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Can a couple get through this?
Well, my bf and I have been together for 2 years in March and the majority of it has been awesome but recently, not so awesome. I told him how I was feeling and stuff and well what you guys need to know is that he thinks that recently we've not been clicking as much and he admitted he's been taking me for granted. I still love him and he still loves me so dyu think we'll be alright and I'm worrying over nothing or . . . I don't even want to think of the or.
I worry about everything so I won't be offended if you tell me I'm being completely stupid
Thanks!
I worry about everything so I won't be offended if you tell me I'm being completely stupid
Thanks!
Well you obviously care about him and it sounds like he still cares about you, so I don't think its unreasonable for you to have hope! Go out for a romantic meal, or somewhere that's special for the 2 of you. Be thoughtful about each other and avoid taking each other for granted. Engage in activities that are good for couples, that will make you click. Don't think about the Other option.
Well, my bf and I have been together for 2 years in March and the majority of it has been awesome but recently, not so awesome. I told him how I was feeling and stuff and well what you guys need to know is that he thinks that recently we've not been clicking as much and he admitted he's been taking me for granted. I still love him and he still loves me so dyu think we'll be alright and I'm worrying over nothing or . . . I don't even want to think of the or.
I worry about everything so I won't be offended if you tell me I'm being completely stupid
Thanks!
I worry about everything so I won't be offended if you tell me I'm being completely stupid
Thanks!
Obviously I don't know you personally & don't have an insight to your relationship, but I can kind of see where you are coming from as I sometimes feel the same about my boyfriend. I think getting into a routine sometimes scares your mind, even if you are all for commitment. It sounds to me that you have some small issues to sort out. Just be more honest with him- tell him how you feel & encourage him to do the same on a regular basis.
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Go out for a romantic meal, or somewhere that's special for the 2 of you. Be thoughtful about each other and avoid taking each other for granted. Engage in activities that are good for couples, that will make you click. Don't think about the Other option.
Activities that are good for couples?? lol and they are??
Yeah I'm not one for the whole romance thing :P Plus we're both saving just now for a holiday so we are both low on cash!
I'll maybe take him out for a meal though . . . do something since it's more important we get to the holiday together haha!
Lol, I know I was vague, cos different couples find different things good.
If you have a low budget, maybe go out for a picnic somewhere where you won't get disturbed. That way you can muck about and have fun, but also be romantic if the time is right.
As for other stuff, what did you do when you were a new couple, so to speak? Maybe try reliving the getting-to-know-each-other stage of your relationship.
If you have a low budget, maybe go out for a picnic somewhere where you won't get disturbed. That way you can muck about and have fun, but also be romantic if the time is right.
As for other stuff, what did you do when you were a new couple, so to speak? Maybe try reliving the getting-to-know-each-other stage of your relationship.
Hope you get things sorted. From what you've said, it doesn't sound that your relationship is in any big trouble, you just need to do things more together & talk about stuff. Good luck & keep us posted.
From what you've said, it doesn't sound that your relationship is in any big trouble, you just need to do things more together & talk about stuff. Good luck & keep us posted. 
Sounds like you've just got into a bit of a rut. Maybe cut down on seeing each other for a week or so then do something real special/different, both make a big effort like you probably did when you first started dating.
Hopefully that'll inject a bit of excitment back into your relationship, and the break from contact will make you both realise how much you do need eachother and you'll appreciate the time you spend together a bit more.
Hopefully that'll inject a bit of excitment back into your relationship, and the break from contact will make you both realise how much you do need eachother and you'll appreciate the time you spend together a bit more.
Aww, thats a little wierd but I can relate to that a lot! Perhaps the change in 'hormones' leads to a feeling of insecurity for some that once the initial attraction has gone, the relationship becomes stuck when infact it is an ineviatable part of a stable relationship.
Good article!
It's just a rough patch. You'll come through it.
If you two are willing to put in the effort then I don't see why it shouldn't work out for you both. It sounds like you two are just going through a little rough patch, something that most relationships tend to go through. Keep at it and try and bring back that little spark that you had earlier on in the relationship.
Like people have said already, spend some quality time together doing things that you both enjoy. Go out for a meal, even surprise him with a home cooked meal, cuddle up and just have a cosy night in, go out and have a drink, see a film.... the list is endless. Spending a bit of quality time together doing things you both enjoy will bring a bit of fun back into the relationship.
Like people have said already, spend some quality time together doing things that you both enjoy. Go out for a meal, even surprise him with a home cooked meal, cuddle up and just have a cosy night in, go out and have a drink, see a film.... the list is endless. Spending a bit of quality time together doing things you both enjoy will bring a bit of fun back into the relationship.
Aw man that article is amazing! Thanks for posting it!
I suppose it has just got a bit boring and repetitive, so I'll try n start spicing things up a little and see what happens.
Anyways about that article (going off topic on my own topic here) do you think that the lets call them the 'lust chemicals' die off and change into the 'cuddle chemicals' so that once you have kids you don't feel as if they are getting in the way of your sex life? Not that I'm planning on having children ahaha what a scary thought but do you get what I mean? The urge disappears so that you don't feel denied of satisfying the urge because of wains running about at your feet?
Interesting stuff.
I suppose it has just got a bit boring and repetitive, so I'll try n start spicing things up a little and see what happens.
Anyways about that article (going off topic on my own topic here) do you think that the lets call them the 'lust chemicals' die off and change into the 'cuddle chemicals' so that once you have kids you don't feel as if they are getting in the way of your sex life? Not that I'm planning on having children ahaha what a scary thought but do you get what I mean? The urge disappears so that you don't feel denied of satisfying the urge because of wains running about at your feet?
Interesting stuff.
Na, you're looking too much into it, nothing to do with kids. It's more a case of taking the relationship to a more intimate new level - instead of having someone you like simply on a mental and physical state, the bond becomes more integral, like that you get with your siblings or parents. Another words, it's like an initiation for your OH to be part of the family, though of course divorce tends to ruin that nowadays
And because you see them more as family over time than a passionate lover, people assume that spark has gone - when really it's just "dissolved" into something more close. That's why affairs will always happen, because partners are desperately in need of that spark they once had.
And because you see them more as family over time than a passionate lover, people assume that spark has gone - when really it's just "dissolved" into something more close. That's why affairs will always happen, because partners are desperately in need of that spark they once had.
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