Bf wanting to split to be with others

Hey Guys,

I was wondering if you could give your opinion on this matter

I'm not in this situation myself, but i'm curious as to whether people agree, disagree etc

If say you are your bf/gf's first real bf/gf, and they decided that they wanted to split up with you cause they want to have the opportunity to meet other people etc, and not just be with the first person they meet for the rest of their lives, how would you react/feel etc?

Reply 1

Nix!

11

Hurt. How else am I supposed to feel?

I'd take solace in the fact that they were honest and respected me enough to tell me the real reason rather than hiding behind a masked excuse.

Reply 2

PatchTheCatch

6

I agree with Nix! I would be glad they were honest that would help, but to be honest if that was the only reason it would hurt and piss me off I mean wanting to break up with someone because you want the oppertunity to meet more people is lame unless your feelings had kinda dissapated.
So yeah if feelings have gone down then yeah it's acceptable but still painful, but if there are still feelings unacceptable.

Reply 3

PatchTheCatch

6

It is a slightly different situation seeing as you might be seperating anyway to go to different uni's in that situation I think it's fair enough and as you said he was open so he gets merit for that ^^

Reply 4

fairycakes

12

i cited that as one of my reasons of why me and my ex should split up when he went abroad. it is scary tho if u've only been with 1 person for so long, u think u'll get married, and there's no real reason why we would ever break up really. maybe i was just bored.
but i don't think he was particularly happy with it. and the decision did blow up in my face...

Reply 5

PrzemekBB

I agree with the preceding speakers and also want add that unfortunately we, the men are more often in that situation of those who were left than girls are.

Reply 6

_jo_

1

i actually think quite a lot about this. i have had bf's before the one i have now but nothing serious and some times i think im missing out on things/ experiences. But i love my bf and really can see my self being with him for the rest of my life. what if you dump some one cos you think there may be some one better but never find anyone and regret it.

Reply 7

Angelil

19

It would be hurtful, but I'd have to let him go. You can't make someone stay with you if that's not what they want.

Reply 8

Leigh

15

This is the reason I broke up with my long term girlfriend last month.
While I wasn't unhappy in the relationship, I couldn't help but think I could be happier. It was hard because there wasn't anything exactly wrong, but I think we both agree now, a few weeks on, it was probably for the best.

Reply 9

Jennybean

13

Anonymous

Hey Guys,

I was wondering if you could give your opinion on this matter

I'm not in this situation myself, but i'm curious as to whether people agree, disagree etc

If say you are your bf/gf's first real bf/gf, and they decided that they wanted to split up with you cause they want to have the opportunity to meet other people etc, and not just be with the first person they meet for the rest of their lives, how would you react/feel etc?

Well this is my worst nightmare really! Me and Will have been together 18 months now, I know because I've had several proper boyfriends before him that it's the real thing and I've got a horrible feeling he could be The One (dun dun dun scary music etc). But I'm his first everything - from his first proper kiss to his first proper girlfriend. I know he's silly in love with me too and our relationship is amazing, we've survived the first half year of uni pretty well overall, but I am still terrified that he is going to decide he hasn't seen enough of life and other girls. It's not really an issue at the moment but I don't want to be someone who never gets married...I've always liked the idea of having a massive family and being a real homemaker and I know that definitely by the time I hit my mid-20s (which, frighteningly enough, isn't that far away) if we are still together then I am going to be thinking about settling down. So I do often worry myself stupid over whether he's going to be unable to commit long term because he hasn't the necessary life experience to be able to say "I don't ever want to be with anyone else". So if he ever said it then yes I would be crushed and probably would never quite get over the whole "what could have been" idea but at the same time I would have to respect his wishes and know that it wouldn't be fair to entrap someone in a marriage they weren't quite sure about. I had my years of messing around and if he wanted them too, albeit at a later stage in life, it wouldn't be my place to stop him. I certainly wouldn't have any right to be angry at him, I would just be very, very upset.

Reply 10

lollipopsticks

1

mine basically said he wanted to break up to sleep around...

he doesnt want a gf but to go on the pull etc.by 24 u'd think he'd b wantin to settle down but know...rubs it in my face hes goin 2 weeks in ibiza on the pull....how nice!

gutted

Reply 11

IndianDiva

How would I feel? It would literally kill me.

It would most definately be my worst nightmare.

Reply 12

silverbolt

19

hurt.

but better that then being cheated on

Reply 13

ForeverIsMyName

15

Anonymous

Hey Guys,

I was wondering if you could give your opinion on this matter

I'm not in this situation myself, but i'm curious as to whether people agree, disagree etc

If say you are your bf/gf's first real bf/gf, and they decided that they wanted to split up with you cause they want to have the opportunity to meet other people etc, and not just be with the first person they meet for the rest of their lives, how would you react/feel etc?

[Sarcasm] That's awful, imagine wanting to find out what it'd be like to be with different people.

Awful... [/Sarcasm]

Reply 14

Tufts

17

PrzemekBB

I agree with the preceding speakers and also want add that unfortunately we, the men are more often in that situation of those who were left than girls are.

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