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Well after many days of fighting (and many days of me posting on here trying to get advice for our problems) my boyfriend split up with me yesterday. I'm gutted because it was over something so little that he just took the wrong way and went crazy about it. He just went mad at me - I've never seen him go off like (except for I didn't see him, I heard him - he was on the phone) and I'm really hoping that it was just that one thing that pissed him off..and he isn't just using this as an excuse to split up with me.

Problem is now I'm fighting the urge to call him constantly because I just really want to sort things out. I know we can figure things out just as long as he lets me explain it. I've managed to leave it for now, and will probably end up just texting him tonight or something - I don't want to piss him off bu constantly contacting him. I was just going to say something like, "Hey just wanted to say that I'm really sorry for what happened and I hope we can try and sort things out - I really don't want things to end like this." That sort of thing..

What can I do to keep myself occupied? All I can think about is what I'm going to say to him, how I'm going to try and get him back etc...am I fighting a lost cause?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Just read ur post, I'll reply wen I get back from uni, I just broke up with my bf 12 days ago :smile:

Reply 2

davros

xlouisedoll

He just went mad at me - I've never seen him go off like (except for I didn't see him, I heard him - he was on the phone) and I'm really hoping that it was just that one thing that pissed him off..and he isn't just using this as an excuse to split up with me.

really sorry to hear about that, i know u have had lots of probs from your other threads - but think, if you've never seen him "go off like" before then this is a side of him you werent aware of and things could have got nastier later on.

i thnk u just need to give yourself some space for a few days, maybe concentrate on studies etc - u have exams this summer, no??

sorry again for the way things ended up!! :frown:

Reply 3

Trigger

davros

really sorry to hear about that, i know u have had lots of probs from your other threads - but think, if you've never seen him "go off like" before then this is a side of him you werent aware of and things could have got nastier later on.
i thnk u just need to give yourself some space for a few days, maybe concentrate on studies etc - u have exams this summer, no??

sorry again for the way things ended up!! :frown:

i think thats unfair as the poor guy is obviously frustrated. OP if i were you id go and rent some dvds and hide your phone for the next few hours. Ithink you should give him some space. From what youve said its probably over and youl have to let him go.

Reply 4

Angelil

Or better, get someone else to hide your phone.

If you want to know my first reaction, my first thought was that it's all for the best (from what I've read from your other threads). Plus, I see from your sig that you'll be off to uni soon - I've heard a lot of people say that in many cases it's better to go to uni unattached and to an extent I agree (despite being a proponent of an LDR myself - but we got together after I came to uni, long story). But then again, I don't know you or your (ex)boyfriend and I don't know what your relationship is like.

Hope that you manage to sort it either way - you both need to know where you stand.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Hi there,
It appeared to me that he wanted to end it, so i think u'd better stop calling or texting him, its sad that its over but there're ways to move on

I broke up with my first ( second as we came back once) bf on our anniversary - 1 week before Valentine's Day after a big fight, we just realised that we just dont match each other and its a LDR so it just made both of us tired. Well, its a long story but the thing is I texted him exactly what u want to text ur bf : "dnt wanna end like this, wanna sort things out" but he just replied coldly :"Didnt I make it clear? Dnt be stupid enough to mess up with me ..." it was such a hurtful way to break up, he wasnt bothered to call me to end our relationship so we didnt see each other to break up as we were miles away anyway, it happened exactly like the last time we broke up :rolleyes:

...i wondered how i could say Yes to him when he wanted a second chance...stupid me, i gave out a chance to be hurt :rolleyes:

So my advice is to stop calling him, texting him, its hard to get over someone but try to go out, chill out, concentrate on things like study etc

If he really loves you then he will try to contact you soon after he got over the frustration, if he wont then well, its over ...move on :smile:

If u appear too clingy, he might just think :"i was right to break up with this girl..." and appear cold and arrogant to you..

Hope u will find something to keep urself occupied and yes hide the phone :biggrin:

, it just makes u want to call him ... cheers !

Reply 6

need_money

I just went through this with my bf at the weekend. The exact same story. What was the small thing you broke up over? And how long have you been together before then? He will probably need time to just cool down.
Me and my bf worked stuff out (after 2 hours of arguing :rolleyes:

) and I really did think things were finished til then so I really hope you's can sort this :smile:

. Text him what you said about being sorry. A phone call usually helps as well. Just to show him how hurting you are and how desperate you would like to meet up and sort stuff out :p:

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As for keeping occupied, try going out with mates and do something girly or do what I intended to do (but didn't) and get really really drunk :p:

. The mates thing is probably the best idea though.
Hope this helps. :smile:

Reply 7

Trigger

Getting drunk is a silly idea if your trying not to call him

Reply 8

need_money

Trigger

Getting drunk is a silly idea if your trying not to call him

Which is why I said the other idea is probably best :rolleyes:

. That's probably what I would've done as well if I had gotten drunk because I was already trying to loads when I was sober but my mate had to keep stopping me.

Reply 9

xlouisedoll

need_money

) and I really did think things were finished til then so I really hope you's can sort this :smile:

. Text him what you said about being sorry. A phone call usually helps as well. Just to show him how hurting you are and how desperate you would like to meet up and sort stuff out :p:

.
As for keeping occupied, try going out with mates and do something girly or do what I intended to do (but didn't) and get really really drunk :p:

. The mates thing is probably the best idea though.
Hope this helps. :smile:

Basically I went to a friend's house and my ex and his best mate were there..my ex is not Dean's (the one who split up with me yesterday) biggest fan, and has always been quick to tell me how much of a prick he is. But I've never listened, and have always made my own judgements, even defended him to my ex. Basically now Dean thinks that I'm not standing by him and somehow condoning what my ex says about him by "hanging out with him".

I was going to send him that text later on tonight - atleast then I'll know how he feels either way. I'm going to Newcastle for a couple of days anyway for a uni interview, and don't plan on attempting to contact him then. Hopefully that'll be enough for him to sort things out in his head if he does want to get back together - but don't worry everyone..I'm not holding my hopes up, I'm pretty much expecting him to tell me where to go. Guess I'll find out - either way, atleast I'll know.

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