what to say?

So basically, I went to a club last night and had a really good time. But just have one little issue.

There was a girl these who I really fancied. I went over to her and danced together. I’m not the “player” type like my mates (who go to these places just to make out with any old slapper). So how do I actually go about building clseness & getting her number etc.

It’s just I had no idea what to say. I'm not a shy person but I suddenly went silent. I think it’s important not to use lines or clichés: “Do you come here often?” etc. just sounds awful. What's the icebreaker?

Any ideas? What do pretty girls want shouted in their ear?

Reply 1

pollystyrene07

1

"you look lovely tonight" is always a good 1!

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

do u fancie meeting me again, ive had a good time tonight

Reply 3

xxsarahjwxx

As above, compliment her on something you genuinely like (so no making it up) and she will appreciate your sincerity and it will make you more attractive to her....

Reply 4

jessicarabbit

8

xxsarahjwxx

As above, compliment her on something you genuinely like (so no making it up) and she will appreciate your sincerity and it will make you more attractive to her....

I don't know. I'm always weary of guys who you've just met complimenting you. I just always think all they want is sex, which let's face it, most guys trying to pull in clubs do.

Reply 5

samba

6

jessicarabbit

I don't know. I'm always weary of guys who you've just met complimenting you. I just always think all they want is sex, which let's face it, most guys trying to pull in clubs do.

As do most girls.

Stay clear of finding girls in clubs...use clubs to have a great time out with your mates and dance and get wrecked!

I like nothing less than having a pair of tits shoved in my face.

Reply 6

ro-ro

10

I like your shoes- compliments are good, it's not cliche and it shows you're the type of guy who pays proper attention and notices the small things rather than 'you're fit' which makes you seem shallow.

Also asking about work and buying drink sis good. If you are building up a relationship remember her drink!

I used to be great at chatting up guys or standing looking sexual til someone chatted me up and bought me drinks...then I got kicked out for being 16!

Reply 7

Dark and Lovely

15

^ If a guy i just met told me liked my shoes-i'd think he batted for the other side!

And never say you're fit/buff...pretty is the best way to go but even that is a bit forward, you could always say "you're a really good dancer"-as long as she is lol

Reply 8

Vampyrcorn

14

It's a bit difficult on the dance floor.

Maybe try and talk to her in a part of the club where it's quieter. Say, by the bar. Or if there's a part of it with sofas where you can sit and chat.

If all else fails, try telepathy.

Reply 9

invisible_gal

I hate it in clubs when guys come up and are immediately all over you and on top of you, especially when you can tell they've been drinking.
If you see a girl you like and you do want to get to know her, wait until she's at the bar or standing at the side of the room and just go over, say hi and introduce yourself, i think that's the best way.

Reply 10

ro-ro

10

At the pub on Friday this guy stood on a chair and pretended like he was gonna get his bits out for a joke and someone else at the table I was sat at did. I was like where do I look and blushing and this guy laughed and was like SHE LOVES IT SHE LOVES IT all slurred.

I was cringing so much, needless to say I made my excuses and departed!

Reply 11

Yoda

12

Anonymous

So basically, I went to a club last night and had a really good time. But just have one little issue.

There was a girl these who I really fancied. I went over to her and danced together. I’m not the “player” type like my mates (who go to these places just to make out with any old slapper). So how do I actually go about building clseness & getting her number etc.

It’s just I had no idea what to say. I'm not a shy person but I suddenly went silent. I think it’s important not to use lines or clichés: “Do you come here often?” etc. just sounds awful. What's the icebreaker?

Any ideas? What do pretty girls want shouted in their ear?

Its simple. "Hi". Really doesn't need too much thought. Generally I'd talk less, and use non verbal communication more, but "hi" is the easiest way to greet someone. Before you go just say, "hey, I'm heading off now, whats your phone number". Actually, I tend to throw them/pass them my phone (nokia 8800) as its a great phone and they usually are so amazed about it they don't think about giving their number. But really, its not too complex to say "hi" or "whats your phone number", and theres no point making a line she won't notice anyway.

Reply 12

Allthewayhome

10

" Is your name Gillette? cos your the best a man can get! " is not a good way to start! Though quite funny.

No advice because i suck.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

jessicarabbit

always weary of guys who you've just met complimenting you. I just always think all they want is sex

Yeh, thats what I thought.

Dark and Lovely

^ If a guy i just met told me liked my shoes-i'd think he batted for the other side!

And never say you're fit/buff...pretty is the best way to go but even that is a bit forward, you could always say "you're a really good dancer"-as long as she is lol

Again, I agree compliments are hard to get right. Could be best to just stay clear of 'em.

It seems that the suggestion is to dance with her and keep talk to a minimum. However doesn't that just make it harder to do the number swapping?

Reply 14

Yoda

12

Anonymous

Again, I agree compliments are hard to get right. Could be best to just stay clear of 'em.

It seems that the suggestion is to dance with her and keep talk to a minimum. However doesn't that just make it harder to do the number swapping?

Don't bother complimenting people in a club. Hell, just don't compliment people. Chances are people have already heard it all before and are bored of you telling her how pretty she is. I'm pretty bored of girls complimenting me. I know I'm great, you've already told me enough times.

Reply 15

Vampyrcorn

14

Allthewayhome

" Is your name Gillette? cos your the best a man can get! " is not a good way to start! Though quite funny.

No advice because i suck.

HAHAHA

Reply 16

Dark and Lovely

15

Allthewayhome

" Is your name Gillette? cos your the best a man can get! " is not a good way to start! Though quite funny.

No advice because i suck.

If a guy said that to me..i'd laugh! so that is a good way to start..making them laugh.

Reply 17

Profesh

20

"You know; as much as I enjoy watching you move, I'd much prefer to get to know you better. Here's my number/Is there some way I might contact you?/Fancy going somewhere quieter?/Not!"

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