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Reply 1

What you felt was lust. It's not possible to love someone you've only known half a day.

Reply 2

I think it is possible. I know precisely what lust is, as I've felt that, and this was not lust

Reply 3

Sephiroth
What you felt was lust. It's not possible to love someone you've only known half a day.


Lust = Love x 2.

Reply 4

have a read of these, you're obviously not alone

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=338817

Reply 5

Anonymous
I think it is possible. I know precisely what lust is, as I've felt that, and this was not lust

Seriously man, when you experience love you will look back at those times you thought you were in love and realise that a lot of them it was just lust. You have to know a person to be able to care about them enough that you cn fall in love. A drunken night in bed with someone doesn't qualify.

How long did it take you to "get over" this person and be ready to look for new dates?

Reply 6

Sephiroth
Seriously man, when you experience love you will look back at those times you thought you were in love and realise that a lot of them it was just lust. You have to know a person to be able to care about them enough that you cn fall in love. A drunken night in bed with someone doesn't qualify.

How long did it take you to "get over" this person and be ready to look for new dates?


I don't really look for dates, and I don't meet anyone who makes me feel like that night. It wasn't drunken, it wasn't driven by sex, and I did feel I knew her after one night. We slept together but didn't have sex. I did care...

Reply 7

If anything, then you have a crush on her. That's still not love though. Love is something that never goes away. You'll still be thinking about the person years later.

Reply 8

Sephiroth
If anything, then you have a crush on her. That's still not love though. Love is something that never goes away. You'll still be thinking about the person years later.


Well it is about nearly two years I think, and I still think of that night and all the things she said to me as special, when all the other (few)flings I had were just cheap and insincere. It must have meant something big to me...

Reply 9

I've been in love with a girl for about 2 years but I left it too late and now I care about her too damned much to ruin one of the best friendships I've ever had by testing the water. Now that's far more likely to be love than what you experienced for one night... seriously dude...

Reply 10

What is love? Can someone describe it in a sentence? Unlike Greek which has many words for the different kinds of love that exist. There is only one word for love in English.

Do friends have love for each other? In Greek this kind of Love is called Philia but in friends in love would be romantic love. Eros.

Something my maths teacher told last year.

Reply 11

You cannot love somone over night. You cannot know their ups, their downs, what makes them laugh, what makes them cry. By my definition, you do not love her. You like the idea of what she could be and you like what you saw of her over night.
She obviously was just up for a one night stand, so hardly long term material. Find someone who you can find a good friend in, then advance it. And then maybe you'll figure out what love actually is.

Reply 12

LadyEnglish
You cannot love somone over night. You cannot know their ups, their downs, what makes them laugh, what makes them cry. By my definition, you do not love her. You like the idea of what she could be and you like what you saw of her over night.
She obviously was just up for a one night stand, so hardly long term material. Find someone who you can find a good friend in, then advance it. And then maybe you'll figure out what love actually is.


No she wasn't a tart actually. I said, we didn't have sex, we just lay together

Reply 13

And we talked very intimately.....also

Reply 14

Anonymous
And we talked very intimately.....also


So therefore it must be love, right?

Reply 15

LadyEnglish
So therefore it must be love, right?


Well it felt like love to me.

Reply 16

Sephiroth
What you felt was lust. It's not possible to love someone you've only known half a day.


I disagree. But I do agree it's extremely unusual. I think you can love someone very quickly and grow to love them more and more as you get to know them. In the majority of cases, yes, you have to get to know someone before you can know you love them but I do think very occasionally it happens that something just clicks.

Reply 17

Jennybean
I disagree. But I do agree it's extremely unusual. I think you can love someone very quickly and grow to love them more and more as you get to know them. In the majority of cases, yes, you have to get to know someone before you can know you love them but I do think very occasionally it happens that something just clicks.


Thanks Jennybean. That night was like that. We just clicked instantly, and talked all night. I honestly felt like she filled a hole that no-one else seems to come close to

Reply 18

Perhaps, what you mean is 'unrequited affection'.

Eitherway, it sucks nadds.

Reply 19

Tufts
Perhaps, what you mean is 'unrequited affection'.

Eitherway, it sucks nadds.


Wee she requited the affection loads on the night, made me feel great, then she just withdrew it. But I know the way she felt on the night was genuine, so I dunno what went through her head and why she called it off. Only thing I cna think is that she saw no future in it with the age gap (my 24 versus her 30)