Poll Should i be ashamed of being desperate for love

OP

Not really but someone dislikes me because i made a thread and that me being desperate is bad. I knoow it would appear offputting when you meet someone but im talking about would all girls be your friend even if you are desperate for love and i dont Mean for love with that friend. Ive been given the impression that i should feel ashamed for being lonely and desperate for love and in that case i dont deserve a good person in my life.

I really hope other people do like me as a friend regardless of my lonliness.

Reply 3

Spleh

No there's no shame in it. If we're honest I think most people wanna be loved and are desperate for it.

Btw, watch your typing - you keep typing a comma as opposed to an "M" :smile:

Reply 4

Mr_Velcro

5

Everyone needs someone to love and someone to care about them. :s

It's not the same as the people who go 'omgz i don't have a bf/gf so it's suicide time my life is coming to an end'. they are pathetic. But you do need a bit of love in your life. A life without friends or family would be terrible. :frown:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

we love you man.
Loads of people are in your position.
Like ME.

I would kill for some love.
SO, i recommend that you...wait. I should post this anonymous.
Ok, go into a strip club. Where your gona find plenty of fine ladies, and despite what they do for a living, many of them real fine, polite ladies.
The great thing, many of them are confortable with their bodies and you can talk freely. In a way, it's the closest you'll get to "love". I mean with no sex.

And in some places you can take the woman out, like a bar fine.
Take her out, and she's yours for the night (no sex, that cost extra)
And you can take her to the movies, dinner. Its like a date.
And depending if you pick the right one, its like love for the night.
IN a way, its like going on a date. Skipping a chapter with normal ladies.
And if your lucky, you might even find love.
Look at Anna Nicol Smith and her 102 year old dead husban.

(sorry about spelling and poor gramma)

Reply 6

OP

Spleh

No there's no shame in it. If we're honest I think most people wanna be loved and are desperate for it.

Btw, watch your typing - you keep typing a comma as opposed to an "M" :smile:

Thanks for the reply and thanks everyone else. I know im in france to give my girly friend a chance but this keyboard is totally different even the nice french lady told me it is difficult on the keyboard here/ see wheres my full stop :smile:

I feel a bit more happier now. ive been walking around all day in a beutifull city with a sad look on my face with brief happy parts when i just forgot about everything to stare at the mountains.

Reply 7

9

being desperate is a bad thing, clingy and needy isnt what i look for in a guy. if i was your friend i would tell you to stop looking for a partner untill you realise that you can be happy without one.

Reply 8

OP

Mr_Velcro

Everyone needs someone to love and someone to care about them. :s

It's not the same as the people who go 'omgz i don't have a bf/gf so it's suicide time my life is coming to an end'. they are pathetic. But you do need a bit of love in your life. A life without friends or family would be terrible. :frown:

I know i have already lost my dad. My best friend did manage to find this out and decided to contact me after years but he hasnt been round since.

Reply 9

16

#4.

Reply 10

OP

high priestess fnord

being desperate is a bad thing, clingy and needy isnt what i look for in a guy. if i was your friend i would tell you to stop looking for a partner untill you realise that you can be happy without one.

I dont mean in the dating world but in the friend world. like say i became non desperate would i have to hide my past of being desperate sort of thing. like being ashamed of something.

Reply 11

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high priestess fnord

being desperate is a bad thing, clingy and needy isnt what i look for in a guy. if i was your friend i would tell you to stop looking for a partner untill you realise that you can be happy without one.

What if he can't? Being alive and alone for around two decades is enough to make anyone unhappy. The only people who seem to complain about relationships not being everything they're cracked up to be are those people who've been in them and currently aren't. And not even all of those. Pretty much everyone in a relationship, and everyone who's never had one, thinks their life would be worse without one. Including myself.

Edit: and this applies for friendships too.

Reply 12

matt@internet

12

What the **** is that anon #1?

Reply 13

9

generalebriety

What if he can't? Being alive and alone for around two decades is enough to make anyone unhappy. The only people who seem to complain about relationships not being everything they're cracked up to be are those people who've been in them and currently aren't. And not even all of those. Pretty much everyone in a relationship, and everyone who's never had one, thinks their life would be worse without one. Including myself.

Edit: and this applies for friendships too.

there are so many people who either get into terrible relationships or stay in bad relationships when they shouldnt because they feel incomplete without a bf/gf. you need to be happy in yourself before you get into something serious otherwise you leave yourself very very vulnerable.

of course everyone in a relationship thinks that they are better off in one, if they didnt then they would be single.

Reply 14

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high priestess fnord

there are so many people who either get into terrible relationships or stay in bad relationships when they shouldnt because they feel incomplete without a bf/gf. you need to be happy in yourself before you get into something serious otherwise you leave yourself very very vulnerable.

of course everyone in a relationship thinks that they are better off in one, if they didnt then they would be single.

Exactly. And there's plenty of people in relationships of some sort, hence the growing birth rate. You say "so many people", but don't actually quantify that; even 0.01% of the world is a huge number of people, but unless you gave me some figure way over 50% I'm not sure I'd agree with your point. Sometimes, you just can't live how you want on your own. Some people are built to be able to cope alone; others aren't.

Reply 15

9

well im not exactly going to go round quizzing people am i?

if you live in the real world you will have seen it for yourself, there is even a soc against it on this very forum.

Reply 16

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high priestess fnord

well im not exactly going to go round quizzing people am i?

if you live in the real world you will have seen it for yourself, there is even a soc against it on this very forum.

Seen what? All I see is that I'm not happy on my own. Whether I would be happier "in love" I don't know, but I'm pretty desperate to give it a try. The OP is probably the same.

Reply 17

9

generalebriety

Seen what?

seen desperate people get into bad relationships because they feel that they have to have a partner.

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