Upset he won't be around

My boyfriend is going to visit his grandparents over 200 miles away on the weekend so I will not see him like I do on Friday nights. I feel a bit upset as I look forward to seeing him, I am not a bunny boiler and want him to see his family. I have nothing to look forward to now and when the weekend comes he will be away while I am stuck at the part time job I hate with bullies and am trying to get out of with no such luck. I just miss not seeing him on weekends and after 2 years its getting me really down.

Reply 1

L0RA

9

Lol, seriously its only one weekend it really wont kill you :wink:

Why dont you take advantage of him not being there for the weekend and go out and have a girlie night or invite your mates around for pizza and a dvd?

Reply 2

saturn

Anonymous

My boyfriend is going to visit his grandparents over 200 miles away on the weekend so I will not see him like I do on Friday nights. I feel a bit upset as I look forward to seeing him, I am not a bunny boiler and want him to see his family. I have nothing to look forward to now and when the weekend comes he will be away while I am stuck at the part time job I hate with bullies and am trying to get out of with no such luck. I just miss not seeing him on weekends and after 2 years its getting me really down.

You should learn to enjoy yourself in other ways too because who knows you could break up in the future.

Reply 3

Angelharpist

13

There are some people (including myself) who are in long term long distance relationships - one weekend is nothing. I have to wait 2/3 weeks to see my boyfriend for just two days!

Just use the time to do what you want to do - be it going for a massage, facial, manicure, girly film...

Reply 4

saturn

Angelharpist

There are some people (including myself) who are in long term long distance relationships - one weekend is nothing. I have to wait 2/3 weeks to see my boyfriend for just two days!

Just use the time to do what you want to do - be it going for a massage, facial, manicure, girly film...

yea get some new make up or clothes so you can look your best for when he gets back. Or if you have no money go and play sport or visit a friend.

Reply 5

IzzyWizzy

10

My boyfriend is away for a week and it's weird because we normally see each other most days. I'm attempting to make use of the time to get some work done and clean up my room and I've gone out with some girl friends. Don't you have other friends and stuff? You shouldn't depend on just one person.

Reply 6

Angelil

19

Oh bully for you, OP, my boyfriend lives in a different country and we only see one another every 6-8 weeks. One weekend won't kill you and you'll appreciate him more when you do see him.

Reply 7

Fleece

15

. <--miniature violin.

Can you really not handle a weekend away from him? If not, take a good hard look at your relationship and yourself.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

We have a great relationship, I just want to spend more time with him. The posts are getting nastier here :frown:

Reply 9

Dramatic Star

2

Angelharpist

There are some people (including myself) who are in long term long distance relationships - one weekend is nothing. I have to wait 2/3 weeks to see my boyfriend for just two days!

I'm not being funny, but I used to get like the OP when my bf wasn't there (although admitedly for more than a weekend) & it used to piss me off when people used to say 'oh well, I'm in a LDR & I have to put up with not seing him for months", its like I had no right to feel the way I did. I do realise how hard LDR relationships are but when you are used to seeing your partner most days & then you are faced with not seeing them for a weekend or longer, (particularly when its a new relationship) it can be tough so give the OP a break.

Best thing to do is try & occupy with stuff to do. Go out with friends etc. Try not to sit at home doing nothing as you'll end up getting upset. A weekend will soon go by.

Reply 10

Alamothih

its because it is a relatively small amount of time to wait. You have to be understanding that he has family commitments aswell. And surely there is other stuff you can do on a weekend?

I mean afterall what did you do before he came into your life?

Some people have to wait a lot longer than that.

Reply 11

The Bishman

8

The best advice has really been said:

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Have a girly night, watching films, go for a night out somewhere

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Do something to occupy your time more so you dont think of him - sports, shopping to name a few

Try not to dwell on it much, or better yet, plan for when you do see him a surprise, it could make it much more worthwhile for when he returns.

Reply 12

Yoda

12

You know how pissed off I would be having to see the same person every week? Go out and celebrate.

Reply 13

lljaneth

i understand..it just depends what your used to. i go to school with my boyfriend and i get sad when i dont see him for say lunch or whatever. but whatever the length of time the best thing to do is just distract yourself with other plans. it is really quite bad to depend so much on your boyfriend..i've worked on becoming less dependent and have spent the past 3 weekends out with friends and its actually pretty good because you enjoy/appreciate your time with him even more. i'd also advice you not to raid him with texts whilst hes away..everyone likes some space.

Reply 14

IzzyWizzy

10

I'm not being funny, but I used to get like the OP when my bf wasn't there (although admitedly for more than a weekend) & it used to piss me off when people used to say 'oh well, I'm in a LDR & I have to put up with not seing him for months", its like I had no right to feel the way I did. I do realise how hard LDR relationships are but when you are used to seeing your partner most days & then you are faced with not seeing them for a weekend or longer, (particularly when its a new relationship) it can be tough so give the OP a break.

Yeah I know it's annoying when people go 'you think that's bad? I have it loads worse'. Those people chose to have LDR's and knew what it would be like. It is totally different when you're used to seeing the person every day. That said, a weekend really isn't that long and you should have other things to do that don't involve your boyfriend.

Reply 15

Angelil

19

I don't care if it's annoying. People need to get a sense of perspective. It's all relative, anyway - I wouldn't expect someone who's in the armed forces and away from their partner for 6 months at time to have any sympathy for me, so why does the OP expect those of us in LDRs to have any sympathy for them?

Reply 16

Tag

8

Angelharpist

There are some people (including myself) who are in long term long distance relationships - one weekend is nothing. I have to wait 2/3 weeks to see my boyfriend for just two days!

Just use the time to do what you want to do - be it going for a massage, facial, manicure, girly film...

ditto

Reply 17

IzzyWizzy

10

Yeah but everything is all relative. If you have that attitude, then why is anyone here complaining? We all have it better than lots of people in the world, we all have a computer, plenty of food, shelter, most of us are going to uni, have friends, do why do we have the right to complain about anything, if you know what I mean? It's like when someone is really sick with the flu and you going 'stop moaning and be glad you haven't got a brain tumour.' Just because other people have it worse doesn't mean you shouldn't ever expect any sympathy.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

I never asked for sympathy off those in LDR, I have been in an LDR before with a complete scumbag who treated me like dirt. Its nice that I appreciate my guy who treats me right.

Reply 19

Profesh

20

Anonymous

We have a great relationship, I just want to spend more time with him. The posts are getting nastier here :frown:

I'm sure that most of us can already envisage your reaction were he to go clubbing for the week-end with two friends who, incidentally, just happen to be female.

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