bf walking me home

my bf lives 10-15 mins away. i always go & visit home coz he doesn't get along with my housemates. the thing is, i usually stay til about 11pm & he never used to walk me home but he's recently started. except the other night at 2am he said he was too cold (pathetic i know lol) & asked if i would just walk back by myself. i thought it was just a one-off but he did the same last night. i was really angry & hurt that he was just thinking about himself & didn't care what might happen to me. i said all this to him & he reluctantly agreed & said he was being an idiot. however, now i feel really bad coz it just looks as though i'm having a go at him & i felt awful last night coz he is full of cold at the min.

was i right to have a go at him or not??

Reply 1

dh00001

16

i would say yes you were right. being cold isnt an excuse

Reply 2

IzzyWizzy

10

I'd say you're right, guys often don't realise the extra risks girls face being alone at night. It wasn't very nice of him not to walk you home without having a good reason.

Reply 3

Kate.

15

Eh, personally I never expect to be walked home. I can get back myself, thanks, haha. My ex lived about 10 minutes walk away and he only walked me back (and only half-way) ocassionally, and I didn't really see anything wrong with that.

Reply 4

invisible_gal

Yeah I think he should be walking you home, especially that late at night.
It was fair enough to say something to him - and being cold is not an excuse - tell him to buy a coat!

Reply 5

BellaNotte

3

I think it depends what your like too, some girls feel fine to walk alone in the dark, some dont. I'd say at that time it can be quite dangerous, and his excuse of "i'm too cold" isn't good enough really. I'd be quite annoyed at my boyfriend if he did that to me :biggrin:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

sorry i meant visit HIM, not visit HOME hehe

Reply 7

Unique Brunette

its nice when guys walk a girl home. ya theres no difference between guys and girls etc and u can walk by yourself but at 2am he should have joined u, and being cold is a pathetic excuse :rolleyes:

Reply 8

poppyache

i wouldent take it eprsonally, just tell him that you hate walking by yourself, hes probally not aware.

i have to walk my boyfriend home. he's a scardey cat.

Reply 9

IzzyWizzy

10

Of course there's a difference between guys and girls on this subject! Maybe it's just where I live, but girls who walk home alone here at night are seen as lunatics, it's very dangerous and any time I've been in the street alone after 11pm I've had hassle and felt extremely threatened. A girl from my halls was nearly raped last year and the warden just asked what she was thinking for walking home alone.

Reply 10

L0RA

9

I think the point is that you wanted him to walk you home and he wouldnt. If you feel unsafe walking home at those times then he should get off his back side. Its not like its a half hour walk each way!

I'd be upset if a boyfriend wouldnt walk me home when i felt unsafe so dont think you're being unreasonable.

Reply 11

Butterfly

1

You're not being unreasonable.

Reply 12

Strictly Business

14

Meh... It ain't a big issue. Just tell him you feel unsafe walking home by yourself at that time of night.

Reply 13

saoirse

10

mm its not fair but i think girls will always feel on their guard at the very least walking home at night alone. daft really that a guy makes you feel safer but they do! i suppose because any person or group looking for their next victim will write off two people as being too much bother

Reply 14

ro-ro

10

I don't like walking anywhere in the dark. He should always walk you. Nine times out of ten I make a guy walk me (including making someone walk me from work to the cash point and back to the pub opposite work when we knocked off at 8) because it's dangerous on your own and scary.

He should always walk you unless he's crippled or has offered for you to stay and you've declined for no good reason (like I want to go home so I can put on my lucky pingu pants not I need to sleep at my house because I have an early start). FACT.

Reply 15

gracie88

14

Woah i would never walk home on my own at 2am, i would MAKE my boyfriend take me. Girls are much more vunerable than boys are at night so i don't think you're in the wrong.

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

had he said in advance that he'd walk you home?
Yeh its seen as expected that guys will walk girls home but I think its unfair in modern times. If you don't feel its safe to be walking home then maybe you should get a taxi? I'm going to seem sexist here but equality works both ways.

As for it being unsafe for a girl to walk home alone at night, Its not exactly safe for a guy to then have to walk back alone either. (the only two people I know to have been mugged/attacked whilst walking alone at night were blokes).

Reply 17

foxiroxi

10

I went out with a good friend (male) last night and although he was drunk and unable to walk straight and unware of some things he still refused to me walking him home and walked me back to my flat (we live on two dfferent sites, 5-10 min walk apart!)

Thats just a friend. No boyfriend should/would let their girlfriend walk alone at night.

Reply 18

RL99

1

had he said in advance that he'd walk you home?
Yeh its seen as expected that guys will walk girls home but I think its unfair in modern times. If you don't feel its safe to be walking home then maybe you should get a taxi? I'm going to seem sexist here but equality works both ways.

If this was a matter of intellect or finance I might agree with you, however the fact is men are still physically stronger than women, plus I think it's the caring and chivalrous thing to do. It's a bit lazy/expensive to get a taxi too isn't it?

As for it being unsafe for a girl to walk home alone at night, Its not exactly safe for a guy to then have to walk back alone either. (the only two people I know to have been mugged/attacked whilst walking alone at night were blokes).

That's true, I certainly don't like walking home on my own late at night either. Where possible I walk with mates part of the way, it's just sensible and streetwise. When it's a couple there's the romantic side of it too, which is why he should have done it.

Reply 19

Chumbaniya

17

Women are more at risk being out on their own at night than men, but it's certainly not without risk for a man to be out on his own at night either, so by walking you home your boyfriend would put himself at risk as well. I think it would be good of him to walk you home, but it's not something you should expect him to do and get really angry about if he doesn't.

If you're that worried about how you're getting home, ask him before-hand if he will walk you home rather than finding out at the end of the night that he won't and then getting annoyed.

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