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Is what he says true?
The guy I'm with always tells me I'm trampy. I used to be quite bad for sleeping around but I got over it and grew up. Most of my friends are boys though because girls don't generally like me.
The guy I'm with now says this makes me trampy. He won't commit so we aren't officially together but we did have a chat and decide not to sleep with other people then that just sort of dissolved and now there's teasing about how we will quite a bit. Only I genuinely wouldn't, he would, and almost did when he was away last week.
He said I deserved it because when I was really down I went round to my exes house because the guy I'm with won't talk about anything that makes me unhappy and tells me I'm stupid. He also refuses to hug me (hugs are for fags and married people) and I wanted a hug. Nothing happened, I sobbed and sobbed and my ex held me. I told him about it because I lied at the time and said I was going to a girlfriends and I felt so bad.
Now he told me about how he'd literally almost slept with this girl (but her roomy wouldn't leave them alone) and he also confessed to getting off with one of his girly mates THREE WEEKS AGO. Apparently it doesn't properly count because it was just an overenthusiastic drunken thing. I get it in the neck for lying and then confessing because I'm racked with guilt but he ommits to tell me about it and that's ok. Despite the fact he recently told me, without joking, that if he ever caught me with anyone else he'd beat me up to teach me a lesson and if I went to the police he'd do it again.
Also yesterday he said he wasnt doing anything with me or getting me anything and in the office at work I was complaining to one of the guys I work with and we were joking about how much we wanted a curry (there's a curry house opposite our office and when the window is open it smells lush). Then he drew me a bunch of flowers on my workbook and wrote fancy a curry at mine? There was nothing too y'know about it, I made that clear and we went back to his and cooked a curry and then had icecream and sauce. We watched a movie and had a pillow fight and chatted and then he dropped me home. I text the guy I'm with on my way home to say y'know I'll be home soon if you're up can I come in your room for a while and he didn't reply. So I went to bed.
This morning he woke me up to tell me that someone was coming to view our house tonight (they didn't turn up) and on saturday while I'm at work. I said I wanted to meet them and he goes tough ****, you're a trampy little whore so you can meet her when she moves in and walked out of my room leaving me in tears before nine oclock. I text him telling him to get lost was I accepting his decision and that if he did that I would make living together awful. I also asked him why after me doing his washing up for two days he'd left my one plate and all the cutlery for me despite washing everything that was his up. So I left him half the cutlery to wash up tonight. He went mental about how immature I was, how no one would want someone like me.
When he got home from work he told me I was a slag and I was obviously getting with this bloke at work. I told him I wasn't and he said he didn't believe me as I was a deceptive little ho. He said the fact I said I'd come in his room implied I wanted sex and then I didn't come which proved I had already had some. I didn't go in because I got drunk on tuesday night and woke him up and when I didn't see his bedroom light on last night I didn't want to annoy him again. He went on putting me down and saying how untrustworthy I was, no one would be interested, I was a slag, probably full of STDs (I'm not I've been tested- he refuses to be) etc and then proceeded to say the girl he almost got with had fallen out with her roomy (shes visiting from Sweden) so she might come to stay for a couple of days and it would be nice to have a girl to sleep with who didn't repulse him by being a whore for a change. I threw a fluffy oneill boot at him (don't ask) and walked out of his room.
So these are my questions-
Am I trampy?
Do I really deserve no choice?
Is my immature response unreasonable when dealing with a man who doesn't listen and boasts about his preference for girls who are barely legal (hence me)?
Don't point out his not very nice. I know he isn't and I seriously considered moving out and leaving him but I can't do it.
The guy I'm with now says this makes me trampy. He won't commit so we aren't officially together but we did have a chat and decide not to sleep with other people then that just sort of dissolved and now there's teasing about how we will quite a bit. Only I genuinely wouldn't, he would, and almost did when he was away last week.
He said I deserved it because when I was really down I went round to my exes house because the guy I'm with won't talk about anything that makes me unhappy and tells me I'm stupid. He also refuses to hug me (hugs are for fags and married people) and I wanted a hug. Nothing happened, I sobbed and sobbed and my ex held me. I told him about it because I lied at the time and said I was going to a girlfriends and I felt so bad.
Now he told me about how he'd literally almost slept with this girl (but her roomy wouldn't leave them alone) and he also confessed to getting off with one of his girly mates THREE WEEKS AGO. Apparently it doesn't properly count because it was just an overenthusiastic drunken thing. I get it in the neck for lying and then confessing because I'm racked with guilt but he ommits to tell me about it and that's ok. Despite the fact he recently told me, without joking, that if he ever caught me with anyone else he'd beat me up to teach me a lesson and if I went to the police he'd do it again.
Also yesterday he said he wasnt doing anything with me or getting me anything and in the office at work I was complaining to one of the guys I work with and we were joking about how much we wanted a curry (there's a curry house opposite our office and when the window is open it smells lush). Then he drew me a bunch of flowers on my workbook and wrote fancy a curry at mine? There was nothing too y'know about it, I made that clear and we went back to his and cooked a curry and then had icecream and sauce. We watched a movie and had a pillow fight and chatted and then he dropped me home. I text the guy I'm with on my way home to say y'know I'll be home soon if you're up can I come in your room for a while and he didn't reply. So I went to bed.
This morning he woke me up to tell me that someone was coming to view our house tonight (they didn't turn up) and on saturday while I'm at work. I said I wanted to meet them and he goes tough ****, you're a trampy little whore so you can meet her when she moves in and walked out of my room leaving me in tears before nine oclock. I text him telling him to get lost was I accepting his decision and that if he did that I would make living together awful. I also asked him why after me doing his washing up for two days he'd left my one plate and all the cutlery for me despite washing everything that was his up. So I left him half the cutlery to wash up tonight. He went mental about how immature I was, how no one would want someone like me.
When he got home from work he told me I was a slag and I was obviously getting with this bloke at work. I told him I wasn't and he said he didn't believe me as I was a deceptive little ho. He said the fact I said I'd come in his room implied I wanted sex and then I didn't come which proved I had already had some. I didn't go in because I got drunk on tuesday night and woke him up and when I didn't see his bedroom light on last night I didn't want to annoy him again. He went on putting me down and saying how untrustworthy I was, no one would be interested, I was a slag, probably full of STDs (I'm not I've been tested- he refuses to be) etc and then proceeded to say the girl he almost got with had fallen out with her roomy (shes visiting from Sweden) so she might come to stay for a couple of days and it would be nice to have a girl to sleep with who didn't repulse him by being a whore for a change. I threw a fluffy oneill boot at him (don't ask) and walked out of his room.
So these are my questions-
Am I trampy?
Do I really deserve no choice?
Is my immature response unreasonable when dealing with a man who doesn't listen and boasts about his preference for girls who are barely legal (hence me)?
Don't point out his not very nice. I know he isn't and I seriously considered moving out and leaving him but I can't do it.
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I love him though and I can't leave him. I don't know where I'd go or what I'd do. It sounds sad and even sadder that I'm aware of it and feel no need to act but I know he's acted in a manipulative way to keep me here and he's suceeded. I don't know how to chat up blokes, I'm scared of sleeping with anyone else or of even getting to know the guys I think are cute because I'm sure once I do they'll be like him or dump me. I'm sure that although he hurts me I won't find anyone who can match him.
I don't want to have to live in student houses that are falling down anymore I love my room in our house. It's the first proper bedroom I've had since I was 12 that I picked the stuff for and I like.
I just want to be able to talk about what he does and how it makes me feel so that when I say it hurts or that his statements are false I know I'm not losing my sanity as he'd want me to think. I told him he was being mean the other day and he goes I'm not mean, you have a warped sense of reality and see things as unacceptable that everyone else takes. I was so confused until my housemates gf came round and was like it's ok you're right.
He's isolated me from all my friends without much effort and now I don't want to go out I wan't stay her with what I know is safe. I don't like having to decide what I'm doing and it all being out of my control no matter how hard I try. At least with him I know someone is in control, just not me.
Man sorry I'm blates rambling.
I don't want to have to live in student houses that are falling down anymore I love my room in our house. It's the first proper bedroom I've had since I was 12 that I picked the stuff for and I like.
I just want to be able to talk about what he does and how it makes me feel so that when I say it hurts or that his statements are false I know I'm not losing my sanity as he'd want me to think. I told him he was being mean the other day and he goes I'm not mean, you have a warped sense of reality and see things as unacceptable that everyone else takes. I was so confused until my housemates gf came round and was like it's ok you're right.
He's isolated me from all my friends without much effort and now I don't want to go out I wan't stay her with what I know is safe. I don't like having to decide what I'm doing and it all being out of my control no matter how hard I try. At least with him I know someone is in control, just not me.
Man sorry I'm blates rambling.
OMG please leave him, what a horrible *******wit! You will get yourself into real trouble if you stay with him, he's an abuser, mentally for now but he sounds like he wouldn't hold back about hitting you. You are not trampy, hes a bastard, please please leave him, you deserve more, of course you deserve to have a choice. You are not immature, he is and what a pig he is with it. Oh god your post makes me want to put a pair of stilettos on and walk over his nether regions lol please get out of there before it goes any further, there are much better guys out there who will treat u as u deserve to be treated. I know its hard but for your own sake. Good luck 
As for no one else wanting you, there will be someone out there who GENUINELY wants you and will treat you like a princess. But how are you going to find him if you dont go out looking and stay with him. No room or house or possession is worth risking yourself for, just bite the bullet and get out of there.
As for no one else wanting you, there will be someone out there who GENUINELY wants you and will treat you like a princess. But how are you going to find him if you dont go out looking and stay with him. No room or house or possession is worth risking yourself for, just bite the bullet and get out of there.
Yes, you 'love him' I can see why. Guys like that...they're once in a lifetime...
Leave him or don't complain about what a micropenis he is. Tell him to stop calling you a slut, or start calling him needle dick or michelin man etc. See how he likes that.
Leave him or don't complain about what a micropenis he is. Tell him to stop calling you a slut, or start calling him needle dick or michelin man etc. See how he likes that.
He's calling you a slag, a ho and everything else....if thats the case, why is he with you?
I don't think you're a tramp at all, you deserve so much more than this ******* git!
I don't think you're a tramp at all, you deserve so much more than this ******* git!
Everytime i see you post you are always moaning about some guy using you, get a grip and bloody dump him and stop sleeping with him. Or is it the fact you are just loving the attention is why you will not dump this guys who use you. How the hell can you love this guy seriously what the hell are you on?
Have you told your guy friend at work about the way this ****bag treats you?
By the way, if you PM someone your address I'm sure a couple of the TSR lads would be happy to come round and have a 'chat' with him. J/k, you shouldn't give out your address on the internet.
By the way, if you PM someone your address I'm sure a couple of the TSR lads would be happy to come round and have a 'chat' with him. J/k, you shouldn't give out your address on the internet.
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I love him though and I can't leave him. I don't know where I'd go or what I'd do. It sounds sad and even sadder that I'm aware of it and feel no need to act but I know he's acted in a manipulative way to keep me here and he's suceeded. I don't know how to chat up blokes, I'm scared of sleeping with anyone else or of even getting to know the guys I think are cute because I'm sure once I do they'll be like him or dump me. I'm sure that although he hurts me I won't find anyone who can match him.
I don't want to have to live in student houses that are falling down anymore I love my room in our house. It's the first proper bedroom I've had since I was 12 that I picked the stuff for and I like.
I just want to be able to talk about what he does and how it makes me feel so that when I say it hurts or that his statements are false I know I'm not losing my sanity as he'd want me to think. I told him he was being mean the other day and he goes I'm not mean, you have a warped sense of reality and see things as unacceptable that everyone else takes. I was so confused until my housemates gf came round and was like it's ok you're right.
He's isolated me from all my friends without much effort and now I don't want to go out I wan't stay her with what I know is safe. I don't like having to decide what I'm doing and it all being out of my control no matter how hard I try. At least with him I know someone is in control, just not me.
Man sorry I'm blates rambling.
I don't want to have to live in student houses that are falling down anymore I love my room in our house. It's the first proper bedroom I've had since I was 12 that I picked the stuff for and I like.
I just want to be able to talk about what he does and how it makes me feel so that when I say it hurts or that his statements are false I know I'm not losing my sanity as he'd want me to think. I told him he was being mean the other day and he goes I'm not mean, you have a warped sense of reality and see things as unacceptable that everyone else takes. I was so confused until my housemates gf came round and was like it's ok you're right.
He's isolated me from all my friends without much effort and now I don't want to go out I wan't stay her with what I know is safe. I don't like having to decide what I'm doing and it all being out of my control no matter how hard I try. At least with him I know someone is in control, just not me.
Man sorry I'm blates rambling.
I_Surf_Hawaii
If he hits you, I will personally fly to where you are and **** him up. I hate guys like that. Gives us all a bad name.
NO ****ING WAY IS WHAT HE SAYS TRUE. Believe us all when we say that.
this guy is not good for you whatsoever. I agree with everyone else who has posted before. He treats you badly. He physically and verbally abuses you, how can you put up with someone who is making you feel like ****?
I once said I couldnt get over my ex but I did. at the time you feel like you cant do stuff but you seriously can. in the short term its gonna hurt like hell but in the long term it will be so much better for you.
In answer to your questions
No you are not a tramp, don't let what some idiot says make you believe that.
You deserve a choice definitely.
Your response is not unreasonable, if you want unreasonable try smashing all the plates and stuff on him while he's sleeping.
Seriously you need a guy who will treat you a whole of a lot better.
I once said I couldnt get over my ex but I did. at the time you feel like you cant do stuff but you seriously can. in the short term its gonna hurt like hell but in the long term it will be so much better for you.
In answer to your questions
No you are not a tramp, don't let what some idiot says make you believe that.
You deserve a choice definitely.
Your response is not unreasonable, if you want unreasonable try smashing all the plates and stuff on him while he's sleeping.
Seriously you need a guy who will treat you a whole of a lot better.
I think you are a tramp, and you are lucky to have him!
heh. You sound to me like you feel you need someone thats why you won't leave him. Being single isn't so bad
And, of course there will be other people for you.
Also, matt, threating violence over the internet is a bit silly really.
heh. You sound to me like you feel you need someone thats why you won't leave him. Being single isn't so bad
And, of course there will be other people for you.Also, matt, threating violence over the internet is a bit silly really.
Get rid of him. FAST!!!
Firstly I posted about a suicide attempt relating to when I was 13. I'd say that's not relevant to this topic at all and bringing it up just ****s up everyone else's take on it. I'm not about to kill myself. It was a COMPLETELY different situation and a story I'm not going into now.
Secondly I see a counsellor already. Again saying I'm ****ed up isn't particularly constructive and tbh I'm obviously aware of it or I wouldn't be asking other people's opinions. I'd think everyone was ok.
Thirdly I told him we're over. It's a long story of why and I'll post it a bit later when I've calmed down a bit cos right now I'm bloody livid.
Secondly I see a counsellor already. Again saying I'm ****ed up isn't particularly constructive and tbh I'm obviously aware of it or I wouldn't be asking other people's opinions. I'd think everyone was ok.
Thirdly I told him we're over. It's a long story of why and I'll post it a bit later when I've calmed down a bit cos right now I'm bloody livid.
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