Am I a total mug?

Today, me and my bf went for a drink which I paid for. Then when I was leaving and he was walking me home a bit he asked me to loan him a tenner. I said I couldn't and he said ok but then I said "will you be home tomorrow when I come down" and I got "I dunno!"

Because I had a drink in me I said "here have the tenner you're obviously in a mood about it" and he said no but I put it in his pocket and he finally said ok he would give me back £20 (he already owes me a tenner) this weekend as his aunt is coming to visit and he says he will end up with money from her.
However, this is the first I remember hearing about his aunt visiting even though he says he told me :confused:

Then I phoned him when I got home to tell him I got home ok and I asked what he bought to drink (that's what the money was for) and all he could say was "the usual".

So honestly, am I being taken for a total fool? I know my bf loves me, he's proved it. But the money thing really bothers me and I'm someone who doesn't like lending things out to anyone so thinking back that I done that just because he acted in a mood makes me worry.

Reply 1

shewantstobeme

If you don't like lending out money, talk to your boyfriend about it. He should be understanding, and realise that it makes you feel how it does.
If you're worried about an issue of trust, based on hearing about his aunt coming, and what he's up to when he buys 'the usual', just ask him about it at a later date. You could always say 'oh did you have fun when you went out the other night?' and stuff :smile:

He's your boyfriend, and he should care about any issues you have. If he can't handle the conversation, tell him that you're not going to lend him any money again, and be firm with it.

edit: and don't worry, you're not a total mug! everyone has little arguments and personal worries. i'm not too keen on lending people lots of money (then it depends what it's for...).

Reply 2

xatm092

Well if he won't tell you what he's spending the money on, something might be up. Try to talk to him about it and show that you will be accepting about whatever he says.

Having said that, if he's like most guys, he won't tell you anything still. But that's normal, I'm afraid, we like to keep to ourselves.

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