The Ex

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Wow..feel like I can't stop posting in this forum about my men issues at the moment.

So I posted a couple of days ago saying I was having problems with my boyfriend, but this is slightly different to what I was talking about before so I started a new thread.

My boyfriend has recently started speaking to his ex again, but he decided not to tell me about it because a). he didn't think it was a big deal b). he says there's nothing going on c). he didn't want to make me mad and so thought it'd be best not to tell me.

I confronted him last night about speaking to her again and not telling me, because a couple of days ago I went through his phone and saw she'd been calling and texting him. The texts weren't flirty or anything, more chummy but had the occasional "luv ya x" at the end, but there weren't many texts because he has no credit so can't reply to them.

Problem is some of the texts suggested they'd been meeting up and stuff..and something to do with him having her bank card??? (Probably borrowed money off her or something) and her wanting this bank card back.

Anyway, when I confronted him about it he was pretty nice about the whole thing to be honest..and just said "You can go through my phone if you like, it doesn't bother me..I don't have anything to hide". I joked around and said he should let me answer the phone the next time she calls and I'm there - and he said that I should!!! He was just generally nice to me, and said that I shouldn't be so paranoid..nothing was going on etc. Said why would he go after her when he had me.

Thing is all my mates think he can't be trusted because of all of this, plus a couple of other things..should I still be suspicious about his ex? Or should I just take his word for it that there's nothing going on???

Reply 1

alleycat393

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xlouisedoll

Thing is all my mates think he can't be trusted because of all of this, plus a couple of other things..should I still be suspicious about his ex? Or should I just take his word for it that there's nothing going on???

personally i think that u shd take his word that there's nothing going on...but then again i dunno abt the

xlouisedoll

couple of other things

ur not trustin him cld cause probs for ur relationship so if u dun trust him let him knw n sort it out....communicate....good luck!

Reply 2

silverbolt

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reetz

personally i think that u shd take his word that there's nothing going on...but then again i dunno abt the
ur not trustin him cld cause probs for ur relationship so if u dun trust him let him knw n sort it out....communicate....good luck!

dont write in text speak its fething annoying

OP, unless he's actually done something dont blow your top at him, just ask him to be more open with you about his ex if its bothering you

Reply 3

davros

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there are 2 possibilities: either he has 2 phones and lets u see the 1 with the innocent msgs on it, OR they have a code system so u see wot looks like a harmless msg saying "give me my bank card back" and it really means "see u outside mcdonalds 4 a quick 1".

belive me, been there done that!!

Reply 4

xlouisedoll

OP

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davros

there are 2 possibilities: either he has 2 phones and lets u see the 1 with the innocent msgs on it, OR they have a code system so u see wot looks like a harmless msg saying "give me my bank card back" and it really means "see u outside mcdonalds 4 a quick 1".

belive me, been there done that!!

Thanks..I feel way better now :rolleyes:

Please tell me there are other possibilities! I don't think he'd be sneaky enough to actually want me to see his phone.

Reply 5

fairycakes

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from the story u wrote, i think it sounds ok, and u shouln't be so worried.

but what are the 'other things' that make ure friedns tel u not to trust him?
xxxxx

Reply 6

hippieglitter

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Honey, I think you're the one wth the problem. You went through his phone, thats wrong and an invasion of privacy. My boyfriend went through my phone and had a go at me about some perfectly innocent texts from my ex, but he knew i was in contact with my ex and this was after he'd made me promise not to got hrough his phone though it hadn't even crossed my mind. A relationship involves trust that includes not feeling the need to go through a persons phone.

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