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socialising at parties
im not much of a party-goer but i'm planning to go to one next week. was just wondering if you people had any tips when it comes to socialising at parties, like with people that you don't know. i'm not the most confident of blokes especially when it comes to girls, so any advice on this front would be much appreciated too.
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alcyhol: social lube
By all means stick with the people you know but dont stick to them solidly and refuse to speak to anyone else 
Offering to pour someone a drink, asking how they know the host, bumping into them (thats how i meet the majority of my best mates
!!) and let the conversation go from there!
We had a flat party before Christmas, i obviously live here and my mates didnt come until later on so i was forced to talk to people i didnt know. I was drunk and went round the entire room telling EVERYONE that i infact lived there even if they didnt know it
I met my now 'guy' from me walking up to him in the corridor informing him that i lived there 
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Offering to pour someone a drink, asking how they know the host, bumping into them (thats how i meet the majority of my best mates
!!) and let the conversation go from there! We had a flat party before Christmas, i obviously live here and my mates didnt come until later on so i was forced to talk to people i didnt know. I was drunk and went round the entire room telling EVERYONE that i infact lived there even if they didnt know it
I met my now 'guy' from me walking up to him in the corridor informing him that i lived there o
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im not much of a party-goer but i'm planning to go to one next week. was just wondering if you people had any tips when it comes to socialising at parties, like with people that you don't know. i'm not the most confident of blokes especially when it comes to girls, so any advice on this front would be much appreciated too.
cheers
cheers
try being more social have a go at talking to people from different back grounds so you can get a feel of how people react to you..
Cyclotron
dont drink would be my advice
just chat to people til you find someone interesting (or drunk and horny) and go from there
just chat to people til you find someone interesting (or drunk and horny) and go from there
The problem with this, for guys anyway, is that its generally considered to be taking advantage, if you are completely sober and you end up bedding someone who has trouble walking back to your/her room.
If you have no morals and don't care what people think of you, then I guess the above is an option.
cool thanks for the help guys...anything else?
go up to people and talk...as a shy girl i used to hang around waiting for boys to approach me. If you see someone standing alone, talk to them, make them feel grateful for having someone to talk to. It also means you're not the shy one in the conversation and will give you more confidence as you may be making someone's day.
Big smile big hello and introduce yourself.
I would say I'm quite good at this although I do judge carefully who looks open and who doesnt... makes a difference.
Have a couple of drinks if u want but not too many as you might end up being known as 'the guy who was really really drunk' lol. And yes the advice of talking to someone who seems a bit shy is also spot on! Unless they carry on being awkward as you talk to them in which case make your excuses and leave.
I would say I'm quite good at this although I do judge carefully who looks open and who doesnt... makes a difference.
Have a couple of drinks if u want but not too many as you might end up being known as 'the guy who was really really drunk' lol. And yes the advice of talking to someone who seems a bit shy is also spot on! Unless they carry on being awkward as you talk to them in which case make your excuses and leave.
Have a couple of drinks, enough so your smiley and feel as though you can talk to anyone. Tis what I normally do, and then when i'm just at a controlable tipsy stage I can talk rubbish to anyone. It's how I meet most people 
Ditto to the social lube comment. Nothing like a pint of beer/glass of wine to loosen up your social side.
Smile and try and talk to different people, avoid clinging to the people you came with.
cool, thanks guys.....i'll try to take all these suggestions on board.
oh yeh forgot to mention one small problem....i don't drink lol
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i usually stay near the alcohol (ie the kitchen/bar) and strike up really random conversations with people i dont remember very well in the morning. tis all good fun.
if it werent for alcohol i would probably never approach people at parties..i suppose sugar-high is the only way to go..plenty of red bull and such. and being nice is always key-just not so nice that girls think your creepy..oh and remember that old cliche: flattery will get you everywhere, complement a girls dress or something.
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