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Dealing with suicidal thoughts
I know this is a hard question. Things at the moment are pretty rough, with relationship problems, problems at home with my family, all the usual.
I have self harmed for a while, which is no secret to those who know me, but my family doesn't know about it, but recently i've wanted more and more to commit suicide. This is the problem though, i know that these thoughts are irrational, and i know that i really don't want to give up on life, but i don't know how to stop these thoughts. Could anyone help me in how i can safely deal with these thoughts?
I have self harmed for a while, which is no secret to those who know me, but my family doesn't know about it, but recently i've wanted more and more to commit suicide. This is the problem though, i know that these thoughts are irrational, and i know that i really don't want to give up on life, but i don't know how to stop these thoughts. Could anyone help me in how i can safely deal with these thoughts?
Reply 2
Call a hotline and speak with them -
Call the Samaritan - it is listed in the thread posted by Blissy
EDIT: 08457 90 90 90
Call the Samaritan - it is listed in the thread posted by Blissy
EDIT: 08457 90 90 90
Reply 4
1) get yourself a counsellor. As much as you may be able to talk to friends it is far too tempting to avoid admitting things so that they dont feel too much under pressure. With a counsellor you dont have to worry about them, so can tell them everything.
2) get yourself a box of things to make you happy. Pics of family, friends, some numbers to ring when youre feeling bad. A favourite teddy. Some paper and pens, chocolate, you get the idea! When youre feeling bad get this out, have a good cry, write down why you want to commit suicide, and why you want to stay alive. Whatever takes you at that moment.
3) Consider, are you seriously wanting to commit suicide. For years I considered it as an option, as a type of thing that I could do, but the negatives always outweighed the positives. Then something changed and it was only from that point on that suicide became a proper option. Which stage are you at? If youre at the second point, get yourself down to the docs, asap. It may be scary, it may be horrible, but you are important enough that you deserve to live,and so should give yourself a chance.
One of the best things I ended up doing, was getting a pact with someone. They got me to agree that before I tried anything again I would get professional help. It sounds stupid, but when the thoughts have come back, I have always found it a comfort knowing I cant do it until Ive gone for help.
2) get yourself a box of things to make you happy. Pics of family, friends, some numbers to ring when youre feeling bad. A favourite teddy. Some paper and pens, chocolate, you get the idea! When youre feeling bad get this out, have a good cry, write down why you want to commit suicide, and why you want to stay alive. Whatever takes you at that moment.
3) Consider, are you seriously wanting to commit suicide. For years I considered it as an option, as a type of thing that I could do, but the negatives always outweighed the positives. Then something changed and it was only from that point on that suicide became a proper option. Which stage are you at? If youre at the second point, get yourself down to the docs, asap. It may be scary, it may be horrible, but you are important enough that you deserve to live,and so should give yourself a chance.
One of the best things I ended up doing, was getting a pact with someone. They got me to agree that before I tried anything again I would get professional help. It sounds stupid, but when the thoughts have come back, I have always found it a comfort knowing I cant do it until Ive gone for help.
Reply 7
technik
apply logic to your thinking. the world is clear.
...Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) via your GP or privately might help with this.
On the encouraging side - at least you do recognise that these thoughts are irrational.
Reply 8
I don't know how to stop you from thinking them, but find some solace in this -
3 years and 1 week ago I attempted suicide. I honestly thought at the time that there was nothing left worth living for. And yet since then, I've gained a place at Uni, I've met some people who I can't imagine my life without, I've had a long-term relationship, I've fallen in love more than, and I've met some pretty incredible people. If I'd succeeded in suicide back then, I never would have had the last 3 years and I never would have felt the most amazing feelings I've ever had. And ok, this sounds stupid, but every time I have a great day, or I feel truly happy with the world (and it happens more and more these days) I thank god that my mother came in to check on me that evening, even if I didn't talk to her for weeks for making me go to hospital.
And the same is true for you. I know that the family problems, relationship problems, everything like that, seems like it's not going to be clear at all, and I'm not saying that life is easy, it never will be. But if you did kill yourself now, there is so much that you don't yet know about that will happen to you. There's 20 people out there who you're yet to meet who will have a profound effect on your life, who you will have a profound effect upon. You just don't know it yet. And as stupid as it sounds, you've got to have some kind of faith that it'll happen, because as much as you think you can see everything, you can't, and the day will come when you thank god that you didn't do it, because if you did you'd be missing out on this amazing experience.
Everyone above, however, is right, letting it occupy your mind it's going to manifest itself and try and get to you. You can't let it win, and seeking help would be good. Just talk to someone, anyone who can help you. You're worth wayy more than this :]
Oh, and PS. feel free to PM me if you like
3 years and 1 week ago I attempted suicide. I honestly thought at the time that there was nothing left worth living for. And yet since then, I've gained a place at Uni, I've met some people who I can't imagine my life without, I've had a long-term relationship, I've fallen in love more than, and I've met some pretty incredible people. If I'd succeeded in suicide back then, I never would have had the last 3 years and I never would have felt the most amazing feelings I've ever had. And ok, this sounds stupid, but every time I have a great day, or I feel truly happy with the world (and it happens more and more these days) I thank god that my mother came in to check on me that evening, even if I didn't talk to her for weeks for making me go to hospital.
And the same is true for you. I know that the family problems, relationship problems, everything like that, seems like it's not going to be clear at all, and I'm not saying that life is easy, it never will be. But if you did kill yourself now, there is so much that you don't yet know about that will happen to you. There's 20 people out there who you're yet to meet who will have a profound effect on your life, who you will have a profound effect upon. You just don't know it yet. And as stupid as it sounds, you've got to have some kind of faith that it'll happen, because as much as you think you can see everything, you can't, and the day will come when you thank god that you didn't do it, because if you did you'd be missing out on this amazing experience.
Everyone above, however, is right, letting it occupy your mind it's going to manifest itself and try and get to you. You can't let it win, and seeking help would be good. Just talk to someone, anyone who can help you. You're worth wayy more than this :]
Oh, and PS. feel free to PM me if you like
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