This discussion is now closed.

Check out other Related discussions

Boyfriend but No Friends

I feel really lonley at the moment, I have a great boyfriend but absolutely no friends. There are people on my course that I talk to but they are more colleges rather then friends. I used to have loads of friends but have found that since ive gradually lost them having spent a lot of time with my boyfriend. Ive joined societies and clubs but find it hard to click with people.

Sounds silly but its got to the point where I start to envy people on facebook and myspace who seem to be talking to people and have friends.

Reply 1

wackysparkle

14

well don't spend so much of time with your bf that it makes your social life suffer -- why don't you arrange some parties or get togethers with your friends -- spontaneously? --- just ask people on your course -- just randomely :smile:

-- thats how i made friends

Reply 2

joz12345

1

i am the same have loads of people i talk to but dont normally spend time with them really cuz i spend loads of time with my boyfriend if u wanna chat let me know il give my msn name

Reply 3

joz12345

1

ok pmed

Reply 4

Anthonyjm71

9

make effort on both sides feel better for it!!

Reply 5

Miss. B

10

I understand what your going through because since I been wit my boyf I have lost loads of my friends. I've got girls to go shopping with and that but they're not exactly friends or people I would talk to and have a laugh with :frown:

I love my boyf to bits but I know if we weren't together I'd be going to parties every night etc - I think it's about the choice us girls make and I have chosen my boyf and basically he's my best friend as well!

It helps to talk to your boyf about how you feel and I bet OP, your boyf fully understands, you could go out with his group of friends and meet people that way that way your still spending time with him and making new friends. xx

Reply 6

dynamism

7

I find this happens really easily with a bf. It's so hard to pick your friends when you've got a choice. All you have to do is be friendly and try to get involved with people. Don't worry how they react at first, they will become accustomed to you.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

I'm the same as the OP. :frown:

I love my boyfriend but I miss having friends...we tried talking about that and he doesn't understand (thinks it means I love him less than he loves me as he doesn't want anyone else).

No idea how to handle this!

Reply 8

_jo_

1

im in the same situation too, since i moved to uni i havent made anyclose friends i would rather talk to my bf on the phone or msn and i go home at the weekends to see him. i have a grate time when im at home seeing all my old friends but havent made any at uni as i find it hard to become close friends with ppl easily.

Reply 9

pollystyrene07

1

it's about the getting the balance right. yeah it's nice to have a bf or gf but it's also important to keep making the effort with friends too. my friend made the mistake of giving up all her friends for her bf & when they split up a few months later had absolutely noone. me & my bf only see eachother 3 times a week coz our social lives are also very important to us & we both think that if anything it makes us closer & stronger as a couple. spending too much time with someone can totally damage a relationship (as i've also come to learn!) so yeah all i can say is keep on going to society meetings & stuff & you WILL make more friends & you'll prob become a happier person overall :smile:

Reply 10

Yoda

12

Yeah, have a party. Invite a load of randoms (as long as you know they won't **** it up). I like randomers parties. People get more popular inviting me to their party, even if I don't know anyone there.

Boyfriend but No Friends

Related discussions

Articles for you