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How do I stop being immature

My mum, aunty and I had been planning on going to this concert all week that Ive been really looking forward too and now they don't feel like going, she said 'she'l pay me £40 not to go as a joke'. Im just really annoyed and am crying even though im 21 I feel like a 13 year old, but I just feel like things are not fair because they are always going out together. The concert is on in an hour I can't bear to sit at home lol. I don't drive though and its too late to ask my friends. How should I be thinking etc I feel so immature but they are laughing now downstairs, they are busy cause they are renting a house and someone is moving in tomorrow but they have been questioning whether to go or not for the last hour, they kept saying 'do you really want to go' and I said yeh but obviously Ive no choice and they said 'these things happen'. They are taking the mick though and laughing but they don't know how much I wanted to go yet I can't act like a kid.

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Reply 1

Dutchmeister

Out of interest.....are you the same 'anon' who previously mentioned his/her mom constantly going places with his/her aunt and not inviting them??

Reply 2

Miss. B

TheDutchy

Out of interest.....are you the same 'anon' who previously mentioned his/her mom constantly going places with his/her aunt and not inviting them??

emmm that's what I thought!

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

this is really sweet...
as a fellow 21 year old, i'd suggest you to get on with your life.

Reply 4

hannah_dru

It's natural to be miffed about it. And you can't stop doing it, it's just something that has to happen naturally.

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

Replace the word immature with jealous.

Reply 6

Yoda

You're crying about what your mum and auntie said to you?

Reply 7

jaroxski

She's crying because they broke a promise. She feels neglected and put aside while her aunt and mum enjoy themselves.

Reply 8

dynamism

She needs a father figure.

Reply 9

Elements

Hey, she feels left out and has been offered to be paid money to not have her presence somewhere/miss out on something- something she was looking forward to as well! Jealousy, close family or PMS or whatever, that's not nice and deserves some comfort. Have a :hugs:

.;console;.

Reply 10

Yoda

jaroxski

She's crying because they broke a promise. She feels neglected and put aside while her aunt and mum enjoy themselves.

jaroxski the female to male translator.

I'd say chill with your friends, not your parents.

Reply 11

fundamentally

Anonymous

Im just really annoyed and am crying even though im 21 I They are taking the mick though and laughing but they don't know how much I wanted to go yet I can't act like a kid.

You are crying because you cant go to a concert ?
:biggrin:

Reply 12

jaroxski

Yoda

jaroxski the female to male translator.

I'd say chill with your friends, not your parents.

I'm a translator now? :confused:

Reply 13

Sunofnight

fundamentally

You are crying because you cant go to a concert ?
:biggrin:

Plus they are laughing and enjoying themselves when she wanted to go. This is why you are best off hanging around with your own age group, its cool that you like being with family but friends treat you like one of them rather than a little kid.

Plus it is not fair that her relatives have only just told her.. they could have said they wern't going yesterday so she would have had time to ask friends..

Reply 14

Sunofnight

jaroxski

I'm a translator now? :confused:

your doing a really good job

Reply 15

Trigger

oh dear. Get your money back off them and go out woth your mates. I suggest you stop putting so much emphisis on your mother and aunty and try to get your own life

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

Trigger

oh dear. Get your money back off them and go out woth your mates. I suggest you stop putting so much emphisis on your mother and aunty and try to get your own life

Ive been trying to do that for 4 years lol I am sad, I enjoy being with family more than my friends though I don't know why :confused:

I don't get why just because im younger Im different from them though, do you have to be the same age to hang around with someone? They like me being around when im helping them.

Thanks for the replies.

Reply 17

Trigger

No but its unhealthy to be obsessed with your mother

Reply 18

ro-ro

Your mum and aunty are sisters and grew up together so it's quite likely that they revert to a child to child relationship when together. Obviously not throwing toys about and screaming and pulling each other's hair but a sort of just the two of them, naughty, rebellious type attitude with focus on each other.

This contrasted with your relationship with your mother and aunt which is usually (like 9 times out of 10) a parent - child relationship will lead to confusion. To have good communication within any scenario everybody needs to operating in a role that fits and gives a sense of equality and justice and when they are child child together but parent child with you it doesn't really.

Dunno if that'll make sense to anyone else though :biggrin:

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

Trigger

No but its unhealthy to be obsessed with your mother