Hurting Badly

I met a girl in uni 2 years ago things turned weird between us and we flirted a lot and there was a lot of tension between us. On my part it was because i had developed feelings for her and i was sure she felt the same.A lot of the things she said to me and the way she acted wasnt a normal friendship type of way.Anyway in September i admitted my feelings to her and she said they werent returned.I was angry because i very much felt she led me on.I decided to end our friendship because i didnt think it was working.She took it very very badly and cried and stormed about/trashed me to a lot of our mutual friends and was very very upset at as she said "losing her best friend".I havent spoken to her since despite her being in my uni class.Every day for the past 4/5 months she has come into uni virtually in tears and looking at me.Today was terrible,she sat in tears in class for 2 hours looking at me and she generally looked gutted.After class she started shouting about some guy she fancies and how she was going to meet him,at the same time she seemed to make sure i heard. Im totally lost,ive got really really strong feelings for her and it tears me up inside to see her sit crying.I find it difficult to believe that a girl would be so upset over losing a friend?,is that possible?.It seems as though by the crying and terrible hurt she has went through by me breaking our friendship she does have feelings for me but i just dont know. Whats the best course of action because im hurting badly.

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TheConfuddledOne

If you want a friendship as a bare minimum again, you have a lot of apologising to do. Obviously the friendship was working, you just read into way too much and over reacted when she didnt return the feelings. She definitely liked you so much as a friend, you obviously meant a lot to her as her best friend. She feels that she lost her best friend by telling the truth that she didnt like you. Now, i really don't know what you are going to do but it seems she is really upset about it. Do you want to at least be friends with her again?