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What next? Where do i go from here?
Well, ill try to keep this short..
It all started a year ago i suppose, a relative of my step-dads claimed he liked me, would like to have a relationship with me, and i have liked him for along time.. 5 years or so, it used to be a stupid girly crush, i was young then.
Anyway, after the family realised we were serious, and we did want to be together, they put a stance to it, said no, it wont happen, end of..
A month or so later, we moved closer to the step families area so i was seeing him alot. And i still liked him alot.. but i knew it was more than a crush, i really had feelings for him. We saw each other a few times, behind everyones back, his friend was helping us to do that. Wrong yes, and after a few weeks i felt terrible for lying, so i put a stop to it.
Eventually, me and his friend got together, i think now maybe i was on the rebound, he was nice to me and i was unhappy. That lasted about 4 months.
Since Christmas, me and my step dads relative have gone really close again, and i have been sleeping with him. Once again, i know its wrong.. but ive fallen in love with him.
We are seeing each other at each opportunity,.. and no, it is not just a sex thing, its not like we get it on everytime i see him.. because we dont.
Thing is, ive fallen for him so bad, and i know the family would never allow it.. so what next? How long can we continue this for? I cant end it again, i could have lost him once and i am not prepared to do that again - for anything, but eventually i know he will find someone he CAN be with and he will be happy.. i dread that day.
He says he wont, but thats reality isnt it?
So what do i do? Any advice would be good, but please dont judge me, tell me im doing a terrible thing, say end it, thats not what i want to hear..
I just need to listen to good advice from strangers i suppose, hear what they would do.
Sorry, kind of didnt keep it short
Thanks in advance
x
It all started a year ago i suppose, a relative of my step-dads claimed he liked me, would like to have a relationship with me, and i have liked him for along time.. 5 years or so, it used to be a stupid girly crush, i was young then.
Anyway, after the family realised we were serious, and we did want to be together, they put a stance to it, said no, it wont happen, end of..
A month or so later, we moved closer to the step families area so i was seeing him alot. And i still liked him alot.. but i knew it was more than a crush, i really had feelings for him. We saw each other a few times, behind everyones back, his friend was helping us to do that. Wrong yes, and after a few weeks i felt terrible for lying, so i put a stop to it.
Eventually, me and his friend got together, i think now maybe i was on the rebound, he was nice to me and i was unhappy. That lasted about 4 months.
Since Christmas, me and my step dads relative have gone really close again, and i have been sleeping with him. Once again, i know its wrong.. but ive fallen in love with him.
We are seeing each other at each opportunity,.. and no, it is not just a sex thing, its not like we get it on everytime i see him.. because we dont.
Thing is, ive fallen for him so bad, and i know the family would never allow it.. so what next? How long can we continue this for? I cant end it again, i could have lost him once and i am not prepared to do that again - for anything, but eventually i know he will find someone he CAN be with and he will be happy.. i dread that day.
He says he wont, but thats reality isnt it?
So what do i do? Any advice would be good, but please dont judge me, tell me im doing a terrible thing, say end it, thats not what i want to hear..
I just need to listen to good advice from strangers i suppose, hear what they would do.
Sorry, kind of didnt keep it short
Thanks in advance
x
Reply 2
bunthulhu
How old are you? That could be quite an important factor here.
17, nearly 18
Reply 4
L0RA
Yeah how old are both you and the guy you're seeing. Is the age difference the reason your family are unhappy about the relationship?
No, its not the age, my last boyfriend was 25 and my family were fine with that!
Hes 24, its not the age, its because my step dad thinks its wrong, because he is related to him.. but me and him are not related!
Oh right, i kinda understand the problem then.
But i dont really have a solution. Have you tried explaining your feelings for this guy in a mature way without having an argument?
Is there any way you think your mum and stepdad might change their mind?
Its really not a good idea to go behind their backs in a situation like this because they're more than likely going to find out
But i dont really have a solution. Have you tried explaining your feelings for this guy in a mature way without having an argument?
Is there any way you think your mum and stepdad might change their mind?
Its really not a good idea to go behind their backs in a situation like this because they're more than likely going to find out
Reply 6
L0RA
Oh right, i kinda understand the problem then.
But i dont really have a solution. Have you tried explaining your feelings for this guy in a mature way without having an argument?
Is there any way you think your mum and stepdad might change their mind?
Its really not a good idea to go behind their backs in a situation like this because they're more than likely going to find out
But i dont really have a solution. Have you tried explaining your feelings for this guy in a mature way without having an argument?
Is there any way you think your mum and stepdad might change their mind?
Its really not a good idea to go behind their backs in a situation like this because they're more than likely going to find out
He knows how i feel, and the way he has been with me lately, i think hes getting closer to me too, which im happy about.. even though it will be harder to let go eventually.
No chance on earth they will change their mind, its more my step dad though, mum was willing to support it in the beginning but she got so much grield off my step dad she had to back him.
I hate going behind their backs, i know its wrong.
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