter of the woman's choice? Whilst these people may not be extremely pro-life, they still believe that the unborn child has some rights and termination decisions are not to be taken lightly. On the other hand, the propagators of the idea that it is always a woman's choice are generally ineloquent and inarticulate, and have trouble constructing a rational argument. Does this correlation not suggest that perhaps people who believe it should always be the woman's choice have difficulty in employing logic in debate? I propose that it does. Many of you allow your emotions to govern your argument, and don't present reasoned arguments. This obviously leads to frustration.

I accept that there is ground for giving the woman a degree of choice in the decision, but only when it is argued on the basis that a developing embryo or foetus has no status of a normal human being.
I disagree, obviously, with that assertion. The real question is of course at what point we start to give cells their fundamental human rights. That, of course, is one that we will never agree on, but is absolutely crucial to this argument, and is barely addressed by many of the above mentioned emotionally-governed posters.

With regards to rape. Yes a child concieved of rape is still a child, and as such I would emphatically suggest the mother at least give birth to it, even if she feels she must give it away to an adoption agency. On the other hand, abortion is more understandable in this case, as a child born of rape, should he ever discover this truth, will likely suffer from incurable psychological issues.

Also, please don't paint anyone who disagrees with abortion in all circumstances as an ageing religious extremist with little grounding in modern reality. There are many individuals who feel this way who are totally irreligious.

Saying you don't like Lib North is immature, and does nothing to make his argument less valid. If anything it suggests it is more valid, as you cannot think of anything to say to counter his viewpoint so instead resort to personal insults. I'm pretty sure there is a Margaret Thatcher quote to this effect somewhere... Yes, the woman, Margaret Thatcher. Wtf is misogynist pig like me doing quoting her!!!1111

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