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living arrangements
not sure if this is the right place to post so apologies if its not.
im in my first year of uni and a few months into term 4 of us agreed to live together next year. few weeks ago one of the guys dropped out but not such a big deal, really nice guy who i get on with well but the remaining 3 of us are all very good friends. one of my friends is incessant on buying a place, which means he wont even consider renting. been left very late so theres not much decent on the rental market, and even less to buy. so even if he does find somewhere he wants to buy in the next couple of weeks, theres still haggling over price and a chance it could fall through by which time it will be much too late.
anyway ive been getting really frustrated about it because more and more properties are going. was speaking to another friend of mine the other week (also a nice guy but NOWHERE near as close to him as the other 2) and he hadnt found anywhere to live. so i explained to him my situation and said maybe theres a chance we can live together, im just really confused with the situation at the moment. went to have a look round a flat for rental and it was lovely, not completely finished yet but will be in time for the beginning of next year and i wont find anywhere near as nice as this. also means that i can stop worrying about it, barely know anyone who hasnt sorted out where theyre living next year. could literally walk into the estate agents tomorrow, but the deposits down and be down with it.
my parents especially, as well as some of my friends think that id be stupid not to rent the flat. im an honourable guy though and i dont want it to seem like im turning my back on my two closest friends at uni, theyre just being so lazy about it and have got nothing sorted which means there could be real problems. so i really dont know what to do, any advice would be great thanks.
ps i apologise if some of that was incoherent and didnt make sense!
im in my first year of uni and a few months into term 4 of us agreed to live together next year. few weeks ago one of the guys dropped out but not such a big deal, really nice guy who i get on with well but the remaining 3 of us are all very good friends. one of my friends is incessant on buying a place, which means he wont even consider renting. been left very late so theres not much decent on the rental market, and even less to buy. so even if he does find somewhere he wants to buy in the next couple of weeks, theres still haggling over price and a chance it could fall through by which time it will be much too late.
anyway ive been getting really frustrated about it because more and more properties are going. was speaking to another friend of mine the other week (also a nice guy but NOWHERE near as close to him as the other 2) and he hadnt found anywhere to live. so i explained to him my situation and said maybe theres a chance we can live together, im just really confused with the situation at the moment. went to have a look round a flat for rental and it was lovely, not completely finished yet but will be in time for the beginning of next year and i wont find anywhere near as nice as this. also means that i can stop worrying about it, barely know anyone who hasnt sorted out where theyre living next year. could literally walk into the estate agents tomorrow, but the deposits down and be down with it.
my parents especially, as well as some of my friends think that id be stupid not to rent the flat. im an honourable guy though and i dont want it to seem like im turning my back on my two closest friends at uni, theyre just being so lazy about it and have got nothing sorted which means there could be real problems. so i really dont know what to do, any advice would be great thanks.
ps i apologise if some of that was incoherent and didnt make sense!
Reply 1
explain to your roomies that if they don't get the flat now - all the properties will be gone - and you dont want to live in a slum - so if by *give a date* we still haven't got one - i will be pulling out as my parents really want me to have to place quickly -
orrrrr make things easier -- arrange a couple of visits and tell them that all of y'll are going to see them - and that al y'll have ot make a decision by *say a date* so that you dont have to worry bout it later - when exams and work increases!
orrrrr make things easier -- arrange a couple of visits and tell them that all of y'll are going to see them - and that al y'll have ot make a decision by *say a date* so that you dont have to worry bout it later - when exams and work increases!
BUY a place?!?!!?! Who the hell ever BUYS a place as a student??
Sorry but that just doesn't make sense anywhere in my head. But yeah I think you should rent the flat, you like it, the other guy may not be your closest friend, but you'll get to know each other better, and it might be easier not living in the oher guys' pockets all the time.
Sorry but that just doesn't make sense anywhere in my head. But yeah I think you should rent the flat, you like it, the other guy may not be your closest friend, but you'll get to know each other better, and it might be easier not living in the oher guys' pockets all the time.
Reply 4
have you given them deadlines?
we were like this as well - but we got out act together and got a place
give deadlines - if those pass - then inform them that you have decided to room with someone else--- tell them the consequences of them passing the deadline! -- tell them that your parents want you to move into such and such a place by such and such a date - and if its not done - you are going to put down a deposit for another place with someone else
we were like this as well - but we got out act together and got a place
give deadlines - if those pass - then inform them that you have decided to room with someone else--- tell them the consequences of them passing the deadline! -- tell them that your parents want you to move into such and such a place by such and such a date - and if its not done - you are going to put down a deposit for another place with someone else
Reply 6
Ross_j
ive told them that, theyre like dont worry about it we'll find somewhere 
I agree with your friends. Are you living in London? Im in my final year and have rented 3 properties since ive been here (feel a bit like a pro on renting now). Dont get too stressed out, theres lots of good properties in London.
Id advise you to slow down, find a good/reputable estate agency first. It'll cost you about £80 in fees, but will save you alot of hassle caused by landlords trying to exploit you. Theres so many problems which occur from rushing and making decisions too quickly (which I unfortunately found out the hard way).
monkeymayhem
I agree with your friends. Are you living in London? Im in my final year and have rented 3 properties since ive been here (feel a bit like a pro on renting now). Dont get too stressed out, theres lots of good properties in London.
Id advise you to slow down, find a good/reputable estate agency first. It'll cost you about £80 in fees, but will save you alot of hassle caused by landlords trying to exploit you. Theres so many problems which occur from rushing and making decisions too quickly (which I unfortunately found out the hard way).
Id advise you to slow down, find a good/reputable estate agency first. It'll cost you about £80 in fees, but will save you alot of hassle caused by landlords trying to exploit you. Theres so many problems which occur from rushing and making decisions too quickly (which I unfortunately found out the hard way).
im in london now but at uni in oxford, completely different property market there because of the high number of students. almost everything has gone.
Reply 8
tell your roomates right now - that you are going to apply for a flat do they want to apply with you? if they say errrr- say "well i am gonna see the agent tomorrow, you can join me if you want", balls in their park now, if they don't show, just sign the contract
Reply 9
Ross_j
im in london now but at uni in oxford, completely different property market there because of the high number of students. almost everything has gone.
Ok, my mistake.
wackysparkle
tell your roomates right now - that you are going to apply for a flat do they want to apply with you? if they say errrr- say "well i am gonna see the agent tomorrow, you can join me if you want", balls in their park now, if they don't show, just sign the contract
done that, the guy will only buy. i said how about we rent year and look for something to buy during the year when not everything will have been sold and we can start trying to find something earlier on now we know what happens, and he wasn having none of it.
Reply 11
tell him that it is no longer an option as the best places are gone - let him buy it next year instead --
i mean you're a student!! -- how on earth can "buying" be an option?
ask him what options he has so far -- if he says that he doesn't have any - say that you are gonna be applying for a flat on *mention a day*
i mean you're a student!! -- how on earth can "buying" be an option?
ask him what options he has so far -- if he says that he doesn't have any - say that you are gonna be applying for a flat on *mention a day*
thats the problem hes like im buying a place my dads pushing me about it etc and wont realise its stupid at this time. there were a couple we were going to look round on wed but i was too ill so we didnt go but one was too far out and the other had a tiny tiny third bedroom which would cause problems for whoever was given it, clutching at straws really.
Reply 14
its always accomodation that ruins friendships time and time again
you have to be frank with him - tell him that its bugging you, and that your parents want you to have a place soon, and you;re sorry, but if he can't get a place soon, you will be forced to renting another flat with someone else
you have to be frank with him - tell him that its bugging you, and that your parents want you to have a place soon, and you;re sorry, but if he can't get a place soon, you will be forced to renting another flat with someone else
Ditch the guy that wants to buy. He's being stupid and won't see sense. He'll realise when he has nowhere to live next year he should have listened to you. I'm buying an apartment at the moment and trust me, it is not fun and it takes ages.
Like WS said you will be living in a shack otherwise. My boyfriend forgot to apply for accommodation in his final year (
) and I had to find him a place. He literally had the last place left, the one noone else wanted and it was totally horrible.
Like WS said you will be living in a shack otherwise. My boyfriend forgot to apply for accommodation in his final year (
) and I had to find him a place. He literally had the last place left, the one noone else wanted and it was totally horrible.Related discussions
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