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Do you still see your exes as good looking? watch

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    I recently broke up with my (ex)boyfriend of 10 months, and I have to say that for me, it really depends.

    Because I was attracted to my ex partially because of his looks but most importantly his personality, and when I got to know him more, I discovered how many unattractive personality traits he has, and therefore, I became unattracted. So no, I don't find him good-looking now.

    But there are certainly some exes who I look back at and think 'wow, I dated him?! Good for me' because as they've gotten older they've become more attractive to me.

    Also, a few years ago I was sexually exploited by someone in a position of trust, and although he deeply hurt me and scarred me psychologically, I would still say I find him good-looking.

    So yeah, to wrap up, I think it really depends on the situation, but this is coming from the POV of a female, not sure if it's different for guys.

    my friends always used to say things like 'duude you could do so much better than X Y or Z' but id always respond with something along the lines of just because they don't look like models, doesnt mean they don't have amazing personalities.
    so i guess i dated guys based more on their personality than their looks, and obviously after breakups i thought differently of them, and therefore to me, they became less attractive and i don't find them good looking anymore because of what they did later on and that their faces alone are eh...
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