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Impossible situation

hi all. It seems im in an impossible situation at the moment. Im in uni staying in mixed halls. I get on well with everyone but ive grown to like one of the girls more and more, shes gorgeous and really friendly. I know i have no chance in hell and of all complications of someone in the same halls etc. The hard thing is that her room is above mine. I can hear her now! I hear the sound of her talkin above me all the time, movin around and stuff. I cant see any way to stop thinking of her like i do when i see and hear her all the time. Also, ive never even had a gf before so it makes everything all the more worse for me. Any ideas what i could do to make it easier?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

"Bumps thread"

Reply 2

xxsarahjwxx

Anonymous

"Bumps thread"

huh??

Anyways, bite the bullet and talk to her, get to know her and see what happens. How can you assume she doesn't like you? Find out what she's really like, get to know her, you may find you dont actually like who she is...and what have you got to lose apart from a sad existance listening to her footsteps on the ceiling...? Go for it!

Reply 3

Alamothih

pretty much everything she said above really.

Besides if you talk to her and find out you dont like her then at least you can say you tried for it! She wont know that youve never had a girlfriend so just take a chance! pretend you have if you want, she might never know. Though i wouldnt mention it in first conversations :smile:

Reply 4

xxsarahjwxx

Alamothih

pretty much everything he said above really.

*cough cough* he??? :wink:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

"bump thread" was as i had no response after 17 hours, and it worked as i now have had a couple already, lol. I do kno her a bit, ive talked for a good while when ive bumped into her on her own (always seems to be with other girls which makes it hard) and im always in a mixed group with her at dinner. I didnt find her attractive when i first met her and i thought 1 or 2 of the other girls were really good looking but my opinion has changed dramatically which is unusual for me. This advice is not what i expected. It contradicts what other people get told when they live in the same place as someone?

Reply 6

Pendulum

Another stalker thread... I'm sure if she knew that you listened to her every move below her she'd be scared stiff of you. Relax a bit and get to know her properly.

Reply 7

xxsarahjwxx

why should living in the same place be a disadvantage? I'd see it as an advantage...ever heard the song "Knock three times"? Great song, download it!!

Reply 8

Alamothih

xxsarahjwxx

*cough cough* he??? :wink:

dont know what your talking about :rolleyes:

hehe

Yeah living in the same place, i mean im never good at asking hte girl out but im friends with 90% of those i have! So even if you like her and tell her unless one of you reacts badly to it, your gonna be fine. And its not like u share a house, you just live in same apartments (correct me if im wrong). :smile:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

its a small block in uni halls. As for the stalker comment, everyone complains about the noise. I dont try and listen to her but cant help hear her when all is quiet and even when its not a lot of the time as she is quite loud. I was just saying how her being right there all the time makes it that much more difficult. Thx for ur comments so far, i had not thought much about actually sayin anythin untill now as i had the impression it was a bad idea from other similar threads.

Reply 10

Alamothih

From my experience on the forums a lot of situations depend on who is involved rather than the environment. Just my 2 cents.

Ignore the stalker comment was clear from the OP that you dont stalk her and have to hear her. I mean you can always put your music up or something, but if i was her or any other neighbour i would not be happy so wouldnt do that if i were you :P