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I don't know if anyone can help but, here it goes. I am currently really lonely, I don't have a boyfirend. I have very low confidence, I am really shy which doesn't help. Sometimes I really want sex, but I am not the kind of person to go out looking for it. So I am not so sure what I am trying to ask but if anybody can help me.
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I don't know if anyone can help but, here it goes. I am currently really lonely, I don't have a boyfirend. I have very low confidence, I am really shy which doesn't help. Sometimes I really want sex, but I am not the kind of person to go out looking for it. So I am not so sure what I am trying to ask but if anybody can help me.
Dont feel bad I am lonely as well and I do not have any real friends as such.
I dont think its a problem at all, I prefer to be on my own most of the time.
Well my life is just focused on college work, and it's making me feel depressed. I never get time to go out, I don't have any real firends eaither. All I do is work for college, and it makes me upset.
I feel the same as you. I am very shy & don't have many good friends.(which i'm sure u do) Never had a boyfriend either. 
Also get very anxious in social situations. Sometimes i'm in tears about being so lonely.
Don't really have any ideas - sorry. But there are lots of people who feel like you. I'm very interested to hear other responses!
Sorry i can't be any help.
Also get very anxious in social situations. Sometimes i'm in tears about being so lonely.Don't really have any ideas - sorry. But there are lots of people who feel like you. I'm very interested to hear other responses!
Sorry i can't be any help.
jason01
Dont feel bad I am lonely as well and I do not have any real friends as such.
I dont think its a problem at all, I prefer to be on my own most of the time.
I dont think its a problem at all, I prefer to be on my own most of the time.
i am the same doesn't really bother me either that much not that hard to make new friends if you go give it a try.
I know the feeling too. Maybe we should start a club?
I have low self-esteem at the moment; I don't know where it came from or when it's going to go away but I just wish it would!
I have some friends that I get on really well with but I get the impression they like other friends more, which doesn't bother me most of the time, as I think it's natural for some people to prefer the company of others, but sometimes I get into horrible black moods and just feel incredibly self-loathing and worthless. Fortunately, these moods don't tend to last very long but they last long enough to reinforce the feelings that are at the back of my mind.
I'm turning eighteen soon and I think maybe things will be different if I made a bit of a concerted effort to go out to nightclubs and pubs and meet new people but I'm self-conscious when it comes to some things -- like dancing (though I understand that not dancing is even more conspicuous) and talking to boys I like the look of (I can't possibly let them know I like them because I'm afraid of them laughing at me or other people thinking it's silly I even thought I had a chance of *talking* to them) -- and I'm not really a big drinker. I really just feel like the most boring person ever (and I probably am) and constantly feel disconnected from most of the people I know. I hope things will change at university but I fear they won't. Unsurprisingly, I'm a virgin due to a number of reasons but not least the lack of "body confidence". Am by no means sexually repressed but, by God, am I sexually frustrated!
During term time, I'm busy with schoolwork so don't really miss not going out with friends in the evenings or on the weekends but it gets awfully lonely during half term. The fact I don't go out with the people I know during the term means they don't think to ask me at any other times, which is completely my fault. I don't go out with them because most of them are already eighteen and I don't look old enough, or have the confidence to act old enough, to get into nightclubs yet.
Sorry for rambling so much but you're most definitely not alone.
I have low self-esteem at the moment; I don't know where it came from or when it's going to go away but I just wish it would!
I have some friends that I get on really well with but I get the impression they like other friends more, which doesn't bother me most of the time, as I think it's natural for some people to prefer the company of others, but sometimes I get into horrible black moods and just feel incredibly self-loathing and worthless. Fortunately, these moods don't tend to last very long but they last long enough to reinforce the feelings that are at the back of my mind.
I'm turning eighteen soon and I think maybe things will be different if I made a bit of a concerted effort to go out to nightclubs and pubs and meet new people but I'm self-conscious when it comes to some things -- like dancing (though I understand that not dancing is even more conspicuous) and talking to boys I like the look of (I can't possibly let them know I like them because I'm afraid of them laughing at me or other people thinking it's silly I even thought I had a chance of *talking* to them) -- and I'm not really a big drinker. I really just feel like the most boring person ever (and I probably am) and constantly feel disconnected from most of the people I know. I hope things will change at university but I fear they won't. Unsurprisingly, I'm a virgin due to a number of reasons but not least the lack of "body confidence". Am by no means sexually repressed but, by God, am I sexually frustrated!
During term time, I'm busy with schoolwork so don't really miss not going out with friends in the evenings or on the weekends but it gets awfully lonely during half term. The fact I don't go out with the people I know during the term means they don't think to ask me at any other times, which is completely my fault. I don't go out with them because most of them are already eighteen and I don't look old enough, or have the confidence to act old enough, to get into nightclubs yet.
Sorry for rambling so much but you're most definitely not alone.
jaroxski
Don't go looking. Just make a lot of male friends and focus on education. Love strikes like a lightning when you least expect it. I think.
out of curiosity, why male friends? to help with the fact that she doesnt have a bf?
it could be an interesting point but i'm not sure what u mean by it
and to the OP, i know how you feel. but as jaroxski said, you fall in love when you least expect it.
I know the feeling too. Maybe we should start a club?
I have low self-esteem at the moment; I don't know where it came from or when it's going to go away but I just wish it would!
I have some friends that I get on really well with but I get the impression they like other friends more, which doesn't bother me most of the time, as I think it's natural for some people to prefer the company of others, but sometimes I get into horrible black moods and just feel incredibly self-loathing and worthless. Fortunately, these moods don't tend to last very long but they last long enough to reinforce the feelings that are at the back of my mind.
I'm turning eighteen soon and I think maybe things will be different if I made a bit of a concerted effort to go out to nightclubs and pubs and meet new people but I'm self-conscious when it comes to some things -- like dancing (though I understand that not dancing is even more conspicuous) and talking to boys I like the look of (I can't possibly let them know I like them because I'm afraid of them laughing at me or other people thinking it's silly I even thought I had a chance of *talking* to them) -- and I'm not really a big drinker. I really just feel like the most boring person ever (and I probably am) and constantly feel disconnected from most of the people I know. I hope things will change at university but I fear they won't. Unsurprisingly, I'm a virgin due to a number of reasons but not least the lack of "body confidence". Am by no means sexually repressed but, by God, am I sexually frustrated!
During term time, I'm busy with schoolwork so don't really miss not going out with friends in the evenings or on the weekends but it gets awfully lonely during half term. The fact I don't go out with the people I know during the term means they don't think to ask me at any other times, which is completely my fault. I don't go out with them because most of them are already eighteen and I don't look old enough, or have the confidence to act old enough, to get into nightclubs yet.
Sorry for rambling so much but you're most definitely not alone.
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I have low self-esteem at the moment; I don't know where it came from or when it's going to go away but I just wish it would!
I have some friends that I get on really well with but I get the impression they like other friends more, which doesn't bother me most of the time, as I think it's natural for some people to prefer the company of others, but sometimes I get into horrible black moods and just feel incredibly self-loathing and worthless. Fortunately, these moods don't tend to last very long but they last long enough to reinforce the feelings that are at the back of my mind.
I'm turning eighteen soon and I think maybe things will be different if I made a bit of a concerted effort to go out to nightclubs and pubs and meet new people but I'm self-conscious when it comes to some things -- like dancing (though I understand that not dancing is even more conspicuous) and talking to boys I like the look of (I can't possibly let them know I like them because I'm afraid of them laughing at me or other people thinking it's silly I even thought I had a chance of *talking* to them) -- and I'm not really a big drinker. I really just feel like the most boring person ever (and I probably am) and constantly feel disconnected from most of the people I know. I hope things will change at university but I fear they won't. Unsurprisingly, I'm a virgin due to a number of reasons but not least the lack of "body confidence". Am by no means sexually repressed but, by God, am I sexually frustrated!
During term time, I'm busy with schoolwork so don't really miss not going out with friends in the evenings or on the weekends but it gets awfully lonely during half term. The fact I don't go out with the people I know during the term means they don't think to ask me at any other times, which is completely my fault. I don't go out with them because most of them are already eighteen and I don't look old enough, or have the confidence to act old enough, to get into nightclubs yet.
Sorry for rambling so much but you're most definitely not alone.
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Exactly the same here
I know exactly how you feel, OP. But I think that's just the way it goes sometimes. And it can be worse if you go out to "make friends" or look for a boyfriend.
Boyfriends and good friends aren't something you can find. Chances are you find them when and where you least expect it.
Take my best friend. I joined Guides as a quiet, shy 13 year old. She was incredibly confident and had leadership qualities (ie. bossiness! *sorry" :P) and I was sure I'd grow to hate her. But we became best friends somehow!
As for boyfriends I can't speak as I've never had one (!). But I'm sure looking for one wouldn't do me much good!
You can PM me if you want to talk (Y)
Know exactly how you are feeling. I have different sets of friends: those I go to the football with, those I have a quiet night in with and others who I just go out and get drunk with. Although I do have two best friends, I don't really feel connected because I suffer from depression and borderlin epersonality disorder - I constantly tell myself, and believe that I am not good enought for them and they prefer their other friends.
I stay at home, I'll watch tv, go online and I'll do naything but college work, it's getting quite bad at the moment. As for boyfriends, well - I've not been in a relationship since I was 16 and now I'm 21 - and even when I was in those relationships, I never went around parading the fact, in truth - I don't think I even enjoyed it. Now I have convinced myself that I don;t want a relationship, a few people have asked me out but I have said no - not the right people and I'm not in the riht frame of mind.
My advice is just to let things happen, I mean concentrate on your college work and ensure that you get to university. It will make you feel so much better if you manage to get there, you will be 18 and life will quite literally just open up for you.
Enjoy life when it happens, and take my advice of enjoying your last few months as a child, as believe me it goes all to fast when you're past 18 - and in about 6 months times you will be wishing you had stayed in, instead of digging into the overdraft.
Keep the chin up, you've still got everything to look forward to.
I stay at home, I'll watch tv, go online and I'll do naything but college work, it's getting quite bad at the moment. As for boyfriends, well - I've not been in a relationship since I was 16 and now I'm 21 - and even when I was in those relationships, I never went around parading the fact, in truth - I don't think I even enjoyed it. Now I have convinced myself that I don;t want a relationship, a few people have asked me out but I have said no - not the right people and I'm not in the riht frame of mind.
My advice is just to let things happen, I mean concentrate on your college work and ensure that you get to university. It will make you feel so much better if you manage to get there, you will be 18 and life will quite literally just open up for you.
Enjoy life when it happens, and take my advice of enjoying your last few months as a child, as believe me it goes all to fast when you're past 18 - and in about 6 months times you will be wishing you had stayed in, instead of digging into the overdraft.
Keep the chin up, you've still got everything to look forward to.
Anonymous
I don't know if anyone can help but, here it goes. I am currently really lonely, I don't have a boyfirend. I have very low confidence, I am really shy which doesn't help. Sometimes I really want sex, but I am not the kind of person to go out looking for it. So I am not so sure what I am trying to ask but if anybody can help me.
Aww.. I'd say I'm quite similar.. I'm not "lonely" as such, but I'd definately love some companionship... and have like NO confidence in my appearance or personality! Not totally shy, but often my self-consciousness inhibits my "real" personality. There's plenty similar to us.. just dont worry too much about it!..If you ever want to chat just hit the PM
Am sure you'll find the "one" where you least expect it. maybe even here
lol
Anonymous
out of curiosity, why male friends? to help with the fact that she doesnt have a bf?
it could be an interesting point but i'm not sure what u mean by it
and to the OP, i know how you feel. but as jaroxski said, you fall in love when you least expect it.
it could be an interesting point but i'm not sure what u mean by it
and to the OP, i know how you feel. but as jaroxski said, you fall in love when you least expect it.
if you have a mixed group or friends you are a) more likely to fall in love with one of them and b) wont be so shy of the opposit sex and will maybe understand them a little better
im guesing thats why male friends were suggested
hmm like grace said, get a nice bunny
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