his ex is a model. i am most certainly not a model

I have recently seen a picture of my boyfriend's ex and I was bowled over by how attractive she is. She is tall, slim, blonde, with an hourglass figure and a beautiful face. She has perfect teeth and nice and tanned. She models in her spare time to earn extra cash.

I, on the other hand, am not particularly that beautiful. I'm not monstrous looking, but I would definitely fall under the category 'plain'. I have an 32AA flat chest, crooked weird teeth and my skin isn't that nice. However, I am intelligent and I know that my boyfriend finds me interesting to talk to and I make him laugh etc.

Despite this, I feel really inadequate. The reason they broke up was simply because she moved away, not because of problems between them.

I am becoming really consumed by my jealousy..I constantly compare myself to her (and now I'm starting to do it to celebrities I know he likes). I understand that personality is supposed to be more important than looks, but that doesn't make me feel any better when I have to stand in front of the mirror every morning.

What should I do?

Reply 1

Leonidas

Get over the jealousy or it will destroy the relationship. Expand and improve your best features which he likes about you if you feel so insecure. You don't have to prove yourself to him if he really loves you.

Reply 2

Yellowmarshmellow

He's with you now and she is in the past and doesn't matter, forget about her otherwise you'll become overly jealous and as Leonidas said it will destroy the relationship.

Reply 3

L0RA

9

Honestly dont think about it. Whats important is that hes with you now. :smile:

Reply 4

saoirse

10

sexual energy is a funny thing, looks on their own have little to do with it...you and your boyfriend sound as though you have plenty of spark, so dont even try to figure it out- you may think you are plain but still be sexy (as opposed to traditionally "beautiful") as hell! :smile:

Reply 5

skcollob

1

He chose to be with you for who you are - just be yourself and im sure he'll love you :smile:

Anyway true beauty is inside - but im sure ur beautiful both in and out :smile:

x

Reply 6

Ywiss

15

She moved away - big deal! If he really, really loved her, he'd ignore the distance and still be with her. But he's not, he's not with her, so he obviously doesn't care that much for her. And he cares about you - you make him laugh, and you have fun together. Don't worry!

Reply 7

Trigger

18

lol this is just like the he likes blondes im a brunette thread. Hes with you so he must find you attractive. Stop worrying about it.

Reply 8

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

I bet you're actually really pretty- every girl I know, myself included, looks in the mirror and sees 'that spot' or 'that funny bump on my nose' or 'big hips' I know you can't help it but try to actually look at the good things in yourself instead if focusing on all your bad points. When you meet someone new you don't automatically examine them for tiny 'flaws' so don't do it to yourself either!

Reply 9

ph9

10

you can't change the way you look so don't waste time dwelling on it. theoretically simple but much harder to do, i realise, but what other choice do you have? like all have said, he's with you isn't he? surely he must find you sexually attractive on some level.

jealous is a damn nasty thing. one of the worst things ever i'd say. ever.

arent you funny

Theres clearly a reason why he's with you, enjoy it :smile:

. Looks aren't everything!

Reply 12

theonehitwonder

2

Stop trying to make comparisons as it doesn't help at all. He is with you, so he must like you as a person. Otherwise, why would he bother?

Reply 13

BURRY

be happy with yourself :smile:

you have a man whose happy being with you, and obviously likes you for who you are and your personality - and you dont have to be drop dead glamerous for him to still find you attractive.

id say steer clear of the silly reality tv and girly mags, and just enjoy being with him and having fun together without being self conscious.

Best of luck :biggrin:

Reply 14

silverbolt

19

Leonidas

Get over the jealousy or it will destroy the relationship. so insecure.

shes right there OP,

You need to get over this, he's going out with you now not her. Going by what you've said hes done nothing to disabuse your trust.

If hes good enough to get the kind of girl youve described hes hardly going to stick around if all your doing is digging at him and waiting for him to leave you

Hes going out with you, obviously he likes you or he wouldnt be. Just enjoy your relationship

Reply 15

Ben Dover the Lollipop Man

14

It's your life. It may seem she 'looks' better, but if you take some time, I bet you could think of 100 things that you're better at. Not everyone is the same, it is easy sitting here and telling you to deal with, but in reality it is hard. But my best advice would be don't compare yourself with her, be yourself. Don't change yourself for other people.

Reply 16

Rhythm

2

To the OP, don't expect to find a truthful answer here. I posted one twice and it got deleted by mods...its sad when ppl can't have their say on a democratic internet forum.

Mods: seriously, pathetic.

Reply 17

Trigger

18

Lol the mods are pathetic? Says the guy spamming an internet forum :rolleyes:

seriously, go out side, the sun is shining.

Reply 18

Danny the Geezer

21

Don't try and compete. He's going out with you for flips sake, not her!

Reply 19

pendragon

13

jaydoh

Don't try and compete. He's going out with you for flips sake, not her!

If he is going out with her she has already won any competition anyway!

I dated a girl who was a model, she was hot and blonde etc, but I prefer Brunettes and whatever other people think find the girl I am currently dating more attractive. Plus the blonde had some serious personal issues to work out.

his ex is a model. i am most certainly not a model

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