Do you judge people who don't go out much?

Hey there, I was wondering whether at uni, people who don't go out every night automatically get thought of as boring? I'm the kind of person who goes through phases of not wanting to go out much, and prefer staying in by myself (I'm a little tired of uni atm, but I can't go home so i think that may have something to do with it) I'm not a total recluse though, I still meet up with friends for drinks and stuff but they like going out and getting wasted a lot whereas i'm only in the mood for that occasionally. I guess I'm worried that they think i'm antisocial, or dull. What does everyone else tend to do?

Reply 1

bunthulhu

14

I don't actually know anyone who goes out every night...

Reply 2

kylie88

1

a few of my friend just like to stay in and chill rather than go out. its not a bad thing, just peoples own preferences.

Reply 3

isabella

9

No ofcourse not. Everyone is different & like doing different things. I'm not the type of person who goes out every night. Some nights i prefer to stay in a watch a movie with friends etc.

Also even if i wanted to - i couldn't afford to go out every night !

Reply 4

Talya

16

I feel like a couple of people on my course might be judging me but I don't talk to them anyway so it's OK :smile:

Reply 5

Ben Dover the Lollipop Man

14

Nothing wrong with it. Some people love going out every week have a drink, get drunk etc. But it's not for everyone. Some may prefer just staying talking to peepz on the phone, watch tv, do work, go on computer or play games even lol. You can't always be in the mood to go out and do stuff. So don't consider yourself as 'sad' or anything, because its perfectly fine to stay in.

Reply 6

IndianDiva

I'm in my final year at uni, and believe me, I really don't have the time to go out much... I'm personally past the stage of regularly wanting to go out... I really can't bother no more to be honest.

I don't bother about being judged. When I do go out, its usually with my workmates who work on the same department as me (we're like one big family, and very close), so my uni mates may well think I'm dull, boring and not very social, but I don't really know... it doesn't really bother me.

Reply 7

Jennybean

13

I guess it really, really depends on what course you do. For your average sociology student, life will be very different to your average medic. I'm a vet student and it's pretty clear cut here, even in our first year - you either go out a lot or you pass your exams...there really isn't a middle ground, and if there is I guess I sit in it quite comfortably. The people who go out every night, or even more than once or twice a week, are having real trouble coping with the work. There's an awful lot of material to take in and there are often very long days. Getting a full day off is a pretty rare treat and if you have to be in at 9 for lectures and group work, it's really not ideal to have a hangover! My friends and I still have a good time occasionally but often we prefer just to go see a film or have a couple of drinks over dinner rather than really go out and get wasted like stereotypical students. I guess being tired a lot probably plays a major part. On the other hand my boyfriend is a history student and I'd be lying if I said they didn't drink most nights. Some of his friends seem to manage to go out literally every night of the week including Sunday, but he's a little more laid back. My parents did law and they said most of the people they knew were doing the same sort of thing - my mum said even back then she remembers the medics simply not being able to live with people from other courses because their lifestyles were so incompatible. What course are you doing?

Reply 8

IzzyWizzy

10

My flatmate used to judge me for not going out all the time. I didn't care what she thought as she was a horrible waste of human life, but she thought it was weird that I wasn't out clubbing every weekend. I ended up telling her that if it bothered her so much, I'd appreciate her giving me 50 quid so I could afford to go out every week. That shut her up. Although truth be told, I wouldn't have liked to go out that much even if I could afford it, I like it once in a while but I get sick of it really fast.

Reply 9

IzzyWizzy

10

The people who go out every night, or even more than once or twice a week, are having real trouble coping with the work. There's an awful lot of material to take in and there are often very long days. Getting a full day off is a pretty rare treat and if you have to be in at 9 for lectures and group work, it's really not ideal to have a hangover

It was the same for me in first year and I do French and Spanish! I was in 9-5 most days (10-5 the other days) so going out during the week was impossible. It just depends on the uni!

Reply 10

Cyclotron

I wouldnt worry about being judged for it

Reply 11

Cyclotron

Jennybean

...there really isn't a middle ground, and if there is I guess I sit in it quite comfortably.

is this called having your cake and eating it ? :wink:

Reply 12

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

IzzyWizzy

My flatmate used to judge me for not going out all the time. I didn't care what she thought as she was a horrible waste of human life, but she thought it was weird that I wasn't out clubbing every weekend. I ended up telling her that if it bothered her so much, I'd appreciate her giving me 50 quid so I could afford to go out every week. That shut her up. Although truth be told, I wouldn't have liked to go out that much even if I could afford it, I like it once in a while but I get sick of it really fast.

You sound boring.

Reply 13

Venom123

16

I personally enjoy going out and such but to be honest i usually stay in

Ofcourse people are going to judge you as you may judge them for going out 'every night' as you put it

So is life eh?

Reply 14

person 34

9

Yeah I do, but I judge people who go out lots too. I don't judge them in a bad way though. For people who don't go out much they can be boring OR they could just be hard working, or they could just be very mature and enjoy having conservative nights in with friends. The same with people who go out loads and loads, they either just want to enjoy life, or they hate work or they're trying to get away from something. Fact is, you don't know and everyone is different and has a different lifestyle.

Reply 15

Little Girl Red

1

I really enjoy going out but I can't afford to do it all the time and sometimes I just can't be arsed! The girl who lives in the flat upstairs from me goes out literally every night of the week, and I've heard her say before that we're all boring. It goes to show that people do judge you - but to be honest, I don't care about her opinion. Each to their own: I find a mixture of going clubbing, pubbing, and staying in playing LAN Halo/watching TV/chilling out with friends/watching films etc does it for me, but if she wants to go out every night, that's fine by me. The only bad thing I would say about her is that surely it must get a bit boring going to the same places so often.

Reply 16

Yellowmarshmellow

Everyone's different - some of my friends like to stay in most of the time and others are out every day, no one should judge you on stuff like that and if they do then they're stupid and not worth being friends with.

Reply 17

IzzyWizzy

10

You sound boring.

Why, because mummy and daddy don't give me money to go out clubbing all the time? Must be nice for you.
Although I actually can't think of many things more boring than going to the same type of clubs all the time, not being able to talk to anyone because you can't hear anything, buying ridiculously overpriced drinks etc. What exactly is so fun about that? The novelty wore off after I was about 17.

Reply 18

Cyclotron

clubbing is pretty boring, i agree. thats why god made drugs and alcohol

Reply 19

FoeGeddaBowDeet

IzzyWizzy

Why, because mummy and daddy don't give me money to go out clubbing all the time? Must be nice for you.
Although I actually can't think of many things more boring than going to the same type of clubs all the time, not being able to talk to anyone because you can't hear anything, buying ridiculously overpriced drinks etc. What exactly is so fun about that? The novelty wore off after I was about 17.

Have you heard of jobs and loans?

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