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Spiked drink, boyfriend didn't care
One of my friends got her drink spiked last night, her boyfriend just thought she was drunk, he left her alone with me and my boyfriend looking after her and only came back just as we were getting her in the ambulance, she was throwing up blood, having an asthma attack and didnt know where she was, he said she was pathetic and then put his fist through the door and walked off, all she remembers now is him being with her in the hospital later on and she thinks he's a hero. He did a lot more last night that was totally out of order, he almost punched a girl in the face but hit the door instead, he shouted at the paramedics for not doing anything (they were asking her all the drug/drink related questions as you would expect) and he shouted at her saying she was disgusting for lying in her sick. I dont want to upset her by telling her because today he was looking after her, getting her food and stuff, to be honest i think he just feels guilty, but I think I should tell her just so she can make her own decision, there were about 10 people who saw him doing all this stuff so its not like she wouldnt believe me, I just don't want to upset her. Any thoughts? thanks
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*Her* boyfriend sounds like a prick. Then again, he may have been totally off his face and so wasn't really in control of what he was saying/doing. Either way I think his behaviour was appalling and inexcusable, and your friend should not be under the impression that he was along side her all the time, and should know he was being a selfish git.
Democracy
Your boyfriend sounds like a prick. Then again, he may have been totally off his face and so wasn't really in control of what he was saying/doing. Either way I think his behaviour was appalling, and your friend should not be under the impression that he was along side her all the time.
it was her boyfriend, my boyfriend was sat holding her up and giving her her inhaler, rubbing her back etc while I was holding up her hair and trying to calm her down, everything her boyf should have been doing, he was also totally sober so he doesn't have that excuse
Tell your friend what really happened - it doesn't matter if he felt ashamed of his behaviour the next day or whatever, he behaved like a jerk to his girlfriend! And she definitely deserves to know.
Wouldn't you want to know if you were her?
Wouldn't you want to know if you were her?
invisible_gal
Tell your friend what really happened - it doesn't matter if he felt ashamed of his behaviour the next day or whatever, he behaved like a jerk to his girlfriend! And she definitely deserves to know.
Wouldn't you want to know if you were her?
Wouldn't you want to know if you were her?
I would definitely want to know, I thought that could be how I approached it? tell her that I know she would tell me if it was the other way round. She self harms so I know I have to go about this really carefully, just not sure how.
bunnycatkid
it was her boyfriend, my boyfriend was sat holding her up and giving her her inhaler, rubbing her back etc while I was holding up her hair and trying to calm her down, everything her boyf should have been doing, he was also totally sober so he doesn't have that excuse
zomg. Sorry, apologies and all, I hope you're not offended!Well if he wasn't drunk, she should definitely know, so she can decide wether she wants to carry on in a relationship with him.
I hope you're friend is okay, but tbh anyone that manages to get their drink spiked in this day and age, given all its press coverage, has to be a bit of a spiv.
Democracyzomg. Sorry, apologies and all, I hope you're not offended!
Well if he wasn't drunk, she should definitely know, so she can decide wether she wants to carry on in a relationship with him.
zomg. Sorry, apologies and all, I hope you're not offended!Well if he wasn't drunk, she should definitely know, so she can decide wether she wants to carry on in a relationship with him.
Hehe Im not offended, her boyfriend is a prick, I knew before yesterday.. but he just proved my point. I'll tell her soon, today they are doing valentines stuff
Anonymous
I hope you're friend is okay, but tbh anyone that manages to get their drink spiked in this day and age, given all its press coverage, has to be a bit of a spiv.
I wasn't asking for opinons on whether or not my friend is a spiv, which she isn't, I was asking if people think it would be the right idea to tell her about her boyfriend's behaviour.
You should tell her, you know its the right decision. I would want to know if my boyfriend had acted like that. I've had to look after my guy a couple of times when hes got himself into a state and the next day hes had no idea what happened so its very unlikely she'll ever remember how he was towards her 
Can i just say on a side note - was it in Manchester she got her drink spiked? Cause theres been alot of spiked drinks recently in Manchester my flatmate had hers spiked last week in a small bar. I also know a fair few people who got theirs spiked at Deansgate so be EXTRA careful
Can i just say on a side note - was it in Manchester she got her drink spiked? Cause theres been alot of spiked drinks recently in Manchester my flatmate had hers spiked last week in a small bar. I also know a fair few people who got theirs spiked at Deansgate so be EXTRA careful
You said her boyfriend thought she was just drunk. So, clearly he didn't know her drink had been spiked. Yes?
generalebriety
You said her boyfriend thought she was just drunk. So, clearly he didn't know her drink had been spiked. Yes?
Surely it doesnt matter if she was just drunk? She was clearly ill and having an asthma attack. Whether she had her drink spiked or not, her boyfriend should have been there for her!!
I'd definitely want to know if I was her, so I think you need to carefully and sensitively tell her what really happened. Be prepared that she may not want to listen to you or believe you.
Hang on....are you completely sure he didn't have his drink spiked too? Things like that can affect different people in completely different ways. A few years ago one of my friends took something with another friend (albeit voluntarily but I think the example still stands) and had a complete meltdown, she appeared incredibly drunk and was swearing and hitting out at people, especially those who were trying to help her. Meanwhile the other friend was seemingly unaffected. The badly affected friend didn't remember any of it the next day and was absolutely mortified when told of her behaviour. If you're sure this isn't a possibility then I'm with everyone else and I think you yourself know the right thing to do is tell her, she absolutely has the right to know and tbh if you don't tell her someone else probably will. Just perhaps wait til she's over the shock and upset a little, she's been through enough!
L0RA
Surely it doesnt matter if she was just drunk? She was clearly ill and having an asthma attack. Whether she had her drink spiked or not, her boyfriend should have been there for her!!
I wasn't disputing that.
Exclamation mark, exclamation mark.
Anonymous
I hope you're friend is okay, but tbh anyone that manages to get their drink spiked in this day and age, given all its press coverage, has to be a bit of a spiv.
No wonder you're anonymous. The stupidest contribution to this forum ever, I imagine. It's plenty easy to get your drink spiked - if it was just a question of sticking your thumb over the neck of bottles, it would never happen would it? Have you considered that the bar staff were involved? It does happen. Don't make sweeping and vastly offensive statements about things you know nothing about.
my ex b/f was like that
Jennybean
No wonder you're anonymous. The stupidest contribution to this forum ever, I imagine. It's plenty easy to get your drink spiked - if it was just a question of sticking your thumb over the neck of bottles, it would never happen would it? Have you considered that the bar staff were involved? It does happen. Don't make sweeping and vastly offensive statements about things you know nothing about.
lol.
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