Cant get...over it

So I went out with a girl for a month. I thought I was in love. Seriously...I thought she was the one who I would get married to in the future. She was like..perfect.

Then she dumped me. We became best friends and at the back of my mind I knew one day I had a chance of getting her back.

Of course, I ended up hurting her through a drunk night, with a little bit of help from my friends and saying some stuff on msn behind her back, trying to get over her. "I cant believe I ever went out with her". "She sucked at kissing". Horrible stuff.

I regret that now, she read the whole of the convo and agreed with her "group of friends" never to speak to me again. Its been a month since this happened and she hasn't spoken to me since. I called her up a week after it happened and she said she wished she had never met me and that she was never going to speak to me again.

The thing is...I can't get over it. I really can't focus on anything, work, friends, other girls. I also fancy a girl in school and we're getting on well but I don't want to go for it because I don't want to upset my ex anymore.

I actually just want to get over it. I dont want her back as a friend. I hate her for some of the things she has said about me since, yet I love her at the same time...yes that makes no sense but neither does my mind anymore. :frown:

Reply 1

*pink_sapphires*

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Well I'm sorry if this sounds mean, but you shouldn't have said things behind her back because that means you will have lost her for good.

You say you fancy another girl but don't want to upset your ex anymore. You're right, your ex is probably hurt enough at the minute, however, you need to carry on living your life. But from the sounds of things, I don't think you're ready for a new relationship yet. Maybe tell this new girl that you like her but need some time to sort a few things out before you take it further. That way she knows you're interested. Make sure you're not using her to get over your ex though. That would cause more problems!

Try and keep yourself occupied so you're not constantly thinking about your ex. I know it's hard, but if you really try to focus on something else (e.g. school work) you'll find that you CAN do it. :smile:

Reply 2

skcollob

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Maybe you could give it one last shot at writing her a letter explaining how you feel and why you did what you did (drunk etc).
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Good Luck mate x

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

*pink_sapphires*

Well I'm sorry if this sounds mean, but you shouldn't have said things behind her back because that means you will have lost her for good.

You say you fancy another girl but don't want to upset your ex anymore. You're right, your ex is probably hurt enough at the minute, however, you need to carry on living your life. But from the sounds of things, I don't think you're ready for a new relationship yet. Maybe tell this new girl that you like her but need some time to sort a few things out before you take it further. That way she knows you're interested. Make sure you're not using her to get over your ex though. That would cause more problems!

Try and keep yourself occupied so you're not constantly thinking about your ex. I know it's hard, but if you really try to focus on something else (e.g. school work) you'll find that you CAN do it. :smile:

Aww thanks. That helps :smile:

No, I really do like this new girl. Shes smart, intelligent among other things. I think your right though. A new relationship wouldn't work very well and I need to focus on schoolwork. Your 100% right!

Maybe you could give it one last shot at writing her a letter explaining how you feel and why you did what you did (drunk etc).
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Good Luck mate x

I know I say I want her back. Its because I cant stop thinking about her. But since we've stopped talking I can see her from a different prespective. She's been really cruel to some of her friends (and my friends) and its just...I can see her real personality shining through.

Argh, I don't know...I'm confused. I just want to get over it so I can start listening to savage garden again :wink:

Reply 4

badboii

i was in a similar situation about a year ago. the above advice is good, keep yourself busy. time is the best healer in all situations.i know its a pain when you believe you can't think about anything else but i promise you-in a few weeks time you will put it behind you.and you'll be a stronger person.if your feeling guilty then i'd try and give her space, then talk to her.good luck,

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