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    Hi,

    I have a twin sister who is the closest person to me. The past few months she's been withdrawn and depressed a lot of the time, and I just don't know what to do.

    She has her own computer for gaming which she built herself last year, and ever since she got it all she does is play games, and I think it's really bad for her. My parents have always worried about her but tonight my mum was so upset she cried and told me how worried she was and I agreed...the biggest problem is that we're both going to uni this september and I'm terrified of what will happen when she is alone...

    She doesn't seem to give a damn about her life. On the few occasions when we talk to eachother now, she often says how she doesnt see point to life and she doesn't want to live for very long. She doesn't like meeting/talking to other people because she says she messes up when she talks to them and she wouldn't like them anyway. I'm just really scared because we've had a suicide in the family before, I really think she is capable of doing it to herself. I wish I could help her but she shuts everyone out, hides her feelings...yes sometimes she confides in me but it's often hard to tell what she's thinking.

    It never used to be like this. In fact she was more out there than me, willing to try new things, naturally good at a lot of stuff...then she dropped out of the private school we were at, she felt she didn't fit in, and went to a college instead. She didn't get her first choice uni, but I don't think that means anything when you don't have any self-belief.

    I just wish I could get through to her, to help her understand that she is significant in this world. It's been a couple of years, and I miss her so much :'( Please, is there any advice anyone can give me? Any solutions for when she's left home? Are anti-depressants a good idea? Anything is appreciated!

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    She needs to see a doctor. If she's dealing with depression and it's not being treated then stuff is just gonna keep getting harder.

    Depression is treatable. It's a really hard thing to push through when your brain is effectively working against you. But it sounds like you and your family would be a good support for her whilst she's getting better. Try get her to see a doctor before uni starts and see where it goes from there.
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    Go to a psychologist and not the student room


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    (Original post by paul514)
    Go to a psychologist and not the student room


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    aren't those people expensive?
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    50 an hour


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    Find out what games she is playing and delete her accounts. If this still does not work remove the computer from her room, deprive her of her addiction. Take her outside keep her mind off gaming and being depressed. Help her find a boyfriend. Good luck!
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    Try and get her to go to her GP and explain what's going on, don't keep going on about it though as you're at risk of just alienating her. Ultimately the doctor is by far the best way to get help, it's hard to go though. Other than that probably the most important thing is to make sure she knows she can talk to you and you're there for her, try and encourage her to do things with you sometimes and, if she won't talk to you or she is suicidal, suggest calling or emailing the samaritans too. It's really hard for both of you but hopefully in time she'll be able to get some help and things will become a bit easier again.


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    (Original post by Shueb95)
    Find out what games she is playing and delete her accounts. If this still does not work remove the computer from her room, deprive her of her addiction. Take her outside keep her mind off gaming and being depressed. Help her find a boyfriend. Good luck!
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    Find out what games she is playing and delete her accounts. If this still does not work remove the computer from her room, deprive her of her addiction. Take her outside keep her mind off gaming and being depressed. Help her find a boyfriend. Good luck!
    OP, do not follow this advice.
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    (Original post by paul514)
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    OP, do not follow this advice.

    Oh god. I pretty much posted without reading the whole thread. Yeah completely ignore my advise and get her a psychologist.
 
 
 
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