Age Gap

Right I know this has been done a few times before but I really want people's advice, either if your in the situation of have been in the situation. Recently I met this boy who is the year below me at school, but one of the youngest in his year. I am upper 6th (age 18) and he is lower 6th but not 17 until August which makes him 16 years old. I feel like a bit of a paedo and weary about the whole situation as my younger brother is 16 years old but 2 school years below me. He is really nice/hot/sweet etc but I'm quite mature as it is and have never gone for a younger guy. I really don't know what to do. Please help.

Reply 1

Louise88

If you are having doubts about it then it's probably not the best idea to get into something with this guy if you are so unsure. Two years isn't a big age gap but sometimes in teenage relationships, it can be. Sixteen seems quite young to some people so to be in a relationship with someone of that age, you might get a bit of stick because some people are like that, it's nothing that you should take seriously. If you think that you can get over the age gap and if you really like the guy then I don't see the harm in trying, like you said he will be seventeen in August, thats not too bad and the fact that he is actually only one year bellow you in school, isn't that bad either.

Reply 2

hannah_dru

Nothing wrong with it. You're both legal.

Reply 3

wackysparkle

i have friends in the same situation - they don't get any comments or anything. they are happy and thats what matters really

and like hannah said, its legal, no reason for paedo rumours to stir up

the important thing is whether you believe that the age gap is affecting your relationship, and find out what he thinks as well

also, he's turning 17 in august, not so long now :smile:

Reply 4

-splinter-

I never think its fair the way its perfectly acceptable for guys to have girlfriends 3 or 4 years younger than them, whereas it always seems to be a problem for girls dating guys a year younger. I liked this boy who 15 when I was 16 and we never got together but it would have made me a paedo! Difficult, but I say go for it!

Reply 5

Kate.

My boyfriend is 9 months younger than me, which isn't really anything but it seems like more because he's in the year below me at college. I haven't had any serious mocking, I very much doubt you will. Your friends might joke around a bit - my mom called me a cradle snatcher the other day, hahah - but don't worry about it :smile:

Reply 6

CCG

I was in the exact same situation, and I mean exact same situation only in reverse as of course I was dating a girl. However she too was the youngest in her year lower sixth form, and at the time I was 18 in upper sixth form. She was the similar age to my younger sister.

I was not really judged because of this, however I do feel that this has little bearing on your dilemma, as I feel it has almost become the social norm for the guy to be older. However I would not be too concerned with what other people think, as previously stated you are both of consensual age. My advice to you would be to stop worrying, and make the most of your relationship.

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