Ex-boyfriend can't or won't move on.

Ok i broke up with my ex just over a year ago and we are doing pretty well as friends we can go out, have fun, chat and stuff without any old feelings resurfacing (for me at least) but i know he hasn't got over me, he told me he still thinks about me all the time and that his last sexual encounter was with me (September 2005) he hasn't even tried to get a girlfriend since we broke up. I'm with someone new now so he knows nothing is gonna happen and he hasn't asked for me back and he said he would rather have me as a friend than not have me in his life at all so i don't think the friendship thing is causing a problem but i really want him to move on and find someone else and be happy. How can i help him move on without pushing him away? Or do i have to just put up with the thought of him being stuck on me until he decides to move on by himself.

Reply 1

FoeGeddaBowDeet

cut out contact. Friendshps can come later, when he has lost the attachment.

Reply 2

hippieglitter

But we do so well as friends. Any feelings he has don't show when we meet up and i have previously asked him if he would prefer to wait until he had moved on and he said no.

Reply 3

FoeGeddaBowDeet

but obviously they are still there, and the past year suggest they certainly aren't going to dissapear if you carry on as you are. It's understandable he doesn't want to wait, but that's a result of those feelings.