Had His Cake & Eaten It?

Ok, i'll keep this short.

Been seeing a guy for the past five or so weeks. Been going well, also by his own admissions. Sounds like I'm reading into things far too much but there are lots of things to suggest that it isn't just a casual thing. For example, he had a silly wall message on Facbook from a girl. Incidentally I didn't think anything of it yet he said "by the way that was a joke in case you read it and was wondering what it meant" and proceeded to get his housemates to back him up at dinner despite the fact I hadn't thought anything of it.

He told me he was playing rugby on Valentine's day and that he was sorry we couldn't do anything for it, as it was in Durham. Ashamed to say I googled it and it was in fact true; the match was at 7.30. And he also said that we'd do something for Valntine's day on Friday (today) instead. On Valentines day he posted a rose and a card through the door. Haven't heard anything since, but it was him.

However, Friday has arrived and I've heard nothing. I called him two and a half hours ago and have heard nothing. Seems rather strange.

Why would he do this? And what do I say if he doesn't arrange something this evening only to call me on a later date to arrange something when we had discussed doing something today. I'm no bunny boiler, but surely as he made such a big deal about having to miss Valentine'a day and that he'd take me out another night means that he should at least remember that he'd actually asked me to go out with him tonight?

Terribly confused, your interpretations on the matter would be most appreciated....

Reply 1

TempusReborn

Er your right this is confusing it sounds liek he really like you - I'd guess he either been taken out for one too man ydrinks by his teammates, got injured or...abducted by aliens :s-smilie:

If you don't hear from him in 24 hours try and locate him. If you don't find him in 96 hours keep watch on the skies :biggrin:

Reply 2

Jennybean

13

I'd be a little worried if I were you - doesn't sound like he's blowing you off, more I'd be concerned for his safety. There's probably a completely normal explanation like he's lost his phone or something but you should make sure he's safe - is there a friend of his you can call or something?

Reply 3

wackysparkle

14

hmm - yeah it does seem strange, could be many possiblities

1. he is attempting to surprise you with something stupendous for V day - so doesn't want you to call him --

2. he is still at durham -- cooozz he missed the train?

3. his phone was stolen/ doesn't work

but my bets are on the first one --- he may spill the beans if you call :biggrin:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Thank you very much for your kind repies. Well, I left him a Facebook message this morning asking "are we still on for tonight?", to which I received no reply so called him in the afternoon. Still haven't been called back, and the boy's on bloody Facebook as we speak! Grrr! He's obviously still alive and has ignored my contact! What now?

Reply 5

TempusReborn

The Aliens have obviously hacked his account. Prepare the Laz-cannons. :biggrin:

Hmm well this make's it a whole different thing. You can hope it's the Valentine's Day surprise thing, or that he's lef this comp on...
The signals are so mixed it's difficult to tell.

Tell us if you get any more info :smile:

Reply 6

wackysparkle

14

seriously! i think it is a V day surprise! he's infatuated with you -- why would he stop now :rolleyes:

Reply 7

Cyclotron

Jennybean

I'd be a little worried if I were you - doesn't sound like he's blowing you off, more I'd be concerned for his safety. There's probably a completely normal explanation like he's lost his phone or something but you should make sure he's safe - is there a friend of his you can call or something?

haha ur so funny jenny

Reply 8

Sijia

10

Maybe he's still working on that plan of his. Calm down and just enjoy the anticipation. ;-)

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Yeah but why would he just ignore me?

Reply 10

wackysparkle

14

because he wants you to react in this exact way? :p:

... and then................ SURPRISE!!!!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm not deliberately trying to sound annoying, but he really is quite a simple creature, don't think he'd be capable of something quite so spectacular. And why would anyone need two days worth of preparation and ignore me in the process?! On second thoughts, I think I am in fact a bunny boiler...

Reply 12

Cyclotron

he's probably in the pub

Reply 13

wackysparkle

14

lol - i think someone got used to having him constantly at close contact :p:

seriously - i get the feeling that he is preparing for this for you -

just to calm your nerves - have you tried to call him? -- if it goes to voicemail - just tell him that you are worried about him --- that will get his attention!

Reply 14

kimberley1987

wackysparkle

lol - i think someone got used to having him constantly at close contact :p:

seriously - i get the feeling that he is preparing for this for you -

just to calm your nerves - have you tried to call him? -- if it goes to voicemail - just tell him that you are worried about him --- that will get his attention!

Thank you for your message. Yes, I called him this afternoon and it just went to voicemail, but I didn't leave a message. Surely I shouldn't call him? Would look pretty stupid if you're wrong and he is in fact sick of the sight of me... it's looking fairly likely that that is the case!

Reply 15

wackysparkle

14

umm anon??

nnnaaaahhh -- c'mon -- were there any signs? have you spoken to him at all since he came back?? --- if you havent then i think its safe for you to call him! :p:

Reply 16

kimberley1987

There goes my anonymity. Never mind

Reply 17

wackysparkle

14

you coulda changed it - i think i'm the only one who knew-- i won't tell :smile:

Reply 18

kimberley1987

wackysparkle

umm anon??

nnnaaaahhh -- c'mon -- were there any signs? have you spoken to him at all since he came back?? --- if you havent then i think its safe for you to call him! :p:

I haven't spoken to him since I thanked him on Weds morning for the rose, card etc. Not that he repiled to that either! The last time I spoke to him was Tues evening when he called to ask my house number and that he was sorry he couldnt do something for actual valentines day. It was definately him, he wrapped the rose in one of his t shirts that I tried to blag last time he stayed over, so don't think I'm reading too much into things. I just cant understand why i haven't heard from him since then

Reply 19

romeosbitch

15

i think, actually, he's just forgotten.
i know thats not very romantic.

he'll probably contact you on sunday with a "hey so what have you been up to?" and then you can either get angry and say "so what happened to friday?" or tell him you just had the best sex with his best friend/a girl/someone completely random

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