am I in the wrong?

around three weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me, for no given reason. she is however going to tenerife for a week today with a group of her girlfriends, and i think she may have wanted to do this while single.

what she actually said was that she'd like to 'take a break', until she gets back off holiday. during this break time she has been to two parties without me, and each time got with boys who i know from school. being realistic, i guess she's planning to get with a lot more guys while on holiday.

after a big argument when she told me about getting with one of the boys at a party, during which she said "yeah well we're not going out so i don't give a **** what you think", she asked me out again. i decided that, since i loved her, i'd give her another chance. then the next day, i got a text saying she'd changed her mind great. i've been round her house a few times while we've been apart, and we've kissed and stuff, and we gave each other valentine's day cards.

then last night, i went out. and i kissed a girl. somehow my ex-girlfriend, on the way to the airport, has found out about this, and is sending me incredibly angry text messages telling me i've "reached an all-time low". doing what? exactly what she did to me and said was alright?

I guess i wanted to try and get back with her after she got back off holiday, however it seems that that plan isn't going to work now, because of my actions. what did she want me to do? sit at home and wait for her return while she partied every night?

am i a bad person?

Reply 1

Citation

Hmm, there's no good or bad in this situation. I think it's clear your relationship ISN'T going to work and to be honest, if you "love" her or not and visa versa, this is a relationship lacking of trust and loyalty and I'm sorry to say that.

However, I wouldn't look at yourself as a bad person, and I certainly wouldn't sit around waiting for her to return. If you know for a fact she's got with other guys whilst at these parties then it really is time to call it a day, because she is not worth it, especially if she's being hypercritical when you kiss another girl.

Sorry mate. Good luck in the future. :smile:

Reply 2

Segat1

I'd stay away from her. She sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too.

Reply 3

TempusReborn

She's so beneath even your contempt. Man this is the sort of girl that our college gives such a wide berth too... it's pretty vile what she did. Your certainly not in the wrong. :smile:

Reply 4

Clubber Lang

Why get back with er - it seems, in the logn term, the problems you have now won't go away..

Reply 5

dh00001

does she take money off you everytime you see her?

Reply 6

BlackHawk

She is really walking all over you. Have some self pride and end it for good with her.

Reply 7

Talya

Just forget about her, find a nice girl.

Reply 8

ZigZag

She can't have the best of both worlds. She obviously doesn't feel the same way for you as you do for her and she's trying to guilt trip you into being her doormat.

Flee.

Reply 9

xxsarahjwxx

Two wrongs don't make a right...but to be angry at you after she did it is just plain bad. Perhaps you going off with another girl showed her how she really feels about you. Maybe she will come back begging for forgiveness...otherwise i'd stay well clear!