Falling for guys that are bad for you

I don't know how many other girls find this, but I always seem to fall for rubbish guys. I can go on a date with a nice guy, who respects me and thinks im interesting and who likes me, but I can't feel anything for him. I then go out get drunk and end up in bed with someone who doesn't respect me, or think I'm interesting and end up really wanting to spend more time with him. Does anyone else have this problem? I sometimes just feel so helpless, like .... I don't know, like the idiot I am.

Reply 1

Tag

8

tricky. sucks huh. i think people in general go for those who are bad for them. it's a crazy thing.

Reply 2

fabulous_darling

15

I think lots of people have a similar problem, I know I do. Bad boys are like delicious chocolate cake, we really want them but know that we shouldn't.

You'll find the right guy eventually :smile:

Reply 3

Leigh

15

No matter how hard we try, nice guys will never understand quite what we do wrong!

Reply 4

high priestess fnord

9

and its women like you who spawn the stereotype

grow up

Reply 5

Purple-Sparkle

I've been in the situation before...its terrible. My ex was a bum (jobless), had nothing, called me names, was immature, didn't respect me, the list goes on. Finally managed to cheat on me with this girl so I ended it. I was hurt for months and wouldn't let any guy get too close. Another few I've dated have been rubbish too :frown:

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Luckily I have found a nice guy now who really loves me. He treats me well, buys me presents, tells me he loves me all the time (really does), takes me out and pays for loads of things, works, drives, looks after me, etc. The only bad thing is he has had bad experiences with girls in the past which has sorter made him paranoid. They have used him due to his kind nature and his last 2 exs ended up cheating on him. So not just guys can be bad. Girls can be bad for guys too.

Reply 6

IzzyWizzy

10

I don't get it. I don't fall for bad guys. I might find them sexy but why would you want to date some loser who didn't respect you, called you names and made you feel bad? I want a partner who is supportive, loving etc and that's the kind of person I date. It might not be as 'exciting' but I don't need that kind of excitement, life is stressful enough as it is.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

I used to be the same. I liked this one guy for ages and he was a typical bad boy and of course I had to be the good girl, like in all those films :p:

I never did get to be with him and it it did hurt but after a while, I realised there wasn't anything desirable about him. I suppose at the time though He just seemed so exciting and because he was completely the opposite to me I guess I just wanted something different and to try new things.
The point of this story was that you'll probably grow out of it and realise nice guys need much more credit than they get. :biggrin:

Reply 8

Scarlett_Jewel

1

I don't know, in my experience, I've always been attracted to bad boys when my confidence is superbly low; when I feel like sh*t and feel i should be treated accordingly. It's a bit of a vicious cycle as they then make you feel worse which throws you into the arms of another bad boy.

So yeah, get some self confidence (or fake it :biggrin:

) and when you're next out with a guy obviously make sure you're attracted to him, but the next question is, "will he make me happy?" Doesn't have to be in the wedding bells sense, but if you think he'll mess you around then just have the strength to walk then and there because everyone's worth more than that.

I rapidly run out of sympathy for girls who continually let themselves get hurt by ar*eholes. It's like feminism never happened. You've got a choice!

Reply 9

Rhythm

2

high priestess fnord

and its women like you who spawn the stereotype

grow up

Possibly the most hypocritical post in existence. How the hell are you supposed to control who you're attracted to? At least she's honest.

Reply 10

high priestess fnord

9

that doesnt mean she cant control who she sleeps with ffs

why degrade yourself by sleeping with someone you know doesnt respect you? like scarlet said, she has a choice.

Reply 11

dita_parlo

11

It's because some women like trying to "fix" the bad boy. They feel that the guy has been bad all his life, and has just been waiting for a good girl like her to come into his life and change him. It's classic fixer upper behaviour.

Reply 12

Anonymous #3

Girl please! Ok you don't feel attracted to those who are good guys.. so You get drunk and sleep with guys you don't know? and who treats you like ****? Control yourself, If you know you do that when you are drunk then don't get drunk! simple.. To like people who are bad for you is a whole nother issue Ok?...

Reply 13

Robbolo

13

I know i have friends that seem to end up with people that generally, arnt worth it. I guess girls just think nice guys will be boring and expect bad guys to be more fun. Who can ever decode the female mind eh? :redface:

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