Are all girls the same?

Are girls only after men that don't care about much. I care about love, i treated her like i treated my friend who has also drifted off. I go out of my way to help them. I'm not clingy, i just do things like offer to pay a meal for them or something. But the only thanks i get is them pretending they like me. Are there any girls out there that if they knew i had no friends would actually keep me as a friend because they cared for me. or do they just care about having a social ladder.

Buying people meals isn't a reason for them to like you. It doesn't make you a good person, just someone who's willing to throw away £20 here and there. Perhaps you should do more than treat women like victims who need looking after and focus on being someone people respect, want to spend time with, and value as a friend.

Also, what makes you think girls need some guy as a 'social ladder'? (or that you are one). Because we don't have a social like of our own? We just sit and wait for guys to take us out and entertain us and buy us meals? Please.

you sound a bit....desperate...and...needy...and.....overanalytical. basically, offputting.

you sound a bit....desperate...and...needy...and.....overanalytical. basically, offputting.

Thanks for all the replies. I just want to be able to read the signs of a girl who cares about others. Sometimes i feel that some girls think of boys as a toy that doesn't mean much. I did get on with a girl at work once and she was amazing and lovely and cared for everyone regardless of gender but i don't work there anymore. But hey i'm hoping to go on a working holiday on my own to Australia so maybe i will meet people that have good hearts.

Hey, eventually you'll find a girl who respects you and likes you for you, not because of any social ladder aspirations etc. Just have confidence in yourself and be open and honest to girls.
A lot of girls find it hard to find a nice guy, I'm trying to find one that isn't just after one thing and isn't violent - it's not easy!
It sounds like you've had a pretty bad experience recently with a girl you really liked, and now you can't get over that.

Are girls only after men that don't care about much. I care about love, i treated her like i treated my friend who has also drifted off. I go out of my way to help them.

Story of my life mate.

All I want to do is find someone who appreciates my poetry and the songs I write for them. Today, for example, I went by myself for a long sunset walk on the beach. I don't want to spend another Valentines day alone with a glass of wine tucked up infornt of Bridget Jones' Diary for the 100th time. Someone please fall in love with me...

But say i am, what if you knew me would you want to be my friend knowing that i dont have any and that i could be depressed or would you just kick me in the road.